Gifts?

[itooam1]

Why do some of you give gifts to your SP.
What in the world would posses you to do such a thing?

If your out of pocket ,if your paying for a service why would you go beyond paying?
Its a service not a girlfriend....

Are you delusional?

If the typical response is its just a nice gesture for a personal service ,how many of you give gifts to your doctors or any of the other personal services you recieve from the other service industries?

 

[BrokeBastard]

Some give gifts/tips to get better service in the future or reward the great session they just had.

Some guys have the money to give gifts to SPs. You can't blame them.

 

[summerbreeze]

what don't you get about giving gifts???

the receiver is not the only one to benefit or feel good

people give because giving has its own rewards

 

[namssa]

This may tickle..........

Perhaps it is because we appreciate when the girl goes the extra mile and really shows us a good time. Sometimes when you give a girl a small gift, and the cost of the gift does not have to be a lot, they appreciate that you have done that and you could be rewarded with favours of some sort. Or they may remember the gift and you get something back in a future session. And, if you get nothing back, who cares really?

Maybe it is just a nice gesture for a personal service. Sometimes girls like to know that the guy she is seeing does not look at her only as a piece of meat, and that they see her as a person/lady as well.

Believe it or not, these girls are not providing a "typical service". It is a very personal service, and the girls have varying levels of performance and some guys like to show their appreciation in other ways than just throwing money at them.

I would rather have a sexy girl with a great body and rocking attitude show me a good time and give her a gift of appreciation for her efforts than buy a gift for a doctor or plumber or whatever that probably makes a whack more than me and does not really give a shit about me.

Believe it or not, but you are probably paying your doctor $200 - $300 to put on a rubber glove and stick his finger up your ass and tickle your prostate for you. If you are that tight with a buck, maybe your buddy can give you a prostate exam and you can save the taxpayers a bit of coin. You do the math.

 

[Unpossible]

I detect some bitterness in your post but have pondered this too.

I think it might be because some hobbyists think sex = intimacy. They desire a loving partner and will pay for and play along with the illusion.

Many people also tip their mailman at christmas even though s/he's already well compensated for their job.

 

[tom t runner]

If I have time, I will pick up a gift. she provides a service but to me, she is still a lady and deserves to be treated with respect (and a small gift)

 

[lenny]

Its a service not a girlfriend....

Are you delusional?

If the typical response is its just a nice gesture for a personal service ,how many of you give gifts to your doctors or any of the other personal services you recieve from the other service industries?

Yeah, delusional, as in a fantasy, for many of these guys,
is where there head is at. Giving a gift for the GF fantasy
is therefore a part of the delusion. Of course the same
would not apply to their doctor or dental hygenist, even
if they are females, since they are not sucking his dick,
even if she nudges her tits on him from time to time,
like i've experienced.

 

[Harmony-bc]

My take on it is this, I do not expect or ask for any tips or presents, but I definitely enjoy receiving them. They make me feel appreciated, and a little special. You can make me something or buy me something, spend $5 or $1000. It truly is the thought that counts. My service remains the same, but I might be feeling all warm and sweet inside All in all, I think if you do sweet things like bring chocolate, flowers, or a present you will be remembered and treated maybe a little more genuinely, not because you spent money, but because you were sweet. Women are like that, we notice the thoughtful things. Men notice the blow jobs

This does not mean the service will be less if you show up with out a present. I'm just saying, I like the gesture

 

[tom t runner]

My take on it is this, I do not expect or ask for any tips or presents, but I definitely enjoy receiving them. They make me feel appreciated, and a little special. You can make me something or buy me something, spend $5 or $1000. It truly is the thought that counts. My service remains the same, but I might be feeling all warm and sweet inside All in all, I think if you do sweet things like bring chocolate, flowers, or a present you will be remembered and treated maybe a little more genuinely, not because you spent money, but because you were sweet. Women are like that, we notice the thoughtful things. Men notice the blow jobs

This does not mean the service will be less if you show up with out a present. I'm just saying, I like the gesture

very true!

 

[hunsperger]

...

Every lady should be given a gift, what's wrong with you grinders? A swiffer, dust buster, rubber gloves and cleaning agents go a long way to leaving a lasting impression with a woman. Is it really too much to ask that you gentlemen have some class? Many of you have a lot to learn about the opposite sex.

indeed...

I always put together a gift basket of an assortment of various Comet products...

including the Lavender Powder Cleanser with bleach...

always a nice touch, and extremely practical...

 

[HB40]

Why do some of you give gifts to your SP.
What in the world would posses you to do such a thing?

Selfish reasons mostly.
I like the way my fave smells so I bought her the perfume so she continues to smell nice for me.
I like music during sessions, hers was broken and I was tired of listening to the radio so I gave her a new Ipod player so I could enjoy the sessions more.
Once in a while I might pick her up a coffee or a bottle of wine but thats just because I'm thirsty and was getting something for myself anyway.
When my Lilac tree blooms I'll probably bring her some flowers, I gotta keep pruning it anyway.

 

[itooam1]

.get better service
.giving has its own reward
.nice gesture
.sp not a typical service
.to improve your visits,perfume,music,style
.some have the money to give gifts

these are some of the reasons that have been listed for giving gifts.

starting at the top.

To get better service.....if the service isnt to your liking, you give gifts to improve the quality.
I see so i take my car to the mechanic and he sucks so i buy him/her tools so he does a better job...i dont think so, i find another mechanic.

Giving has its own reward....i agree giving does have its own reward, liking giving to those in need or without, like the food bank or to children whos parents cant afford certain things.
I wouldnt give to a woman who charges 200 hr for sex when its obvious she makes enough to care for herself, chose to do this for a living....kind of like giving a drug addict more money because they do drugs and cant work,right.

Nice gesture......i believe in nice gestures...its a way of life, like its nice to wear a condom than get an std or give one.So making sure they have condoms i think thats a nice gesture...lol.
Nice gestures are simple things that can lift a spirit or provide something for someone to make there day just a wee bit better..flowers,chocolate,cards..etc....i think new pieces or wardrobe isnt so much a gesture as it is a statement of you cant dress yourself.

SP is not a typical service.
Its pretty typical if you ask me.It is after all the oldest profesion in the world.I think its beyond typical myself, every woman i have dated has slept with me.....how many doctors give there services for free at any time?

To improve your visits
If your role playing and you need to provide something specific for your fantasy , its not a gift for them its one for yourself(big diff).Yet buying an SP an ipod so you can listen to better music or giving her a gift so she might give you better service(shake your heads)giving doesnt provide anything more than her providing lower service styles to those who dont give a gift.Like someone said"the girls remeber the gifts,like the men remember the bj" actually i dont quite think its that way ladies, poor service is what we remember..good service is rewarded with return visits, the gift that keeps on giving 200 at a time (or more)

Some just have the money .
having more or less money doesnt make one more or less stupid.

 

[MissTakes]

This thread serves an even more interesting purpose other than to explore the topic.

It's so fascinating to see where someone's real intention, purpose and heart is, and is so easily seen by the posts here.

I find it an amusing symptom of the disenchanted, disillusioned, disconnected society we live in that there are those that are actually arrogant and proud of their lack of humanity, heart and humanness.

It's just so sad, really, don't you think?

xoxo
Nina

I don't think so much sad as a sense of male false bravado. It's guys being guys. It's pretty easy to post nonsense anonymously on a forum like this where the intention is to cause a ruckus.

Every lady should be given a gift, what's wrong with you grinders? A swiffer, dust buster, rubber gloves and cleaning agents go a long way to leaving a lasting impression with a woman.

You've got that right babe but there are applications for this bad boy that men would never consider.

 

[uncleg]

I thought I was the only one who was this practically-inclined! Other gifts I have given (besides the HR gift card) are: generic soaps from the dollar stores; colouring books and crayons; pencils and erasers and staplers; calculators; potato chips; plastic forks and knives and paper plates; notebooks and duo-tangs; and Nike running shoes.[/QUOTE]

Very thoughtful of you. Helps them to get away faster the next time they see you coming.

 

[FortunateOne]

A gift is an alternative to a tip.
In service industries tips above the cost of the service is common.
With the sex biz, the service is a little more intimate, friendly and gfe-ish. Makes sense to bring chocolates, flowers, etc in lieu of a $ tip.

You don't get better or less than good service if you don't tip or gift. You would be remembered better, and therefore on future visits the things that you like best would be remembered better without reminders. Gifts are not normally presented on first visits, but later on in the relationship. If it makes it more of a bfe/gfe experience, who are we to judge?

It is fairly common practise to tip newspaper delivery, hair stylist, waiter, barista, exotic dancer, etc either at Xmas or at the time of service. Why would the OP try to shame or embarrass the clients who have done this, want to do this, or enjoy doing this?

Just a reminder that this particular OP enjoyed the company of a woman once as a paid companion, and apparently received the "gift" of a vehicle lol.

 

[itooam1]

FO

As usual your malice and self rightiuos bs is wrong.
I quote.."Why would the OP try to shame or embarrass the clients who have done this, want to do this, or enjoy doing this?

Just a reminder that this particular OP enjoyed the company of a woman once as a paid companion, and apparently received the "gift" of a vehicle lol."

I asked a question,if that is implies shame towards anyone....then i am a walking talking "DEMON of shame" for i always ask questions about that in which i dont understand.

As to the truck, the truck wasnt a gift for sexual services it was an out right gift from someone i never slept with,my man services were provided to someone completely different whom wanted to sleep with me in which i had no interest , so i charged her!

Recieving gifts for who you are is one thing...receiving gifts for services you provide is another all together.

So FO , get your facts straight ..you word twisting psycho, that is if you can get your head out of your ass long enough.

 

[HB40]

I asked a question,if that is implies shame towards anyone....then i am a walking talking "DEMON of shame" for i always ask questions about that in which i dont understand.

So FO , get your facts straight ..you word twisting psycho, that is if you can get your head out of your ass long enough.

My guess is demon of shame.

Exactly what is it you don't understand?
You so graciously explained the folly of each of our responses to your questions, you seem to have all the answers.
You are such an obvious ass.

 

[triplegun]

gifts

i have given a present before a candle, something cold to drink...weed and i even made dinner once. but i have tipped only once

 

[threepeat]

In a way, gifts aren't rational things anyway -- they are emotional ones, which is why any rational response you get is going to sound cold and calculating (eg., better service in the future, etc.). People give gifts because they want to. Otherwise, why should people exchange gifts at all at Christmas time? They should just tell their friends, "Look, I'm going to buy you something you don't want, you're going to buy me something I don't want, why don't we both just save our money and use it on ourselves?" Makes sense, sure. Is it fun? No.

But just to explore your question for the sake of exploring it, I would say SPs by and large deal in the pleasure business, which is why they elicit a more emotional response than say, getting your car fixed or getting your teeth cleaned. An orgasm by definition is an emotional thing.

If prostitution is really the oldest industry in the world, I would imagine so is tipping your favourite girl. Some of it has to do with making a girl feel good who made you feel good, some of it is human nature in wanting to be thought of as special (ie., be her favourite client), some more of it is male competitiveness (ie., getting your favourite girl the biggest and bestest present ever), and some of it is hoping for or expecting special treatment in return. These are the same feelings and expections people have in their other relationships, just with the volume dialed up because of the sexual component.

Gifts only make sense if you think of people as emotional creatures and not rational ones. Then it makes all the sense in the world.

 

[Kevin101]

We give gifts because we want to.

By giving a gift do I want something out of it? No of course not. It's who you are as a person if you have the spare money.

The gifts that I have gave away are: weed and a new cd that had previously came out the day before. Funny because she was going to go and buy it.

The gift(s) that I have recieved are: Priceless!