Ladies, How Important Is It For You..

[Rammstein69]

...that your partner orgasms? Would you continue dating someone who didn't come? Would you take it personally?

I met a great woman a few weeks ago, and after a few dates we ended up sleeping together. She was my first lay in two years, since breaking up with my ex. We had CFS most positions, and BBBJ for the better part of two hours with a little break in between. Problem: I didn't come...at all, and even lost my erection a few times too.

She said she really enjoyed the lovemaking, but was concerned that I didn't finish as expected. I've never been able to come using a condom...it just kills it for me. Also, I think that masturbation is more enjoyable than sex with a partner..I'm just so used to it now.

Well, she wants to end the relationship now, but says this is only part of the reason. Hmmm...I'm guessing a big part..

 

[HB40]

I think that masturbation is more enjoyable than sex with a partner.

You didn't tell her that did you?!?

You need to get laid more often dude!

 

[Rammstein69]

You didn't tell her that did you?!?

You need to get laid more often dude!

No no, of course I didn't tell her that! lol I know I need to laid more...but I'm working on it.

 

[HB40]

No no, of course I didn't tell her that! lol I know I need to laid more...but I'm working on it.

Well then I bet it's the not cumming part.

I would think it would be of some importance to women, if for nothing else but to make them feel like they satisfy you, not cumming would probably fuck with their insecurities a bit. Just my thoughts.

On a different matter, I was wondering do you ever have medieval battle re-enactments in Saskabush like the civil war ones down south? I think that might be fun.

 

[porcelianprincess]

I was together with someone for a year who wasn't able to climax. It made me feel as though I wasn't sexy enough or perform up to there standards. It caused many problems in our relationship.... That being said I have yet to climax from intercourse, it doesn't mean that I don't enjoy it. So I do understand where you are coming from

 

[uncleg]

You didn't tell her that did you?!?

You need to get laid more often dude!

No no, of course I didn't tell her that! lol I know I need to laid more...but I'm working on it.

You'll notice HB40 is in red, and he is hinting.

 

[C-Money]

The last girl I dated for a period of time, (about four and a half years), was unable to reach an orgasm. She loved sex, initiated ALL the time and generally did everything in her power to ensure I enjoyed myself (which I did) however the fact that she never derived serious pleasure from it freaked me out, and eventually led to the downfall of the relationship.

The other issue, is that I can not stand people faking. If you are having a good time, but not *THAT* good of a time, don't bother insulting me with platitudes.

 

[goderos]

hmmm.... what is more important, achieving orgasm or being compatible with someone?

is it possible to be with someone that you have trouble achieving orgasm with?

i am dating a wonderful gal, but i have trouble cumming with her. i think it is mental. i can understand why it would cause problems. does this mean the relationship is doom?

 

[HB40]

You'll notice HB40 is in red, and he is hinting.

Certainly not!

The guy has trouble cumming.....no way I want to work that hard!

 

[Rammstein69]

hmmm.... what is more important, achieving orgasm or being compatible with someone?

This is the other side of the coin. She's a bit taller than me (5'11") and it REALLY bothers her. She says she's always been really conscious of her height. It's really a bummer because we get along so well personallity wise and enjoy each others' company immensely.

I'm pretty sure I satisfied her in the bedroom several times as I've never seen a woman stay as wet as that for so long. I just feel so bad that she thinks it's her fault...

 

[goderos]

This is the other side of the coin. She's a bit taller than me (5'11") and it REALLY bothers her. She says she's always been really conscious of her height. It's really a bummer because we get along so well personallity wise and enjoy each others' company immensely.

I'm pretty sure I satisfied her in the bedroom several times as I've never seen a woman stay as wet as that for so long. I just feel so bad that she thinks it's her fault...

yup normally it is a mental thing that holds you back. could just be she was awesome and you were afraid of taking the relationship to the next level. they say some people have a fear of failing. at least maybe in my case. maybe also because i know eventually i will go back to pooning. i've never cheated on my gf yet.

they say if you use 'palm'ela too often, sometimes you lose sensitivity. so it will be harder to cum with other stimulation. condom would not help the situation.

Have you tried in the morning. I find sex in the morning works for me. As I am much more relaxed in the morning. My mind is fresher. And often my dick is hard.....

You'll need to re assure her and let her know its not her fault. Otherwise she will be bolting for the door. And you'll be single again. And back here looking at reviews!!

 

[goderos]

I was together with someone for a year who wasn't able to climax. It made me feel as though I wasn't sexy enough or perform up to there standards. It caused many problems in our relationship.... That being said I have yet to climax from intercourse, it doesn't mean that I don't enjoy it. So I do understand where you are coming from

i think u hit the hammer on the head. if i was not able to make my SO cum that would make me think i was less desirable. or my techniques are not good enough and would cause problems. though i haven't had this problem yet.

the girl i am dating keeps asking me if i think she is attractive and if I like my ex better etc.., etc... . of course when she ask it makes things worse. makes me feel worse about the situation. and certainly doesn't help me in cumming. i need a whore in bed i think. she is too nice and lazy in bed. LoL

most girls don't climax from intercourse. u're not alone. some guys don't climax from straight intercourse too. i am sure if you didnt want to cum, no one can MAKE you cum, rite. maybe that is why alcohol works. like a mental lubricant. helps you cum easier.

 

[sonoman]

maybe that is why alcohol works. like a mental lubricant. helps you cum easier.

Ummm... not at my age.