Is this hobby addictive?

[bug123]

Hello! I've been thinking for a long time to write here, but I've been always lazy or probably I was fearing to start a flame.

Anyway I think this can be interesting for some of you, so I'll write my experience with paid sex.

I never had much of a moral problem with prostitutes, at least as long everyone is respecting a personal choice... I don't like the idea of abusing girls that are victims of human traffic, but in the end I know I did that too.

At the beginning I started because I wanted to try, and because I wasn't getting too much sex in my life... I was working, far from home, and I had no intention to find a girlfriend.

I moved here and I got a better job, I could afford more! But I guess, my experience did not really improve. It always begins with sexual desire, I know I could quench it in other ways, but some times I do not and search for escorts.

Now... 20-30% of the times I get to the escort incall, and what I see is not what I expected... even using Perb, I get scammed a lot, and I have some oh awful experiences, of hot girls that in reality are BW (not BBW)...

But there are a lot of providers that look indeed as their pictures. Still, maybe I'm a GFE guy I don't know, but most of the times I don't really enjoy the session. I feel like paying that money is a punishment, I have paid a lot for a crappy experience because my karma or so wants me to learn a lesson... That I don't learn!

And I've tried everything, black, asian, white, ts, young, milf, all... In my experience I found only 1 SP that really made me come like I do with a GF, and now she's gone.

How many perople here are feeling the same? How many still continue this transgression, even if they know it's nothing so good? Or worth it?

Now I have a incredibly beautiful girlfriend. Still I think about SP, and sometimes I use them.

Nowadays I managed to stay away from them for quite a bit, but it's still tempting. Is it an addiction? I hate that because I know there's no rational reason for me to do so...

Sometimes I think it's just a transgression, and it's ok. But then I'm not satisfied with my experience... so?

I dunno, but I just wanted to write to know what other people think. Most asians here are trafficked... Still if there was a really astonishing one, I think I would try her... Sex turns men into idiots.

 

[Krustee]

Now... 20-30% of the times I get to the escort incall, and what I see is not what I expected... even using Perb, I get scammed a lot, and I have some oh awful experiences, of hot girls that in reality are BW (not BBW)...

But there are a lot of providers that look indeed as their pictures. Still, maybe I'm a GFE guy I don't know, but most of the times I don't really enjoy the session. I feel like paying that money is a punishment, I have paid a lot for a crappy experience because my karma or so wants me to learn a lesson... That I don't learn!

And I've tried everything, black, asian, white, ts, young, milf, all... In my experience I found only 1 SP that really made me come like I do with a GF, and now she's gone.

Nowadays I managed to stay away from them for quite a bit, but it's still tempting. Is it an addiction? I hate that because I know there's no rational reason for me to do so...

Sometimes I think it's just a transgression, and it's ok. But then I'm not satisfied with my experience... so?

... Sex turns men into idiots.

All the above is total hogwash!
(except for the last statement in bold)

SP's NEVER lie!!!

They NEVER misrepresent!

NEVER take advantage of clients!

and

NEVER do anything unethical!

There must be something wrong with you if you are having problems!

Be careful or you will get your name on the SP black list!!

 

[godfather_77]

By definition you are not addicted, but close, as you continue to seek SPs even though you get no tangible benefit except for feeling bad about yourself. The compulsive behavior maybe driven by the need to find the "perfect" SP which you may have had once but she is gone. The fact that you tend to have little "quality" control in who you choose to pay and you seem to accept this as "karma" or punishment leads me to believe that this goes beyond simply fulfilling sexual desires.

 

[odin]

Dan Savage is probably the one you should be writing to

Regardless it does kind of sound like an addiction, mainly because it isn't really satisfying you but you keep up some hope that the next SP will be the one.

 

[Victory]

intelligent and well worded response, i agree with godfather 77

 

[cbit]

My experience

I have wanted to stop, and I have for up to 6 months - only to "fall off the wagon" again. It pulls me in - looking at ads, checking the reviews, looking for "the one" - only to find the experience a let down, whether it is sexually satisfying or not. Something is always not there.

I am married. I feel guilt. I can't look at people the same as I used to. But I am married to what now seems to be my pal, sometimes not even that.

I think what I seek in SPs I will never find...that feeling of love, or at least lust, once again. That feeling we all long to keep forever.

Pretty sure I am addicted and there is no cure.

As for Karma...because I feel guilt for what I do, I also often lay karma to blame for the terrible things that happen in my life after seeing SPs. In reality, I suppose these things may not seem so terrible if I, or anyone in my shoes, felt truly happy.

 

[Maxwell]

Doesn't every man walk down the street and see a hot chick and think he would like to have her? Damn right it is addictive. Always looking for the best or just addicted to the journey.

God help you!

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Hello! I've been thinking for a long time to write here, but I've been always lazy or probably I was fearing to start a flame.

Anyway I think this can be interesting for some of you, so I'll write my experience with paid sex.

I never had much of a moral problem with prostitutes, at least as long everyone is respecting a personal choice... I don't like the idea of abusing girls that are victims of human traffic, but in the end I know I did that too.

At the beginning I started because I wanted to try, and because I wasn't getting too much sex in my life... I was working, far from home, and I had no intention to find a girlfriend.

I moved here and I got a better job, I could afford more! But I guess, my experience did not really improve. It always begins with sexual desire, I know I could quench it in other ways, but some times I do not and search for escorts.

Now... 20-30% of the times I get to the escort incall, and what I see is not what I expected... even using Perb, I get scammed a lot, and I have some oh awful experiences, of hot girls that in reality are BW (not BBW)...

But there are a lot of providers that look indeed as their pictures. Still, maybe I'm a GFE guy I don't know, but most of the times I don't really enjoy the session. I feel like paying that money is a punishment, I have paid a lot for a crappy experience because my karma or so wants me to learn a lesson... That I don't learn!

And I've tried everything, black, asian, white, ts, young, milf, all... In my experience I found only 1 SP that really made me come like I do with a GF, and now she's gone.

How many perople here are feeling the same? How many still continue this transgression, even if they know it's nothing so good? Or worth it?

Now I have a incredibly beautiful girlfriend. Still I think about SP, and sometimes I use them.

Nowadays I managed to stay away from them for quite a bit, but it's still tempting. Is it an addiction? I hate that because I know there's no rational reason for me to do so...

Sometimes I think it's just a transgression, and it's ok. But then I'm not satisfied with my experience... so?

I dunno, but I just wanted to write to know what other people think. Most asians here are trafficked... Still if there was a really astonishing one, I think I would try her... Sex turns men into idiots.

When your girlfriend's only attribute is her beauty, you might as well keep cheating on her.

 

[bigbill]

I would say about 50-60% of the time I feel remorse after a session, though I'm unattached. I feel like I wasted money. About half the sessions are let-downs, and I feel like I should have just stayed home and watched some porn or called a fuck-buddy.

 

[Miami]

I would say about 50-60% of the time I feel remorse after a session, though I'm unattached. I feel like I wasted money. About half the sessions are let-downs, and I feel like I should have just stayed home and watched some porn or called a fuck-buddy.

Wow! 50-60% of the time.
This is supposed to be FUN!

 

[odin]

This hobby can most definitely be addictive. The same can be said about practically any pleasurable experience in life ranging from food, gambling, alcohol, porn and training.
However, not everybody that partakes in these desires is addicted to them

I was once watching this documentary which featured a man who was addicted to MP's. He ran his family into debt and despite this, he kept going to MPs. That's how you know you've got a problem.

Topper

Nicely said Topper.

 

[ranelari]

It could be an addiction.

You might find answers here: http://saa-recovery.org/

I do feel that if you are partaking in a substance or behaviour that is troubling you, yet you have cravings to continue regardless of the negative consequences, you indeed do have a problem. Whether it is as serious for you as it is for others who's lives have been turned upside down is not really the issue.

The issue is whether you find it difficult to stop when you've decided to no longer partake.

I do think that if you believe you won't ever have a great time again with an escort, you are most certainly not going to have a good time, and neither is the provider.. she will sense your trepidation and your date will likely get progressively uncomfortable as the session moves forward. A negative attitude is so not sexy. How awkward.

There is an innate sense of need for men to 'spread the seed' so your instinct to be with other women is normal, even when you have a gorgeous girlfriend. Of course, you can ignore the urge and stay home with your girl. But I do hope that if you continue in the hobby you will actually give the provider a real opportunity to please you. That you could look at her with fresh eyes and not with the expectation that you'll have a bad time.

I'd feel pretty shitty if I had no opportunity whatsoever to make a client happy.. It's my job, and that kind of attitude means I don't have a glimmer of a chance to do it well.. it will be a failure from the get-go, through no fault of mine. Not fair to either participant, and yes indeed a real waste of money and time.

To all out there, if you book with me, you had better come to me thinking it is possible for me to knock your socks off and give you the time of your life... because very likely I will

Attitude is everything!!
xoxo
Nina

i'm so sick of these SPs who pretend to be so warm-hearted and say their goal is
'to make a client happy'.. face it, all you guys want is money.. sure, some of you
may pretend to be enjoying it, but that's based on the hope that clients will become
regulars. isn't that true? why would you be spending your time on this board
with pooners when you can spend $$$ you earned last night? because you want
to attract more people from here... form of advertisement..

if you want to prove me wrong, then go ahead and have sex for $20.00/hour with
one of the posters here... if you truly enjoy your work, earning $20/hr for your
service, like other service providers such as waitresses, should be sufficient..

 

[Harmony-bc]

i'm so sick of these SPs who pretend to be so warm-hearted and say their goal is
'to make a client happy'.. face it, all you guys want is money.. sure, some of you
may pretend to be enjoying it, but that's based on the hope that clients will become
regulars. isn't that true? why would you be spending your time on this board
with pooners when you can spend $$$ you earned last night? because you want
to attract more people from here... form of advertisement..

if you want to prove me wrong, then go ahead and have sex for $20.00/hour with
one of the posters here... if you truly enjoy your work, earning $20/hr for your
service, like other service providers such as waitresses, should be sufficient..

Personally in my personal life and my professional life, I have had boring sex and great spectacular, wonderful blow your fucking socks off sex. Even the boring sex is fun though. I' m human I like money, I don't pretend to be a saint, but I also genuinely like sex, and everything that has to do with sex.

I am extremely comfortable with myself. I know what I am I feel sorry for you, though, that you have this animosity towards women (or maybe just women that charge for it), and can't take people as individuals.

A waitress making roughly 8 + an hour, can work 8 hours straight and work many tables, so potentially she could also earn a hundred or more in tips an hour. I would be absolutely exhausted if I had sex with anybody for 8 hours straight. After the second hour of non stop fucking and my pussy is starting to have road burn, I think my service might start to slip a little,

 

[myselftheother]

Back to the thread....

HELL YAH!

I second that....

And, I don't feel bad or guilty after a great session. That, to me, seems to be a remnant of that old Victorian way of thinking....'Oh my god, I just had a fucking great time, oh woe is me...I did something dirty'....Well good for you! If you're single like me, this is a great time to enjoy the fruits of your labours, to blow a bunch of dough and have a great time, maybe even learn something about yourself.

If you're married, and you're pooning....yikes. Good luck chuck.

 

[Purrr VertIcal]

Even if you 'hobknob', LoL,
calling sex in any form is not a "hobby".

Collecting stamps is a hobby.
Building toy trains is a hobby.
Tennis is a "sport".
Skiing is an activity, maybe a 'sport' maybe.

Fucking is, FUCKING.
When youcall it what it's not, that's part of the denial that causes the problem,
with anything.

(*see also other thread with this subject/topic debated)

 

[Miami]

Well.... I don't know about the hobby (or activity or sport or whatever).....
....but this board sure is addictive.

I have no idea why I log on every single day to see what you folks have to say.

 

[BrokeBastard]

Just curious if any Perbites had their hobby discovered by their SO and worse yet their Perb posts.

I think this deserves a new thread. Very good question.