those kind of men tend to be excellent liars, people who very easily make friends or find a way to fit into a group. So, not only is the woman afraid to speak out... suffering from psychological shell shock... but the "wolf" knows how to insulate himself against accusations in the very group his victim would seek support from.
I unknowingly had a violent rapist in my house, a clinically diagnosed sexual sadist... I'll save the details, but he had my whole family hooked into his sob story (read: lies). The fact that...monster... had free reign of my house on family occasions, and associated with my family through my sibling... still causes disgust to well up in my gut, to this very day. Once we began unraveling his web of lies, it all came undone. I was sick for weeks, and I really came to question how my sibling (a level headed person, in a position of confidence and trust in the community) could be so duped by this fellow... even after the evidence came pouring in (and the conviction!).
But there you have it. The victim there was still tangled in his lies, kept in his power, until he literally was in a corrections facility facing deportation. That's when reality, and some sanity, began to creep back in.
As long as those monsters are on the loose, able to exert control, their victims are stuck in a very strange place where the fantasy crafted by the abuser is the only reality they know. You can't judge it until you've either lived it, or seen it in action, first hand.
