Why do clients lie about how many escorts they've seen?

[*emmanuelle]

I have had quite a few men tell me that our time together is their first experience with an escort, only to find out later that he has seen many many other SPs.

It doesn't make me angry or upset in the least, just genuinely curious. Why do it? I would have made this a poll, but I honestly can't even think of all the potential reasons that might be given.

Could it be:
-He wants her to feel special (i.e. his "first choice")?
-He wants the fantasy of it being his first time with an escort?
-He thinks he might get uncovered "xxxtras" if the SP thinks he has had a limited number of partners in the past?
-He is, for some reason, embarrassed of being a hobbyist?

Enlighten me, perberts!

 

[TheGuy]

I would imagine that many men do not see the fact that they see escorts as a hobby but as a sad part of their life brought about by other circumstances such as a bad marriage or being unable to meet women, etc.

So they lie.

Few people feel comfortable talking about their failures in life.

Those who see it as a sport or hobby probably have little issue talking about it.

 

[cloud_9]

Hey Manni

i don't really know cause i don't lie when asked, but i never really get asked, unless at the den, then most of them wanna know who.

I could see one reason to lie and that would be that some SP's don't like one another, especially from what i hear from the girls at the den, so i can see people lying so the Sp at that time does not get all mad.....

 

[oppai]

I think the question is, why would you ask? What difference does it make to you? Why do you need to gain knowledge about that part of their life? I would be skeptical to share personal information, especially if I didn't know where your question was leading or what the cause for it was.

What if the return question from the client was "how many clients do you see in a day/week/month?", Would you answer honestly?

 

[Harmony-bc]

I think the question is, why would you ask? What difference does it make to you? Why do you need to gain knowledge about that part of their life? I would be skeptical to share personal information, especially if I didn't know where your question was leading or what the cause for it was.

What if the return question from the client was "how many clients do you see in a day/week/month?", Would you answer honestly?

I know for myself, that occasionally I will get an email from someone that will say its there first time, and then in session, I figure it out that it isn't, lol. I get a lot of new guys, because of my massage option which is a lot less intimidating to a newbie. Another thing that I have been through, is in parlors, I have seen girls regulars and they have made me promise not to tell the girl. I usually don't need to know if you have done this 5 or a hundred times, but generally I like to know if you have done this before. It is a question I sometimes will ask.

 

[shakeshake]

I think it could the same reason why SPs say “nice” things that are untrue to their clients. For example, a SP might tell a client he was the only one who got this special treatment, etc. because she believed that it was part of the fantasy her client wants.
There must be a lot of “white lies” told in these sessions.

 

[Miami]

I really don't feel comfortable talking about my other encounters and I am also not comfortable listening to any details of her encounters.

Usually this is not an issue because most new girls I see require a reference from another SP, which I don't mind giving, or I have corresponded with them through this board and they have read my previous post.

But if I am asked about my experience during the actual session, I'll say that I have no history with SPs in an effort to end that conversation topic. I don't want to tell you and I don't want you to tell me. I am paying for this moment to be all about you and I exclusively.

I am sometimes perplexed at how some SP's will mention on their website that the donation should be handled discretely and never be a topic of conversation. "Don't make me uncomfortable by having to ask for it" --- and then they spend the session talking about "the business"... which make me very uncomfortable.


So to all the women, I will see in 2010... you'll each be my very first. Feel free to ask, I'll be glad to tell you so.

 

[Krustee]

I have had quite a few men tell me that our time together is their first experience with an escort, only to find out later that he has seen many many other SPs.

You won't hear that from me!

Hell, many times when an SP asked me how the session was my perfunctory response was;
"I've had better!"

 

[maxx50]

why do you want to know?

I would tell a the girl I am seeing if she asked .. and i also don't mind hering about other clients or SO .. it is not a turn on or off that just happens tobe part of who they are and that is what oi am there for . to see who they are.
But often wonder why do hey want to know who i have seen or how many But then i also tell them my handle on Perb and **** .. so they can look me up and see me at my best amd worst and they will find out a lot of those thing .
I allways figured these review boards is also a way for the ladies to get a feel Or a preview of the guy befor they see them.. that is ok with me. These days any one i see has already met me as a driver so we are familiar
But i would like to know why you want to know?.

 

[bartendr]

I have my fave's, and do'nt let on at first, that I see other SP's.

 

[chilli]

I'd never lie to you baby

 

[*emmanuelle]

Thanks everyone for your input so far!

I should mention though, that I'm not talking about me asking clients "so, how many escorts have you seen?" I'm talking about the many guys that tell me (often via email, before we've even met) "I've never done this before....."

 

[hunsperger]

...

Thanks everyone for your input so far!

I should mention though, that I'm not talking about me asking clients "so, how many escorts have you seen?" I'm talking about the many guys that tell me (often via email, before we've even met) "I've never done this before....."

I think it's a way of justifying/defusing awkwardness and nervousness when contacting a lady for the first time...

Hunsperger

 

[brocketrocket]

I have noticed, that when asked at a MP if I had been there before, and I answer "no", They ALWAYS either try and charge more than the going rate, or offer less services. For example, I have been to Serenity in Surrey MANY MANY times over the years. Hadn't been there in maybe 12 or 18 months, but I went in for shits & giggles one day (maybe 6 mon ago) girl asked if I had been there before, I always answer no (for reasons listed above) I paid the up front fee, but in the room, she says that fee only includes massage and CBJ, she doesn't "DO" FS. Yeah right... shitty service anyways, chalked it up to lesson learned on not to go back, even though I know FS is included in that rate.
If I have ever answered yes to that question I get asked a bizillion questions about who I have seen, their services, why i would see them.. etc... I go to SP's for services, not for the conversation. I can get bararded with questions at home!

 

[Holly Taylor]

I would never ask a client how many escorts he has seen, or who he has seen. I don't think it's appropriate at all.

But, like Emmanuelle, I have had clients who told me that they have never seen an escort before, or that I am the only one they see - these comments are totally unsolicited by me. Sometimes it was true, but sometimes it wasn't, and I always wondered why they would make something up, out of the blue, when I didn't even ask (or care either way).

Something to ponder...

 

[blazejowski]

I can't say I've ever lied about how many SPs I have seen. I don't see the point, obviously.
She's still getting paid, and I am still getting laid - won't made a difference, will it?

 

[anonanon]

Well when asked I answer honestly. At the den I'm so well known that they don't ask that but more along the lines of "who is your favorite?" or "who's better than so and so?" and I never answer these questions. I don't think it's appropriate to talk about that there...Especially when your naked!

I would imagine that many men do not see the fact that they see escorts as a hobby but as a sad part of their life brought about by other circumstances such as a bad marriage or being unable to meet women, etc.

So they lie.

Few people feel comfortable talking about their failures in life.

Those who see it as a sport or hobby probably have little issue talking about it.

I think that is would account for 75% of the PERB posters and readers/lurkers.

Hey Manni

i don't really know cause i don't lie when asked, but i never really get asked, unless at the den, then most of them wanna know who.

I could see one reason to lie and that would be that some SP's don't like one another, especially from what i hear from the girls at the den, so i can see people lying so the Sp at that time does not get all mad.....

I get asked at the den too...

I think it could the same reason why SPs say “nice” things that are untrue to their clients. For example, a SP might tell a client he was the only one who got this special treatment, etc. because she believed that it was part of the fantasy her client wants.
There must be a lot of “white lies” told in these sessions.

This industry is built on white lies though, if you can't grasp this concept then go take up knitting. Do you really think that these girls would have sex with you if you didn't pay them? It's all a fantasy and we as pooners need to know that it is just that, a paid fantasy. I've been told before "Oh I only do this with you" when I know from my sources that she offers it to other guys. Why lie? To make me feel special. Nothing wrong with that, I pay them to lie. Sounds cynical but it's the truth...

 

[timhorton]

As odd as it may be, it's because clients don't want you to think they are whores. The bad kind, I mean.

 

[HB40]

As odd as it may be, it's because clients don't want you to think they are whores. The bad kind, I mean.

I'm the good kind, I'm just sayin'.....most don't bother asking.

 

[GrandPiano]

I have never had anyone asked me this question. Not a very nice thing to ask? I mean why would an escort need to know this unless I was acting very nervous or some such.