I self identify as an incel, and I spend most of my days on incel forums.
An incel is a man who is unable to attract women sexually or one who longs for sex with women but remains celibate despite his desires.
I have sex with escorts, but I am still considered an incel. If I hadn’t been with escorts, I’d still be a virgin. In incel culture, having sex with escorts doesn’t disqualify you from being an incel. You’re only seen as not being an incel if a woman has burning genuine desire to have sex with you, not out of obligation or payment. Any form of transaction or coercion doesn’t change the fact that someone remains an incel.
Incel culture and misogyny or hatred towards "Chads" don’t necessarily go together. Many incels actually like women, it’s just the loud, attention grabbing ones who give the group a reputation for misogyny.
There’s also a distinction between incels and redpill men. Incels tend to align more with far-left, even communist, views, while redpill and manosphere communities are generally associated with far-right ideologies. Redpill and manosphere men actually hate incels, and the two groups clash, although there is some overlap. Redpill and manosphere are more the Andrew Tate crowd, whereas incels are more of an anonymous collective.
One in three men hasn't had sex in the past year, which technically makes them incels. While many of these men wouldn’t identify as incels, they fit the definition.
There are also femcels, the female counterpart to incels. While incels struggle with not getting sex, femcels have difficulty finding relationships, and men dont want to have relationships with them. Femcels can still have sex whenever they want, its relationships they cant get, especially from Chad.
Just as not all incels are woman haters, not all femcels hate men. However, there is plenty of animosity towards the opposite gender on both sides.
I've read extensively and have a deep understanding of this subject. Feel free to ask me anything, I believe there's a lot of misinformation out there about it.
