A couple's age difference
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I havn't voted yet,,but the lady I'm seeing now is a knock out
If I was 20 and dating her,I'd be in jail
I'd say as long as your at least 30 years old ,it's ok to have a 10-12 year diff in the age
As it stands now,I'm an old cranky fucker and there is an 11 year age diff between us that dosn't even come into play
If I was 20 and dating her,I'd be in jail I'd say as long as your at least 30 years old ,it's ok to have a 10-12 year diff in the age
As it stands now,I'm an old cranky fucker and there is an 11 year age diff between us that dosn't even come into play
If we're talking LTR, age doesn't matter as much as maturity. However, there are generation gap issues to keep in mind. If she's much younger than me, she could be into techno or rap which I have little appreciation for, or if she's more active and high-energy than I.
This question is highly subjective (naturally) and my take is from my own selfish POV. Relatively speaking, the percentage of a two year difference in age is greater at twenty than at fifty, and so is its effect on the relationship. I believe that a narrow spread in ages early in life is important, when the partners have not experienced much of life, and the social stigmas of a wide spread create unnecessary pressures that can be hard to overcome. In middle age on the other hand, a wider spread is easier to deal with as the life experience of an older gentleman can yield positive benefits for his younger mate, in terms of financial stability, wisdom of the years, and a wealth of varied knowledge gathered.
When I was eighteen, I once dated a 20-year old woman. At that age, I could sense the age difference in her (don't ask me how), but it was there. I eventually met my first wife at 22 (she was 17), and we married when I turned 30. That age spread was just about right at age 30. As I approached my 50th year, I felt that she had overtaken and passed me on the maturity scale. Plain and simple, she turned into an old bag even though she was still 5 years younger than me. We split up!
My new partner of five years is 16 years younger than I am, and her maturity level is just about where it should be. Alas though, I fear that even she may overtake me eventually. She is now 40, but I can see the signs, and hope that my lack of tolerance for aging bitches subsides, otherwise I may be on the market in the not-too-distant offing.
When I was eighteen, I once dated a 20-year old woman. At that age, I could sense the age difference in her (don't ask me how), but it was there. I eventually met my first wife at 22 (she was 17), and we married when I turned 30. That age spread was just about right at age 30. As I approached my 50th year, I felt that she had overtaken and passed me on the maturity scale. Plain and simple, she turned into an old bag even though she was still 5 years younger than me. We split up!
My new partner of five years is 16 years younger than I am, and her maturity level is just about where it should be. Alas though, I fear that even she may overtake me eventually. She is now 40, but I can see the signs, and hope that my lack of tolerance for aging bitches subsides, otherwise I may be on the market in the not-too-distant offing.
but, Methos, as long as both went into the relationship with eyes wide open, and both got what they want out of it, what does it matter if it wasn't "true" love?Methos said:
Hey Maury,I have the same out look as you do. I've just reached half century,but so far the girls I went out with are 15 to 20 years younger than I do! The most important things for us guys is to keep our heart young! Remember the phrase "Dirty Old man"!
And I'm as dirty & filthy as they get. My rule is, when I wake up at three in the morning and roll her over, she'd better submit. If she bitches and turns me down, it's time to cut my losses, and cut her loose...Lurker 123 said:Hey Maury,I have the same out look as you do. I've just reached half century,but so far the girls I went out with are 15 to 20 years younger than I do! The most important things for us guys is to keep our heart young! Remember the phrase "Dirty Old man"!
Bardude; I think a lot of Asians like to go by that. Personally, I don't think it matters so long as you can "connect" on more than one level.Bartdude said:
Hells bells.....for that kind of scratch I could have had affection for the old coot......if the money was right I could probably even stomach giving his withered old frame a sponge bathMethos said:
(I feel so dirty now)interesting comments, keep 'em coming folks
p.s. and Anna, no there isn't anyone in mind just interested
I agree!ShyMike said:
My parents age gap were even bigger. They were 40 years apart.(no joke!) When I was borned ,my dad was 75!
Interesting to see both my parents were happily married too! ( side note:my dad was borned in 1881!)What if you're seven years old?Bartdude said:
I don't think that it should matter. But I'm ashamed to admit that, even though I'm getting older, the girls that I'm interested in and am attracted to still remain about the same age. So, in my case, maybe it does make a difference, as I'd prefer to find someone closer to my age bracket, within 5-6 years, I guess.
