Fans stunned at Rihannas reconsiliation with Chris Brown

[wess]

This is just some reaction from entertainment reporters and fans. I took allot of heat for having the same opinion not long ago.

Fans could scarcely believe the news that came a week after a picture, showing the 21-year-old "Umbrella" singer with bruises to her face and swollen lips, was leaked on the Internet.

"All the abusive men are celebrating," Highroller33138 wrote in a posting on the MTV.com website. "It sets a terrible example for women everywhere. Rihanna really disappointed me."

"Stupid, really stupid. ... I hate women like this," wrote ladyofthelake in a posting on TVGuide.com



Typical battered woman syndrome.If there is an accurrance of a similar incident,don't be surprised.She has no business swinging at him first.She,perhaps,thought since I started the battering,I will accept my battering and make up.There is no action without an equal and opposite reaction.Next time they should just keep it at the verbal level and try to solve their problem without been physical abusive to each other.

POSTED BY: FEDUP on SAT, FEB 28, 2009 10:54 PM -0500

 

[overdone]

I took allot of heat for having the same opinion not long ago.

Your cookie will be waiting for you at the receptionist's desk. Feel free to pick it up anytime after noon.

 

[Thatotherguy]

This is just some reaction from entertainment reporters and fans. I took allot of heat for having the same opinion not long ago.

No, you took a lot of heat for blaming domestic abuse on the victims. You said that Rhianna created this situation because she wanted attention. Frankly, what you said is offensive in the extreme, and attitudes like yours contribute directly to victims staying with their abusers. You should be ashamed of yourself.

 

[island-guy]

Is anyone truely surprised that she went right back?

Some women actually seek out guys who are likely to abuse them, just as some women smoke when they know it will likely kill them and some girls have self-inflicted cutting marks all the way up both arms.

They need psychiatric help, but they aren't likely to go looking for it, they don't WANT to change.

So, what can you do?

What can anyone do?

Sure abusers are a-holes and they should be locked up, but plenty of studies have shown that after you lock up the abuser, the abused woman often just finds another guy who is going to treat her exactly the same way.

Not all abused women fit this pattern, lots of women take off after the first time a guy hits them and never look back. This isn't a case of that sort of a woman.

 

[Yman]

Is anyone truely surprised that she went right back?

Some women actually seek out guys who are likely to abuse them, just as some women smoke when they know it will likely kill them and some girls have self-inflicted cutting marks all the way up both arms.

They need psychiatric help, but they aren't likely to go looking for it, they don't WANT to change.

So, what can you do?

What can anyone do?

Sure abusers are a-holes and they should be locked up, but plenty of studies have shown that after you lock up the abuser, the abused woman often just finds another guy who is going to treat her exactly the same way.

Not all abused women fit this pattern, lots of women take off after the first time a guy hits them and never look back. This isn't a case of that sort of a woman.

Wow, I can see you've read Psychology Today while sitting in the waiting room at the Dentist Office. Your insight is almost as painful as a trip to the dentist.

There most likely is a history of abuse in Rhinna's life that goes back to her early childhood. It's not so simple for a victim to break the mold by simply saying ' I'm not going to date abusive guys in the future '. Most abusive guys are very good at masking their abusive tendancies. And many victims of abuse have complex guilt and acceptance that somehow they're responsible for the sexual abuse or beatings.

But I will give you Kudos for recognizing that most abuse victims need counseling from a professional so they can learn to end the cycle. They need to know that violence or sexual abuse in any form is unacceptable and it's not their fault ! I'm sure there are a few women and SPs on this review board who know first hand that fits possible to end the cycle to become empowered from an abusive past !

 

[Yman]

I guess we'll see if the LA district attorney decides to press charges. Clearly its not permissable or acceptable to assault another person in the USA or Canada.

 

[FortunateOne]

A meeting is hardly a reconciliation; an unnamed source is hardly an insider. Neither publicist for either side had any comments for the People article, but they must have used the "unnamed source" for the headlines. Well, it sell magazines.

These two people are in the public eye. This situation harms both careers, in one way or another. Figuring out some way to deal with it publically is the best for both sides, which is no doubt why neither side's PR people yet had any comments to make.

 

[island-guy]

Wow, I can see you've read Psychology Today while sitting in the waiting room at the Dentist Office.

It would have had to be a very old copy.

Psychologists have been too busy being politically correct for the last 40 years to actually get ANYTHING right.

 

[athaire]

There most likely is a history of abuse in Rhinna's life that goes back to her early childhood. It's not so simple for a victim to break the mold by simply saying ' I'm not going to date abusive guys in the future '. Most abusive guys are very good at masking their abusive tendancies. And many victims of abuse have complex guilt and acceptance that somehow they're responsible for the sexual abuse or beatings.

But I will give you Kudos for recognizing that most abuse victims need counseling from a professional so they can learn to end the cycle. They need to know that violence or sexual abuse in any form is unacceptable and it's not their fault ! I'm sure there are a few women and SPs on this review board who know first hand that fits possible to end the cycle to become empowered from an abusive past !

There ya go...fixed that for you so you don't come off like a complete condescending asshole. This portion of the post is really quite informative and productive....

And I agree with you by the way......

 

[deslicher]

Lets hope they don't turn into a bobby brown and whitney houston....it's not likely because there doesn't seem to be a drug issue....yet.

Hopefully they'll both move on but I wouldn't bet on it because they're so young and don't know any better yet.

 

[moi]

Even though the abuse could stem from her earlier life, I think that, as a public figure and a person MANY young women look up to, she has a responsibility to the public. Just like any politician, mayor, president, actor, singer, they should all be role models because they are in the public eye SO MUCH.

IF she loves him and wants to continue getting battered I think she should get out of the music business and not bring the limelight into her life.

 

[deslicher]

I'm not suggesting that CB wasn't wrong for what he did. Of course he was.

But would it change anyone's perceptions if it turns out that Rihanna assaulted him first?

Yes, for me it would in a way, but my perspective is not common in that I've probably had some different experiences than most of you.

 

[island-guy]

Just like any politician, mayor, president, actor, singer, they should all be role models because they are in the public eye SO MUCH.

Rap singers are such GREAT role models.

Heavy metal rock stars are too...

If your kid's role model is in the music business, it's all over.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

Even though the abuse could stem from her earlier life, I think that, as a public figure and a person MANY young women look up to, she has a responsibility to the public. Just like any politician, mayor, president, actor, singer, they should all be role models because they are in the public eye SO MUCH.

IF she loves him and wants to continue getting battered I think she should get out of the music business and not bring the limelight into her life.

The problem is that her head is probably so twisted and confused that she not only doesn't see herself as an abused woman, she probably also feels responsible and guilty over what happened. Obviously the kid isn't always beating on her, so she has lots of other (good) things about him, things he's done, moments, memories, whatever that are also acting as a rubberband between the two of them. It isn't all simple, straightforward, black and white for her, like it may be for anyone of us on the outside. She's probably feeling like it was partly her fault, that maybe she provoked him, or maybe......... it can be endless, but I can guarantee it isn't as simple as her being a battered or abused gf and he just an abuser she needs to stay away from in order to be an example.

Besides, an example doesn't mean an example of perfection or of a sheltered life. An example means someone who's been through shit, and had a hard time, problems.... and has learned from it and come out stronger and better. We don't know if that'll be her yet, but if she does go back to him, it still doesn't mean much, it may just mean she hasn't learned what she needs to yet. She's 18, that's the best time (if there is one) to go through this when it's puppy love, as opposed to later in life when you've married the greaseball, had kids, taken up smoking crack, have given up a career and are stuck just rotting away.

You can't force someone to leave when they don't want to, they have to come to those conclusions and make that decision for themselves. She could still very much be an example even if it takes her some more time to walk away.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

Rap singers are such GREAT role models.

Heavy metal rock stars are too...

If your kid's role model is in the music business, it's all over.

Well aren't you just a big 'ol ray of sunshine today.