overweight clients question for SP's ??
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Everyone needs LOVIN. No matter who they are. I have NEVER refused someone for their looks. I also take clients that are disabled and disfigured.
I just think that is very shallow of an SP if she refusing someone for their looks.
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April
I just think that is very shallow of an SP if she refusing someone for their looks.
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April
Or it may be knowing their own limits.
I agree completely that everybody "needs LOVIN" and especially people who have little conventional attractiveness. And I admire your position.
But to me, compassion, understanding, respect - and ability to make a man feel sexually desired are too different things. And if I suspect that I cannot overcome the looks aspects... I would rather recommend someone else than go ahead with an experience that is unlikely to be fulfilling for the client.
Thankfully, I have not to date needed to put this principle into practice. But I wanted to show another angle to the issue.
i am carrying about 50 or 60 lbs too much
and i can honestly say that both April and the lovely Josie are exceptional in their service with me
along with others in the service as well
Gabby omg
Sandy
Renee
and i can honestly say that both April and the lovely Josie are exceptional in their service with me
along with others in the service as well
Gabby omg
Sandy
Renee
I am capable of looking past that, which is why I put on my website color, weight, and age blind.
A whole lot of my self esteem and pride in making this career choice is not wrapped up in how good I fuck, (although thats a part of it
) but more in how appreciated and accepted I am capable of making my clients feel. All ages, weights, and cultures are accepted at my place (I am uncomfortable if someones under 25, but I can deal as long as he's sweet and polite, lol)
A few of my favorite clients are overweight. They are the ones that give me the most compliments. (there are exceptions, lol, some fit guys can give compliments to, )
A whole lot of my self esteem and pride in making this career choice is not wrapped up in how good I fuck, (although thats a part of it
) but more in how appreciated and accepted I am capable of making my clients feel. All ages, weights, and cultures are accepted at my place (I am uncomfortable if someones under 25, but I can deal as long as he's sweet and polite, lol)A few of my favorite clients are overweight. They are the ones that give me the most compliments.
(there are exceptions, lol, some fit guys can give compliments to, )
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I think the info you give on the phone / email is in relation to the type of services requested.
eg;
service- daty, bbbj, bondage, fs
1)info- client is really good looking, and 25 yrs old.
2)info- clients is an amputee and has one arm.
3)info- client has a cold and took some medication
4)info- client is 6"8 and 170 lbs.
1) useless info. (no you cant get a discount for being young, cute, or arrogant!)
2) good to know, especially for the bondage scenerio.
3) so useful. postpone booking.take 2 and call me in the am. (no contagious illnesses please, no bondage for guys who are heavily medicated)
4) useful. see # 2.
I think what im getting at is, do you think the info pertains to the services you want in any way?
If theres a relation to how the info will result in both parties getting the most out of the session?
Do you want to come over to see me? I like a big guy, they make me feel feminine and fiesty, like i want to be covered in oil and be a human slip and slide...wink wink.
xoxox,
jxxx
604-961-6260
I think the info you give on the phone / email is in relation to the type of services requested.
eg;
service- daty, bbbj, bondage, fs
1)info- client is really good looking, and 25 yrs old.
2)info- clients is an amputee and has one arm.
3)info- client has a cold and took some medication
4)info- client is 6"8 and 170 lbs.
1) useless info. (no you cant get a discount for being young, cute, or arrogant!)
2) good to know, especially for the bondage scenerio.
3) so useful. postpone booking.take 2 and call me in the am. (no contagious illnesses please, no bondage for guys who are heavily medicated)
4) useful. see # 2.
I think what im getting at is, do you think the info pertains to the services you want in any way?
If theres a relation to how the info will result in both parties getting the most out of the session?
Do you want to come over to see me? I like a big guy, they make me feel feminine and fiesty, like i want to be covered in oil and be a human slip and slide...wink wink.
xoxox,
jxxx
604-961-6260
I think when it comes down to it, most SPs would rather see someone who's a little heavier than someone with poor hygiene, or someone rude, but I could be wrong?
I don't ask about weight. I figure, if it's important (i.e. a physical disability requiring special care/knowledge/information/services/situations), it's in their best interest to let me know when making the appointment and most clients with special needs will do this to ensure the experience is enjoyable for them.
I cover my views about hygiene in my online ad, which basically amount to the fact that I go to the trouble to ensure that I'm very clean, so please have enough respect to put the same amount of effort into your own personal hygiene so we're both comfortable. The simple implication there is that if one of us is a bit uncomfortable with the other's lack of attention to their personal hygiene, it's probably not going to go well—nobody wants to get close to someone who clearly has no sense of pride in how they look and smell.
As for the morbid obesity issue, one of my first clients was a very heavy trucker. Admittedly, I was very nervous at first about the physical strategic aspects (i.e. the practical and safety considerations about who would be on top because he probably couldn't support his weight on his wrists or forearms without most of his body crushing or smothering mine and my legs clearly weren't long enough to straddle him with enough left over to provide any lifting power). It simply looked like a no-win situation for both of us.
Looking back now, I don't recall if much if any of the main event happened. What I remember most is that this guy had a great personality and sense of humour, and though the woman I was working for wanted me out of his room on time (after 2 hrs—he knew he needed as well as wanted the extra time), I was in no hurry to leave because this guy was so much fun to spend time just talking to. That's what stands out in my mind when I look back on that appointment—how much I laughed and smiled, and how much I learned about how wrong it is to judge people with our eyes.
Granted, I've met some overweight people who do nothing to improve their bodies or their health and all they do is complain about how miserable and embarrassed they are that they feel fat and afraid of people judging them. They know it's a health issue and they're miserable because of it, yet they do nothing to change it and complain to everyone who will listen to them. I have a daughter like this and I know she can lose the weight because she's proven it before, and yet, as self-defeating as it is to always gripe about it, that's all she does.
This client knew he was morbidly obese and maybe that gets him down sometimes, yet he didn't let on and he didn't ruin our time together with it. He knew how to be happy and enjoy himself with an attractive woman and that made him very enjoyable to be with because it's not just about looks and you never know until you take that chance and spend some time with someone like that.
To refuse to is to prejudice someone based on a physical trait (which, though in this case they can eventually change, they can't do it before you knock on their door that evening), that may have little to do with their personality. It's the same thing as someone judging you as being a bad person because you're an escort when they've never met one before and haven't yet a clue who you are as a person. Human beings aren't one-dimensional, we're multi-faceted—we should never be judged by a physical trait, an occupation, a time in our life when we made decisions; we're so much more than these single aspects of our lives.
In any case, I have no regrets. He proved to me that a great attitude can make up for a guy who doesn't have the greatest looks.
I also learned that "as you judge you will also be judged." Basically, if you're going to walk in and be totally turned off by the other person's physical flaws, the negative energy you give off will likely cause them to feel defensive and judge your appearance too. And none of us are perfect.
Maybe if you simply open your mind and accept them as someone who needs and is worthy of affection and companionship regardless of their looks—just like you and everyone else—you might be very surprised by what the encounter teaches you about them, about life and people, and even about yourself.
That client taught me a lot and I changed for the better for having spent that time talking and laughing with him.
So the next time a lady here thinks it would be better to refuse such a gentleman because you don't think you could be comfortable with a guy who's carrying a bit more extra weight than you think is seemly or acceptable in your eyes, think again. Maybe a really positive learning opportunity is knocking on your door—an opportunity for you to become a better and more understanding person. Towards him, yourself, and everyone else around you.
I believe people come into our lives, however briefly, for a reason.
I cover my views about hygiene in my online ad, which basically amount to the fact that I go to the trouble to ensure that I'm very clean, so please have enough respect to put the same amount of effort into your own personal hygiene so we're both comfortable. The simple implication there is that if one of us is a bit uncomfortable with the other's lack of attention to their personal hygiene, it's probably not going to go well—nobody wants to get close to someone who clearly has no sense of pride in how they look and smell.
As for the morbid obesity issue, one of my first clients was a very heavy trucker. Admittedly, I was very nervous at first about the physical strategic aspects (i.e. the practical and safety considerations about who would be on top because he probably couldn't support his weight on his wrists or forearms without most of his body crushing or smothering mine and my legs clearly weren't long enough to straddle him with enough left over to provide any lifting power). It simply looked like a no-win situation for both of us.
Looking back now, I don't recall if much if any of the main event happened. What I remember most is that this guy had a great personality and sense of humour, and though the woman I was working for wanted me out of his room on time (after 2 hrs—he knew he needed as well as wanted the extra time), I was in no hurry to leave because this guy was so much fun to spend time just talking to. That's what stands out in my mind when I look back on that appointment—how much I laughed and smiled, and how much I learned about how wrong it is to judge people with our eyes.
Granted, I've met some overweight people who do nothing to improve their bodies or their health and all they do is complain about how miserable and embarrassed they are that they feel fat and afraid of people judging them. They know it's a health issue and they're miserable because of it, yet they do nothing to change it and complain to everyone who will listen to them. I have a daughter like this and I know she can lose the weight because she's proven it before, and yet, as self-defeating as it is to always gripe about it, that's all she does.
This client knew he was morbidly obese and maybe that gets him down sometimes, yet he didn't let on and he didn't ruin our time together with it. He knew how to be happy and enjoy himself with an attractive woman and that made him very enjoyable to be with because it's not just about looks and you never know until you take that chance and spend some time with someone like that.
To refuse to is to prejudice someone based on a physical trait (which, though in this case they can eventually change, they can't do it before you knock on their door that evening), that may have little to do with their personality. It's the same thing as someone judging you as being a bad person because you're an escort when they've never met one before and haven't yet a clue who you are as a person. Human beings aren't one-dimensional, we're multi-faceted—we should never be judged by a physical trait, an occupation, a time in our life when we made decisions; we're so much more than these single aspects of our lives.
In any case, I have no regrets. He proved to me that a great attitude can make up for a guy who doesn't have the greatest looks.
I also learned that "as you judge you will also be judged." Basically, if you're going to walk in and be totally turned off by the other person's physical flaws, the negative energy you give off will likely cause them to feel defensive and judge your appearance too. And none of us are perfect.
Maybe if you simply open your mind and accept them as someone who needs and is worthy of affection and companionship regardless of their looks—just like you and everyone else—you might be very surprised by what the encounter teaches you about them, about life and people, and even about yourself.
That client taught me a lot and I changed for the better for having spent that time talking and laughing with him.
So the next time a lady here thinks it would be better to refuse such a gentleman because you don't think you could be comfortable with a guy who's carrying a bit more extra weight than you think is seemly or acceptable in your eyes, think again. Maybe a really positive learning opportunity is knocking on your door—an opportunity for you to become a better and more understanding person. Towards him, yourself, and everyone else around you.
I believe people come into our lives, however briefly, for a reason.
Never got how guys can go see a lady smelling like a dump.....Fuck take a shower first and do not go in like a pig.
Also brush your teeth
Good advice, hahhahaNever got how guys can go see a lady smelling like a dump.....Fuck take a shower first and do not go in like a pig.
Also brush your teeth
I am happy to have clients of any shape, size, race or religion as long as they are respectful, shower and have good dental hygiene
