A Cautionary Tale

[Marius]

By no means would I ever look to preach to the community here, but I had a STI scare for the first time in my life after meandering through this hobby a few months back and thought I should provide a reminder about playing safe. Free and clear after testing (& waiting and waiting for results), and learning a lot about casual encounters in the process. To whit: a couple of infections, one very prevalent in SK & MB can be transmitted orally via BBBJ (which I always enjoyed and looked for in a provider). Another fun fact is that there is a very drug-resistant version of this STI (not sure what will get me sanctioned here on PERB, by way of explaining the vagueness) working it's way through North America, should one believe the internet and its many, many reports.

In short, I would never discourage anyone away from this hobby, nor disparage the wonderful SPs I've encountered over the last couple or three years. But after almost three weeks of waiting in a personal hell to be clear of anything that would destroy my regular life (and make for one hell of a horrible conversation with someone I care for), I would pass on to all to please play safe.

God knows I will.

:doh:

 

[SexyBoy]

By no means would I ever look to preach to the community here, but I had a STI scare for the first time in my life after meandering through this hobby a few months back and thought I should provide a reminder about playing safe. Free and clear after testing (& waiting and waiting for results), and learning a lot about casual encounters in the process. To whit: a couple of infections, one very prevalent in SK & MB can be transmitted orally via BBBJ (which I always enjoyed and looked for in a provider). Another fun fact is that there is a very drug-resistant version of this STI (not sure what will get me sanctioned here on PERB, by way of explaining the vagueness) working it`s way through North America, should one believe the internet and its many, many reports.

In short, I would never discourage anyone away from this hobby, nor disparage the wonderful SPs I`ve encountered over the last couple or three years. But after almost three weeks of waiting in a personal hell to be clear of anything that would destroy my regular life (and make for one hell of a horrible conversation with someone I care for), I would pass on to all to please play safe.

God knows I will.

:doh:

It is best to leave health matters to the health nurse forum which is run by actual nurses. For more info here is the link. There are also rules that need to be followed for this forum.

Sorry if I sound rude I am glad you are contributing.

https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?58253-BBBJ-and-the-Risks

 

[Marius]

Figured that. Just thought I would share the personal experience I had, outside of the professional. Not sounding rude. I thought I sounded rude saying it. Just wouldn't wish the hell of uncertainty I experienced on anyone. Have fun, play safe.

 

[Badger133]

Thanks Marius, we all need to be reminded of this.

 

[SexyBoy]

Without getting into it as the correct info is on the health nurse forum...........

There is a reason why SP's provide BBBJ and while it may not be 100% safe it is curable last time I checked there.

The women that I know that have been doing it haven't contacted anything. I am talking about the women I personally know.

Without a doubt knowledge is power.

After all you wouldn't go to your accountant to fix your car would you?

 

[Pillowtalk]

It is best to leave health matters to the health nurse forum which is run by actual nurses. For more info here is the link. There are also rules that need to be followed for this forum.

Sorry if I sound rude I am glad you are contributing.

https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?58253-BBBJ-and-the-Risks

I thought you might like to have your own words quoted back to you after your previous post there. You `know" these sps you know have never had anything? Really? You do the testing (throat swabs) all by yourself?

Anyway, the point is, you cannot know, and you cannot speak for those sps at all, nor can you possibly assure the OP or anyone else for that matter about safe or not safe. Considering the OP is talking about getting something via bbbj, I think that it is best to accept his comments and not try to dismiss them. Latest thing I read is how easily something as simple as a yeast infection can be passed via bjs from penis to throat.

Who cares how easily something can be cleared up with meds, typical treatments for anything is at least 7 days. Unless sp and clients taking treatment are also taking 7 days off, then it is pointless talking about that like it is the solution.

 

[stanley manley]

It is best to leave health matters to the health nurse forum which is run by actual nurses.

No, you're wrong.

Marius is not dispensing medical advice nor is he advocating anything questionable. He's merely recounting his experiences, and reminding us that there are risks to the activities that we participate in, even though they may be somewhat low. He's advocating for us to make wise choices, to avoid the stress and torment that he went through. I applaud him for that. You don't need to be an RN or an MD to be able to say "Hey guys, listen up, learn from my mistakes". I suspect that most of us don't wander over to the health forum all that often. I visit just the Winnipeg forum, so I appreciate the fact that Marius is reminding us here.

As far as I am aware, you are not married, are you SexyBoy? Nor do you have a long-time significant other. It doesn't matter if it's "only" something that is easily curable. That doesn't explain the situation to your partner nor make her feel any better. Yes, infections like chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphylis are usually cleared up after proper diagnosis and a round of medications, but that's not the point.

I went through an incident last year whereby my spouse kept having recurring vaginal infections. Every month or so the same thing kept on popping up. Discharge, a bit of a smell, and very intense itchiness. She was convinced it was a yeast infection, and the OTC remedies did not help. I was convinced that I had given her an infection called trichomoniasis. I had done some research and this fit all of her symptoms. I had a questionable SP give me a body slide about a month before all of this started, and there was some genital touching (though not insertion). In my mind, I was convinced that my marriage was over. The tests eventually came back and said she had a form of bacterial infection called group B strep (GBS). It is not normally sexually transmitted. I was off the hook, but those 3 or 4 days between testing and the call back from the doctor were very stressful. I have learned my lesson, and am now much more cautious.

 

[undietaker]

very well said stanley, i enjoyed reading up on both your happenings,thanx

 

[Marius]

You hit it on the head, stanley manley. Obviously, the personal effects are something we are willing to deal with. The pain they may cause to those we care about, outside of our hobby, is the impetus of my earlier post (along with those effects on us). Thanks for the understanding. I appreciate it. I didn't want to preach. I just thought this hobby could be enjoyed with less pain and suffering with a little reminder to those that partake.

 

[SexyBoy]

https://perb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?39110-Wecome-to-https://perb.cc-s-Health-Information-forum!

I am just follow the rules

What I meant in my previous post also was out of all the girls that I have seen for years and received bbbj I have never caught anything from them.

How do I know? Regular testing of course.

Experiences can seem like medical advice even my post above might not be following the rules of the forum.

However when I see a post going into more detail about what, how, and why it really starts to become more like medical advice then. I personally don`t want to take someone`s experiences as medical fact. I don`t expect anyone to take my experiences as medical fact either.

Anyways how hard is it to post on the health nurse forum in the form of a question and have the nurse answer? Then share the link if you must to the Winnipeg forum? Is the issue because you > then the health nurse of the forum?

When I have been in a very long term relationship I wasn`t seeing anyone else if you must know about my personal life. I wasn`t posting any reviews on this board for about 3 years while I was in a relationship. I didn`t have the issue of worrying if I gave my partner a STD. I don`t believe in a closed relationship or keeping sexual secrets from my partner. If I was in a extremely open relationship I doubt I would be having any kind of unprotected sex unless we really knew the girl and agreed on it.