Perspective Shift + Add Your Own (Respectfully Please)

TheBellaRoseXo · Oct 26, 2026

Ask questions so you don’t push boundaries -> to -> It’s REALLY easy to trip over boundaries you don’t know exist…

Let’s keep it simple. Half of the battle around restrictions and boundaries is seeing them as lines that, when crossed, make people cringe — whether internally or visibly noticeable. Whether people try or not.

And these limitations are not put anyone down or create shame. It’s just saying “It’s not something I’m comfortable with and we might be/are mismatched.”
It’s subtle, but the shift can create a tremendous ripple.

Comment your own kindly please. SP’s especially — Love your input!

B 🌹

Mclovinit604 · Oct 26, 2026

TheBellaRoseXo said:
Ask questions so you don’t push boundaries -> to -> It’s REALLY easy to trip over boundaries you don’t know exist…

Let’s keep it simple. Half of the battle around restrictions and boundaries is seeing them as lines that, when crossed, make people cringe — whether internally or visibly noticeable. Whether people try or not.

And these limitations are not put anyone down or create shame. It’s just saying “It’s not something I’m comfortable with and we might be/are mismatched.”
It’s subtle, but the shift can create a tremendous ripple.

Comment your own kindly please. SP’s especially — Love your input!

B 🌹

Absolutely 💯. I never assume anything and sympathize that safety is important for the provider. She doesn’t know if we’re Hannibal or Harry Styles (sorry that’s all I’ve got to name someone supposed to be nice with a H name).

Bang4thebuck · Oct 26, 2026

I hate it when SPs dont mention their restrictions. I just dont bother booking with them at that point. Why does it have to be a mystery?

I appreciate SPs who make it very clear what is okay, not okay, and what is YMMV.

Even with girls I am dating we always have a fun discussion around sex to learn more about each other and what we're into and not into.

Forum mod · Oct 26, 2026

Communication, communication, communication.

Ladies should be upfront and candid about it, and the guys need to respect the boundaries as stated. If she doesn't want guys over 50, and you are 60, don't book and make it weird. Same with big guys, or restrictions based on race or religion. You don't have to like her rules, but you have to follow them because you want to get naked and play together. That's not a place to try to make a point. There's 100s or 1000s of choices out there, find someone who is happy to see you and take your money.

And lastly, if you show up and demand a BBBJ when her ads clearly state CBJ and then you complain here about it, don't expect sympathy. Expect Perbatory.

Larry's Torch · Oct 26, 2026

Pretty much this.
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Forum mod said:
Communication, communication, communication.

Ladies should be upfront and candid about it, and the guys need to respect the boundaries as stated.
(snip)

Tsubame · Oct 26, 2026

I've made the mistake of assuming things with civilian relationships. It lead to long term disappointments.

Later in life, and seeing SPs, I have been smarter. Only once have my boundaries been crossed, which was my own fault. I don't believe I have crossed anyone elses.

Communication with SPs has been good in my experience. Do research if possible, ask first, or just let her run the show. I don't think many providers will just randomly do any "extras" that you didn't want, ask about, or pay for.

I was surprised to read "no black gentlemen" on Leo. I imagine it's about discomfort rather than racism. Reminds me of Full Metal Jacket and the "Alabama black snake".

Pumped · Oct 26, 2026

Don't be an idiot.

-- looks at number of people in perbatory ...

Okay, try to not be too much of an idiot.

-- looks at number of people ending up in perbatory anyways ...

Idiots.

YYC · Tuesday at 11:47 AM

Boundaries are so rife wih potential issues on both sides - yes, I have had a boundary I have violated during a session. The only thing that matters is communication and consent - both of those things are not problematic and are in fact, highly erotic. I mean, who doesn't love talking about sex?

goldeneye95 · Friday at 11:36 PM

There is no shift in perspective. Communication has always been the cornerstone of intimacy under any circumstance. For that reason I prefer seeing women who are good conversationalists. I like to spare at least half the duration for conversation (longer for longer dates).

Crystal Powers Bimbo · Saturday at 11:32 AM

Well we can't possibly list all the things that we are not comfortable with, it's just impossible. So asking first is the best approach instead of just pushing it in (literally). I've had some weird experiences with wrong hole excuses and frankly I just don't understand if I'm willing to do certain things but they cost a premium then why try to act as if it was by accident.

FightingIrish · Saturday at 8:09 PM

goldeneye95 said:
There is no shift in perspective. Communication has always been the cornerstone of intimacy under any circumstance. For that reason I prefer seeing women who are good conversationalists. I like to spare at least half the duration for conversation (longer for longer dates).

I've come to be the same way and enjoy the conversations before sex. Very important to sound off vibes and establish boundaries without needing to fire off acronyms. And hey, it's always good to get to know new people no matter how you meet them!

TheBellaRoseXo · 2026-11-01T03:18:24-0800

goldeneye95 said:
There is no shift in perspective. Communication has always been the cornerstone of intimacy under any circumstance. For that reason I prefer seeing women who are good conversationalists. I like to spare at least half the duration for conversation (longer for longer dates).

There is: Assigning an aggressive intention ➡ humanizing and creating curiosity. Appreciate what you wrote. 🙂.

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