Question about my age & shape when seeing an SP

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I'm an older man, 58, and a bit heavy. I am about 5' 9" 230lbs, with a reasonably big belly. I have very little confidence about my appearance, but after a divorce I have been looking to go to a SP. Perhaps ironically, I prefer petite Asians.

What are people's thoughts on going to an SP when you are not exactly model material? Do you tell them beforehand? I am worried about being rejected or going to an SP who is absolutely not into it with a guy of my age and size.
 
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Here are some good rules to live by when seeing SPs:

-pay whatever their rate is. Period. Don't haggle and no lowballing. Pay them upfront at the beginning of the session. Tip after if you want. Tipping is optional.
-be respectful and well mannered. Don't be a jerk. Respect their rules and boundaries.
-have impeccable hygiene. Shower before if offered.

If you follow these rules, chances are very good you will have at least a decent time.

This is a business. The vast majority of SPs want to see clean, pleasant and well mannered clients who follow their rules and pay their rates without complaining. The client's appearances don't matter as much as clients like to think.
 
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Hey buddy, get out and take a mile or 2 walk every second day. Not slow, a more faster pace.
Take up a stretching routine to stretch out unused muscle, like yoga, Pilates....
You have 3 core muscle groups, legs, core, and chest. So exercises (low impact) that stretch or work those muscles out...
Chest: push ups (various ones, should width, farer apart, closer together)
Legs: Walking, stairs (take stairs 2 at time), deep knee bend( and then reach for the sky on toes), knee lifts, jogging on the spot, elbow to opposite knee.
Core: Planks, leg raises (side and front, with variations on both, where you incorporate your hips)
Arms: Stretching, rotations, tricep pull ups, overhead lifts (small 3-10 lb weight).

If you really want to lose the weight off your stomach, diet. Cut sugars (sugar is in everything) and breads and pasta down. Eat more veggies. (try to stay away from the veggies that have more sugars/starches - carrots, peas look for brocoli, cauliflower, peppers, celery, green leaf for salad, (watch the salad dressings for sugars). Home made vegetable soup. Sugar, Starches, Meats( turn into sugars in body), Veggies.
Go out and walk around. If you sit at home, you tend to eat too much. Drink more water. The problem with more water is that you need to piss it out... Stay off the couch and go outside. by staying active your body will burn more calories.

Sweating is good for you. You might not like it.

The thing with diets is you have to meal plan, (set up ahead of time). 3 small meals with snacking material (celery), and try to fast after last meal to the meal the next morning (12 hours ??)

Walk, stretch and watch the diet
 
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80watts said:
Hey buddy, get out and take a mile or 2 walk every second day. Not slow, a more faster pace.
Take up a stretching routine to stretch out unused muscle, like yoga, Pilates....
You have 3 core muscle groups, legs, core, and chest. So exercises (low impact) that stretch or work those muscles out...
Chest: push ups (various ones, should width, farer apart, closer together)
Legs: Walking, stairs (take stairs 2 at time), deep knee bend( and then reach for the sky on toes), knee lifts, jogging on the spot, elbow to opposite knee.
Core: Planks, leg raises (side and front, with variations on both, where you incorporate your hips)
Arms: Stretching, rotations, tricep pull ups, overhead lifts (small 3-10 lb weight).

If you really want to lose the weight off your stomach, diet. Cut sugars (sugar is in everything) and breads and pasta down. Eat more veggies. (try to stay away from the veggies that have more sugars/starches - carrots, peas look for brocoli, cauliflower, peppers, celery, green leaf for salad, (watch the salad dressings for sugars). Home made vegetable soup. Sugar, Starches, Meats( turn into sugars in body), Veggies.
Go out and walk around. If you sit at home, you tend to eat too much. Drink more water. The problem with more water is that you need to piss it out... Stay off the couch and go outside. by staying active your body will burn more calories.

Sweating is good for you. You might not like it.

The thing with diets is you have to meal plan, (set up ahead of time). 3 small meals with snacking material (celery), and try to fast after last meal to the meal the next morning (12 hours ??)

Walk, stretch and watch the diet
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Why would any of these SPs object to your physical appearance when your presence for 30 45 minutes or longer time with them is more than they will make doing menial jobs for entire day or two. Be realistic soon as you walk out from their studio or apartment you no longer be visible to them
 
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The ladies are used to clients like yourself. I am like yourself. As long as you are careful with your weight in that you don't inflict pain on them, they will deal with it. Typically the petite Asians will do cowgirl on you, etc. I often see Ako or Angel at Lily's and they are both a lot smaller than me!
 
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Sp's may be used to all types, but that also doesn't mean we shouldn't be courteous enough to ask them if they are comfortable with our race, weight, age, penis size, disability or whatever might be outside what they might expect. If they aren't surprised, you will probably get a better experience.
 
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When you make the booking you can tell them a bit about yourself to break the ice. Also do some research too and you’ll learn more about them.
 
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Regardless of what others have posted here you WILL meet an SP who isn't comfortable with your age/appearance. If she's the least bit professional you'll never know, but she may not book you again. If she isn't, unfortunately you'll hear about it or the service will be so lacking you likely won't book her again. We all have "types" including SPs and if you don't fit that type then it may effect you experience and/or future bookings.
 
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80watts said:
Hey buddy, get out and take a mile or 2 walk every second day. Not slow, a more faster pace.
Take up a stretching routine to stretch out unused muscle, like yoga, Pilates....
You have 3 core muscle groups, legs, core, and chest. So exercises (low impact) that stretch or work those muscles out...
Chest: push ups (various ones, should width, farer apart, closer together)
Legs: Walking, stairs (take stairs 2 at time), deep knee bend( and then reach for the sky on toes), knee lifts, jogging on the spot, elbow to opposite knee.
Core: Planks, leg raises (side and front, with variations on both, where you incorporate your hips)
Arms: Stretching, rotations, tricep pull ups, overhead lifts (small 3-10 lb weight).

If you really want to lose the weight off your stomach, diet. Cut sugars (sugar is in everything) and breads and pasta down. Eat more veggies. (try to stay away from the veggies that have more sugars/starches - carrots, peas look for brocoli, cauliflower, peppers, celery, green leaf for salad, (watch the salad dressings for sugars). Home made vegetable soup. Sugar, Starches, Meats( turn into sugars in body), Veggies.
Go out and walk around. If you sit at home, you tend to eat too much. Drink more water. The problem with more water is that you need to piss it out... Stay off the couch and go outside. by staying active your body will burn more calories.

Sweating is good for you. You might not like it.

The thing with diets is you have to meal plan, (set up ahead of time). 3 small meals with snacking material (celery), and try to fast after last meal to the meal the next morning (12 hours ??)

Walk, stretch and watch the diet
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My Grandfather lived to be 98, my Dad 97
Both had great advice about living longer. Mind your own business.
When did the OP ask for any advice about your exercise routine?
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To the OP, atta boy. Get our there and enjoy all these wonderful SP's.
As the helpful pooners have said, be a gent, be clean, and follow what the SP is offering.
Oh, and report back on your adventures, curious folks 'round these parts want to know.
 
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Re the weight thing: it’s very common for asians to be blunt about weight, but they aren’t trying to be mean. Don’t be offended.
I had a nice asian lady tell me “You be good looking if you lose fifty pounds”.
And then we had a great session, so it must not have bothered her much.

I have had a few non-Asian ladies reject me because of age. It’s better than having an awkward session because she’s disgusted eh?
 
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Hi! I thought I would chime in here as a provider with my thoughts on this. As mentioned above most of us want to see clients who are respectful and have good hygiene. Some providers may not see people based on their ethnicity, body type or age, but very few will decline clients for those reasons. Most of the time this may be in our restrictions or somewhere in our ads or at least our websites.

Most of us are not going to decline you based on your body size, but you could always ask in your inquiry. Personally I am the kind of person where I’m very much a sapiophile and more attracted to who someone is and their personality than what they look like. I’ve found many larger gentleman actually quite attractive and sexy, too. Hopefully you can find an amazing provider or more that you can have an enjoyable experience with.
 
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Attitude is everything ... on both sides. Hot chick with a crappy attitude isn't going to be that much fun. And most SPs know this in spades. They may or may not feed you a lot of BS, but most of the good ones seem to know that its likely better to say nothing than say things that aren't true.

Second, regardless of how good looking a woman is, she still has her own insecurities. If you bring up yours then you will trigger hers. So don't. And don't try fishing for compliments ... that's a turn-off for everyone.

Just be you. Do some self-care of trimming nails, hair, floss, brush, shave, shower ... shower some more and be kind.
 
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masterpoonhunter said:
My Grandfather lived to be 98, my Dad 97
Both had great advice about living longer. Mind your own business.
When did the OP ask for any advice about your exercise routine?
F F S

To the OP, atta boy. Get our there and enjoy all these wonderful SP's.
As the helpful pooners have said, be a gent, be clean, and follow what the SP is offering.
Oh, and report back on your adventures, curious folks 'round these parts want to know.
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Maybe you should take your fathers and grandfather's advice..
The stuff I wrote down is not my workout or diet. You like to assume things about me, you don't really actually know.....

If the OP is worried about his waistline, then he should do something about it. Any advise given here on PERB people can take it or leave it.
Working out/exercising will help with your waistline. So does dieting... If someones tells you are fat, then its time to take a hint and maybe attack the problem of losing weight....See a doctor or / and a dietician.

As for what an Asian SP think, who knows, the things she wants most from you is your money.... If she is speaking in a foreign language she might be saying "I'm fucking a FAT SNACKER", or similar mantra.....
 
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