$20,000 lesson

[Tarzen]

Just curious... since you fell for this sp. did she give you bbfs everytime you two have a session.

Like you I fell for a sp. I've given my heart to her. She ask me for stuff I give to her and expect nothing in
return. Many occasioons she ask me to to give her thousands and there is nothing exchanged and there are occasions
when I see her for 45mins I give a big tip to her ($1000 to $3000). Let say I always give monetary value to her
on all occasions like her birthday, trips, valentines day, etc... but I never got anything in return. I always
go see her at work cause I long to be in contact with her like a friend thing and I still pay the regular rate as we
had FS.

Guys clear your mind... I really love and given my heart to this lady... I go see her alot and it's not cheap.
Everytime I just want to be with her. I go 4 times a day and 4-5 times in a week. I'm not a energizer bunny.

I go see her at work alot not expecting a session. Love is blind and the money flows like water to go see... talk...
have a hug and just to be with her.

I start to think alot. I don't think she really love me. I'm seeing alot of red flags.
I give her big payments when she ask me and I still pay
to see her at work everytime. She now wants me to stay longer and pay more to see her everytime at work.

Now the sessions I pay for 45mins or more... Lets just say I only get average 20 mins with her. I get excuse there is booking
to goto when the place gets busy. I leave or sometimes come back later in the day.

Lots of high hope promises but they don't materialize from her. Not once but all the time..
I promise her or say stuff I mean it and I deliver it to her. I've lost faith in her empty promises cause I know it's
just brushing me off.

the points I come across and the ones some of you have highlighted... I'm being stupid to believe there is real love from her.
Especially when you are paying for it... there is not once I didn't have to pay to see her. Like the saying goes
there is no love when you are paying for it. Its never ending and the cash will eventually be drained dry and you will be
on your own.

I'm not being cheap guys... but seriously... I'm spending hundreds buying stuff for you and if I come see you for 2hrs... you still
charge me for two session rates or more.

I'm stupid... I really am cause I given my heart to someone I should be protective of my heart and not give it to her knowing
she will not care or take it seriously.

It's money money to her everytime... like the golden goose that lays a golden egg... kill me.

 

[Tarzen]

To be clear... I don't play that game to get free sessions... Like seriously... if you love me... today is my birthday... you have nothing for me... at least show a goodwill gesture and don't charge or make me pay for todays session. even if she show this... in the end... i still pay her...

I don't see this love from her... I experience what love does to someone. just simply doing stupid things.

 

[cherise]

To be clear... I don't play that game to get free sessions... Like seriously... if you love me... today is my birthday... you have nothing for me... at least show a goodwill gesture and don't charge or make me pay for todays session. even if she show this... in the end... i still pay her...

I don't see this love from her... I experience what love does to someone. just simply doing stupid things.

happy birthday tarzen...sorry you are going through this but as you can see you are not alone . but you do have to stop giving and giving. sometimes we create the monsters with our generosity. i used to insist on taking care of thjose around me til it got to the point that they demanded it of me and just kept draining me and taking more and more and offering nothing in return ....not even a thank you. only complaints when i couldnt" help" them as quickly as they wanted. that is not love ....that is not even like.....as soon as i was not in the financial position to continue ,they treated me like dirt and spread horrible lies about me. if she makes you happy by all means book sessions with her as a client and pay the regular fees and nothing more .that will be the test ,

and i think no consideration for your birthday speaks volumes....hell i offfer complimentary birthday visits to my loyal" suitors" it saddens me that this is happening.

 

[badbadboy]

and how many guys play the sp to try to get free sessions? maybe many of us have met and fallen for the right client but cant trust that hes genuine since soooo many pooners from all different walks of life play the game to see what they can get and to stroke their own ego! its a dangerous game and then men wonder why so many sps are cold,mechanical and 100% business .

That's it! Men are all the problem here and I thought all along that we were doing the right thing by paying for it. :nod:

Any SP I have seen who reads this knows I am not the type to take free or discounted dates for whatever the reason. I keep it straight so that "card" can't be played on me, ever.

 

[badbadboy]

I keep it straight so that "card" can't be played on me, ever. fixed that for you.. Triple B...

You have no idea how it pains me to admit Badgie was right ound:

 

[Papa Chongo]

This is exactly why I have previously elected to stop seeing SP's that I could easily fall for, or have begun to fall for. Although I am sure the most recent one of those would never have taken advantage of me it would not be fair to either party to continue.

I like having a connection, but it has to remain more of a friends with benefits kind of thing.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

It's Badgey not Badgie or badgee or budgie. You drop the R and add a Y. Y because you know you like me. Lol

Badger becomes Badgey like you are triple B BadBadBoy not badbadbouy or badbad boyo or bigbadboy.

Every time I think of you for some stupid reason I think of guy fietti from diners drive ins and dives. (Maybe because he's cool reading your reviews kinda the thought I get ) Or aka Triple D. Hence the triple B

Ummm...you know he only PRONOUNCES it like 'fietti', right Badgey? :wink:

 

[PlayfulAlex]

It's Badgey not Badgie or badgee or budgie. You drop the R and add a Y. Y because you know you like me. Lol

Badger becomes Badgey like you are triple B BadBadBoy not badbadbouy or badbad boyo or bigbadboy.

Every time I think of you for some stupid reason I think of guy fietti from diners drive ins and dives. (Maybe because he's cool reading your reviews kinda the thought I get ) Or aka Triple D. Hence the triple B

Ummm...you know he only PRONOUNCES it like 'fietti', right Badgey? :wink:

You guys and your private jokes...I admit it, I am lost!

 

[Alix Turner]

Badger becomes Badgey like you are triple B BadBadBoy not ..... bigbadboy.

I don't know if its accurate to assume we all call him BBB for the same reasons...

 

[Sammylee]

Please see my post as well ... I would equate a SP with no morals equivalent to some one taking lunch money from a mentally challenged child... After all that's what a man becomes when he is experiencing perhaps something he has not in real life and is it fair that a SP juice him for this .?

 

[neckbeard]

Imagine if you invested that money in Tencent "700HK" five-six years ago. You wouldn't be dealing with this problem lol. @ the comment ^ I don't think the issue is someone's IQ. One time I went to see an SP soaked wet from rain looking like I'm suffering from some retardation. I never got taken advantage of, I think the problem lies else where. Not someone's IQ I think... there are probably a lot more people who would hustle you first before SPs. After all don't their livelihood depend on their reputation?

 

[girth-brooks]

I don't know guys, this thread has been here for awhile now and I guess I can't help but chime in. I don't know the full details of the circumstances of the OP and obvioulsy things progressed to a point that I'm not sure I can relate to. I look at SPs as one thing and one thing only: Entertainment. I look at it as no more than that. I don't "fall" for them or even want that to happen in any way shape or form. I love to gamble and I go to the casino to play - win, lose, or break even, it's entertainment. I don't go in saying "today's the day I bring in my life savings and become a millionaire" because more likely than not, there's a good possibility I'm going to lose. My point is, being with an escort is a brief encounter that starts and ends on your selected time. The key word is ends. Divulge into the fantasy, be with a great lady, and have the most fun you can have in a brief period of time. After that, it's over.

 

[grusse]

I don't know guys, this thread has been here for awhile now and I guess I can't help but chime in. I don't know the full details of the circumstances of the OP and obvioulsy things progressed to a point that I'm not sure I can relate to. I look at SPs as one thing and one thing only: Entertainment. I look at it as no more than that. I don't "fall" for them or even want that to happen in any way shape or form. I love to gamble and I go to the casino to play - win, lose, or break even, it's entertainment. I don't go in saying "today's the day I bring in my life savings and become a millionaire" because more likely than not, there's a good possibility I'm going to lose. My point is, being with an escort is a brief encounter that starts and ends on your selected time. The key word is ends. Divulge into the fantasy, be with a great lady, and have the most fun you can have in a brief period of time. After that, it's over.

totally concur with the above.go to the casino for entertainment, not with false hopes.there's a reason the house ends up ahead.in the long run.
with SP's,enjoy the moment,treasure the memories,repeat as needed,knowing it's temporary,that she'll be moving on.

I knew a guy with a "trophy" girl-friend(we talked him out of marriage)his nickname was ATM,spent a piss-pot on this lady.
he's got great memories I'm sure,but expensive ones.
he said he wished he'd've married her....but like a country song said,"when I ran out of money,she ran out of love"

best to listen to the dormouse and "keep your head"

 

[sevenofnine]

Of course there is a risk when you fall in love.

duh


There is a risk when you get married, and you think its for love, maybe you do but she doesn't
maybe its just lonliness.

Of course there is a risk a client or an sp is going to make a big fool of you.

sorry but I just have to laugh

That is life my friends,


Been married thirty two years seeing an sp for ten, the same one pretty much for the last five or so,

Of course it is a big fucking risk no matter how you slice and dice it.

But I met a buddy today, a retired buddy and we talked about how life can be so dam boring, your just end up drinking your self into a early grave.

Im going to a funeral tomorrow of somone who did just that, died of boredom and drank himself to death.

I can't believe it so many people afraid to put a little spice in their life.
so what you fall in love,

so what its not mutual,

nothing ventured nothing gained. life is so dam boring if all you think about and care about is your self.

geez lousi
you may be hurt

god you don't live with out being hurt.

 

[summerbreeze]

for every sad story of a client falling for a SP

there is likely 2 stories of SP's falling for married clients only to be led along and cast adrift

risk from all sides, but nothing ventured nothing gained, no one owns anyone, only the bond of mutual attraction for whatever the reason, love, money, lust, security, friendship......

 

[sevenofnine]

From a guy who is say sixtyish.

I think there is a time a place for everything,
a season for everything


Thinking back to my younger days, I wasn't much in the mood for a relationship a soul mate it was sort of a foolish idea,
Practical everyday things were more important a job getting on with it sex a family, lonliness.
I just wasn't there.

The older I get and all the day to day grit and grind, is not important, the notion of a soul mate comes into mind.
My wife is a friend a companion but not a soul mate.

For what ever reason me and the lady I see got close.

due to circumstances it will most likely never happen,
I am not really going to go into it, doesn't really matter,
we still see each other, but, who knows,
I am not loosing any sleep about it what ever happens happens.

but to me, this discussion is, well like the door is shut for some of you people.
as i look at life the worst thing you can do for yourself is to get stuck,

stuck in a certain place and not move on, have a close mind.
the more rigid your mind is the more closed your thinking is,

well shit, its a sad place to be, stuck forever in one place.

i think there is a time for everything,

the whole range of human emotions and feelings are open to us.
to be stuck in one and negative one, is not a good thing.

the lady i see, we have been apart holidays weddings etc etc,
but I woke up this morning and there was a text message from her,

and its nice to have some one you know,

i know it doesn't allways work out,
especially in this arena

doesn't really matter, i am very lucky and fortunate either way,

but to close your mind to the possiblity is well a mistake,
this hobby, this thing were in.

we use it as an excuse to blame everything on it.
but in truth people are who they are

they would still be the same people if we met them in the real world.

 

[Tarzen]

I've gone through at the present... I've lost my logic and in state of denial and expecting a relationship and wanting the other as your soul mate.

I agree with the wise points given from all of you. don't get stuck. wake up. one needs to learn to be able to "Let go".

"Let go" and stay away from her/addiction. I know it's a hard thing to do but it's reality.. try it...

Really... there are other gems your missing out on..... stop making excuses and deny your logic.

I know in the heat of passion... your little sidekick (The one shot wonder) can "Let go" the passion. If the little sidekick can "Let go" so can you!

follow this rule... if there is more money going out and less heart in the relationship... chances are its a money scam relationship... i've gone through it... I get texted to get together every week... i end up paying for stuff... out for breakfast and dinner, go on trips to shop for clothes... food necessity... etc... and pay $200 each time we dance... my logic kicks in... I feel like being scammed... You've just spent over $200+ on her and you still have to pay $200 to get a dance... I haven't heard from her to meet up and dance.

Money scam comes in many form... if you don't "Let go"... it will be too late.

 

[jnewton]

Ummm...if you are being offered a GFE experience, you are paying them to say that. That is what a GFE is. Did you expect them to say they would never date a guy like you IRL in a million years? What kind of GFE experience would that be???. What you are doing is confusing the fantasy you contracted for with reality. The problem is not with them, they are doing what they are supposed to do, the problem is with you.

When they say "you are their type", it means that you are the type of client they would like to see, not the type of guy they want to have a romantic relationship with.

Actually, years ago I basically had a provider tell me that. She and I got to be relatively close and she told me some fascinating stuff about providers (in general) and herself in particular. One of the things she told me was that because of certain events in her past, although she was fine with guys like me as clients (and she had told me on other occasions that she considered certain other clients good friends, guys like me), she had absolutely no other interest in that type of guy. Seeing pictures she showed me and with all the stuff she told me about her life, I believed her and based on what she'd told me, I could kind of understand why.

Thing was, we knew each other well enough that she could tell me stuff that would make a lot of pooners run like the wind but then after one of these long talks, we'd have a great night together. Probably one of the most interesting SP "relationships" I ever had.

I had no romantic interest in her and wasn't in any shape to pursue one even if I did but still, having a provider tell you that kind of stuff is a bit rough. Kinda puts a whole new perspective on things. Since then, it's been easy to remind myself when I'm seeing a provider that it's all a fantasy, none of it is real.

 

[summerbreeze]

I think its a human need to have a physical closeness to someone be it a wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, or SP.

it comforts as well as stimulates and sometimes doing without for a time (or even a long time) creates a sense of need i.e. filling that gap

logically people turn to a relationship structure but then that means additional issues

I just accept that there is that need and you can pay to have it met in various forms and it doesn't require a relationship, sometimes it is just a great massage, sometimes more

the relationship need can be a different thing and if you can combine them great, if not why not accept that its a healthy need and treated with respect there are avenues to meet that need

society has us conditioned that the only way to meet that need is through a relationship, who says that is right for everyone.....

 

[sevenofnine]

interesting comments.
a funeral recently, and the hurt and the pain this guy caused.

and my sp text;s me out of the blue.
i think you know whether its real or not real, or you just want to believe it.

deep down you know whether its make believe or real.
deep down you know, whether your the ass hole or the good guy.


i know who i am, i trust in me,
that i have done the right thing, worry about me what i have done,

a few people have called me names on this board i know who i am,

i think that is all you can ask for,, know your self trust yourself.


people have wondered why i am still married, why havent i run.
to me, i have to understand what i am running from, so i know what i am running too,


its not all her fault or the other persons. its all mine what ever happens no one is to blame but me.