25 year old virgin advice!

[the old maxx50]

Heres the 50 yrs old virgin giving advice LOL

Don't wait as long as i did to get laid .. Yep I was saving my self for that one love which never happened until after i started seeing SP , Then i fell for a few of the SPs i saw .. I for me they are the best friends to have ..Because in the end they are the same as any other girl in their every day life ..The owns that i know seldom work and i don;t think of them as SP's . But that is me a guy in his 50's that never had any relationship s before ..

You seem to have more going for you .. maybe lacking on life's experiences , the military life is pretty confining and sheltering when it come to enhancing your social skills. As for your self esteem issues .. if it is your weight . go work out get happy with your self , I know it helped me . I had been working out for a few years just before i saw my first escort .. I think it all help to give me the confidence that i lacked most of my life . Feeling better about your self and getting over past doubts , past bad experiences .ie your ex girl friend .. Just let it go . Unless you want her back, then go after her .But you will have to for give her first .

As for seeing escorts .. I am afraid you will fall for a few , it is the nature of the business .. and you are emotionally venerable

Many of the guys here have fallen for a SP .. so it does happen .. Just remember to always respect her never loss that . No one is better then the other when it come to sex , love or trying to have a relationship .

If think you might find some oirls the girl in Victoria easyer to see ..and get along with. i don't know about Van.

 

[B_Nice]

Thank you guys for all your responses. It is definately something to think about. I am not sure what my values are and I guess that is something I gotta figure out before I seek out s SP. I thought I had my head around certain things, such as values before all everything has happened, however sdomtimes i guess feel like screw it... I just need to screw someone.

I didn't think paying for a hour was like 5 minutes with a SP, is that a common thing? how do SPs feel about virgins? I don't think ill be attached if I do go the SP route, but are SPs that good that it is something to worry about?

If you do go this route be upfront with the fact you are a virgin. I think many SP's would be turned on and honoured you chose them for the occaision. I think you should select a true gfe lady if pleasing her is important to you. They seem to enjoy the experience more. Read reviews and maybe even PM SP's to see if you mesh. You'll always remember this so just take your time and enjoy.

 

[Larry Storch]

Thanks for the advice, I appreciate the honesty! Muscle mass was great, but i really miss running 30 -40 km non stop everyday Some pretty bad ass American special forces guys have also told me they would help me out with some training, they would even pay for a trip to venice beach. Doesn't get more bad ass then getting authentic navy SEAL training from the guys who killed Bin Laden (or at least the guys who were trained by them).

I think this should be your first step. Seriously, if you have guys who have been through what you have and want to help you get back in shape and feel better; you couldn't find someone more suited to help if you tried. You will feel a lot better about yourself when you are back to or close to your previous level of fitness. I've dealt with the opposite end of this, too skinny. It took a while but with the proper diet and exercise I was able to gain the weight needed. If you feel good about yourself physically it will give you a HUGE confidence boost.

I understand the need to have some sort of contact/interaction with women, but you do need to look at this as a hobby or entertainment. Perhaps this may just be something you do a few times to feel confident with your 'abilities' for when you are in a LTR. Nothing wrong with either one of those. Just be reasonable with your activities and don't let it get out of hand.

I've been pooning off and on for about 20 years and it can screw with your confidence and self-esteem if you aren't careful. After a while you begin to feel that the only way you can have a woman pay any attention to you is if you pay her. It becomes harder to approach anyone and sometimes the sexual aspects become the main focus and that only adds to the uncertainty you may feel.

At the end of the day the decision is your of course, just try not to jump into something that you feel will be a quick fix. These women are beautiful, often thoughtful and usually very understanding and can provide you with pleasure and distraction, but they can't help you feel better about yourself. Only you can do that.

 

[Torrential]

Your first time should not be with an SP. Also, your motivation in seeing an SP should not be about rebounding, revenge, or lack of self-worth/self confidence.

Lastly, the world you are about to step into will likely make you feel even more of an outsider when it comes to your own reflections on societal norms and fitting in. We are a community perhaps, but not one of belonging and not one that can offer you what you're looking for at this juncture.

 

[nerdy]

Thanks again everyone!!!! it was surprising how honest and genuine you all are I think I am holding off on the SPs for now and focusin on myself for a bit. However this seems like a awesome community so I will stick around, perhaps even try out a SP when I get more settled in. You guys would be happy to know that having military commendations is a surpisingly awesome way to meet girls.

as far as SPs go I'm thinking Vanesssa, Holly Taylor, redvanessa or Violet Blake may see a email from me in the future *wink wink*

PS. If anyone has any questions about military life or my expereinces in Afghanistan (within what I can say at least), feel free to ask. The doc says talking and reliving the experiences are good.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

PS. If anyone has any questions about military life or my expereinces in Afghanistan (within what I can say at least), feel free to ask. The doc says talking and reliving the experiences are good.

tell me about what the country looks like, and how the people appear to make it from day to day - we'll get into the military stuff in a later post

 

[nerdy]

tell me about what the country looks like, and how the people appear to make it from day to day - we'll get into the military stuff in a later post

Goregeous mountains. untouched lanscape. Kind of like the BC interrior. You could run in to deserts, mountains, or very nice looking grass fields. Very blue waters. The people, are very very accomdating. a lot of tribes there have a lot of honor. They are a people that are very helpful to foreigners. This is the biggest problem with being there though. One day your playing soccer and feeding a kid, the next day his father dies leading to some high tensions.

With that being said, when you first roll in to town, you can really tell how happy the people are we were there. The vast majority of the people, are great people. They are extremely wise, and you get the feeling they want peace more than anyone else involved. Their idea of peace, is just peace and its very refreshing to hear someone not want anything else.

I'll say this again too, They are extremely welcoming. One story I heard from the yanks was, a special forces unit was ambushed, and one man escaped into the mountains and found a tribe to tend to his wounds. This tribe hated the Idea of the western powers sending forces to afghanistan, however they would not say no to a guest, it was their custom to welcome anyone, no matter how hated they were. They defended this soilder to their deaths. This is apparently not un common, but is rarely reported. I thought to myself, if the world was like this, it would be a much better place.

an Iraq Vet from the US rangers once told me, its not our war, but you can't tell me its not worth it to see a whole town smile.

PS: as you can tell I am a bit of an Idealist

 

[vancity_cowboy]

there's nothing wrong with idealism! :thumb:

I guess it's a pretty big country to be making generalizations, but do they have 4 seasons like most of Canada, or is it more like dry and drier?
does the water come from rains, or from melting snow in the high country?
what seemed to be the normal children's educational process?
where do you guess they rank in terms of religion? strict fundamentalists or more moderate?
how many crops can they take off the land each year?
what level of mechanization do they have in agriculture?

ps: as you can tell i am a bit of a nosey bugger