Would You Be Excited / Repulsed By A S.O. Working As An S.P.?

[PregnancyLover32]

I saw an interesting "closed" thread with the same header, "How Would You Feel If Your Significant Other Was A Service Provider?"

Personally, I'd love it & be scared by it at the same time. The thought of her taking-on girls, guys, and/or couples would make me incredibly jealous & turned on, at the same time. All I ask for, is honesty in the meantime. Just the fact that she ~is~ a service provider right from the beginning, with the automatic understanding that she's going to (at some point,) get 'burned out' on sex.

It would be an incredible masturbatory experience, but as others noted, pregnancy & other possibilities may dampen the reality. I'm a Voyeur & An Exhibitionist, but I'd have to back off & let her decide how much of her sexuality she wants to bring into her inner sanctum away from the clientele, even if it is for my exclusive pleasure.

 

[liveforthefunk]

i could never deal with it. I would never date an SP nor would i continue a relationship with somebody who i discovered is an SP

 

[geek]

I'm pretty sure I would be okay with it, as I understand (now) there is a difference between sex and love. Loving someone is different than having sex with them, you can have sex with someone and not love them and you can love someone and not have sex with them.

 

[Harmony-bc]

I'm pretty sure I would be okay with it, as I understand (now) there is a difference between sex and love. Loving someone is different than having sex with them, you can have sex with someone and not love them and you can love someone and not have sex with them.

Absolutely, and you can be emotionally faithful to someone while your body is fucking other people. There is no black and white, right or wrong, just shades of grey. I personally don't believe in monogomy, and I have a high sex drive. I would suffocate in a normal traditional relationship. Its just like any job, watch for the signs of burnout, take time off when needed. Know how to say no or yes, lol. Be true to yourself, and communication is the key to any kind of relationship.

 

[BJhunter]

Be true to yourself, and communication is the key to any kind of relationship.

So does that mean you'll allow me to cum on your face? hehehe

 

[athaire]

I'm pretty sure I would be okay with it, as I understand (now) there is a difference between sex and love. Loving someone is different than having sex with them, you can have sex with someone and not love them and you can love someone and not have sex with them.

Loving someone is very very different than simply having sex with them. You hit the nail on the head with this statement........

Absolutely, and you can be emotionally faithful to someone while your body is fucking other people. There is no black and white, right or wrong, just shades of grey. I personally don't believe in monogomy, and I have a high sex drive. I would suffocate in a normal traditional relationship. Its just like any job, watch for the signs of burnout, take time off when needed. Know how to say no or yes, lol. Be true to yourself, and communication is the key to any kind of relationship.

I think that it is very possible to have a monogamous relationship emotionally while involved with an SP. Monogamy is something different to each couple I suppose, I know that as long as there is no "sport" fucking going on and the emotional connection is honored above all else it can be a very highly satisfying relationship to be in.

Granted there are obstacles that need to be dealt with as time goes by, but that is true of every relationship. as Harmony said....."communication is key to any kind of relationship".....

While I respect and understand any guys that claim to not be able to deal with that due to jealously etc.......I would say that you are seriously limiting yourselves by cutting out the possibility of ever seeing any woman due to their job, religion, race etc......

As far as "burn out" goes, well I look at it like any job. You do it to much and you need some time away from it. But the OP doesn't realize that like Geek said love and sex are different animals. And while your SP GF may be burning out from work sex that would not necessarily mean that she is coming home and denying you. It would stand to reason that because she is in a relationship with you she would want to be spending that kind of intimate time with you. Its different with the one you love, as any that have been in a relationship know.....

 

[moi]

i have a high sex drive too but I just need to find someone im compatible with.
Personally for me, I wouldn't date a man who was a stripper or SP and I wouldn't date someone who was ok with me being an SP. That's just me though.

 

[Harmony-bc]

Loving someone is very very different than simply having sex with them. You hit the nail on the head with this statement........



I think that it is very possible to have a monogamous relationship emotionally while involved with an SP. Monogamy is something different to each couple I suppose, I know that as long as there is no "sport" fucking going on and the emotional connection is honored above all else it can be a very highly satisfying relationship to be in.

Granted there are obstacles that need to be dealt with as time goes by, but that is true of every relationship. as Harmony said....."communication is key to any kind of relationship".....

While I respect and understand any guys that claim to not be able to deal with that due to jealously etc.......I would say that you are seriously limiting yourselves by cutting out the possibility of ever seeing any woman due to their job, religion, race etc......

As far as "burn out" goes, well I look at it like any job. You do it to much and you need some time away from it. But the OP doesn't realize that like Geek said love and sex are different animals. And while your SP GF may be burning out from work sex that would not necessarily mean that she is coming home and denying you. It would stand to reason that because she is in a relationship with you she would want to be spending that kind of intimate time with you. Its different with the one you love, as any that have been in a relationship know.....

very intelligent post and it all agrees with me, lol

 

[smackyo]

I'm pretty sure I would be okay with it, as I understand (now) there is a difference between sex and love. Loving someone is different than having sex with them, you can have sex with someone and not love them and you can love someone and not have sex with them.

easy to say til one is in that situation. i used to see it like that, but when it comes right down to it, when you love someone and she is out getting porked by some other dude........................ that would bother lets say at least 7 out of 10 guys.

more often then not, i don't see a relationship like that working out long term.

 

[Guardian Angel]

Personally for me, I wouldn't date a man who was a stripper or SP and I wouldn't date someone who was ok with me being an SP. That's just me though.

So does that mean you would quit if you met someone who wasn't okay with you being an SP? Or if you were an SP, would you "not" date someone while in that industry?

Just curious.

G.A.

 

[moi]

So does that mean you would quit if you met someone who wasn't okay with you being an SP? Or if you were an SP, would you "not" date someone while in that industry?

Just curious.

G.A.

yea, i'm back in the dating scene which is why I have more shifts at my "legit" job now...easier to explain what I do lol....but to be honest, i enjoy being an SP which is why I still take some appointments xD

but if i found someone that i got serious with, there would probably be the next step of moving in together and/or marriage so I would quit. money and sex is great, but sex and love is better /ok

 

[Guardian Angel]

but if i found someone that i got serious with, there would probably be the next step of moving in together and/or marriage so I would quit.

Hi Moi

I am not trying to be a pain, but this is where I get confused.

While being an SP you would date. Now I am not saying this is wrong, just can't get through your logic as to not dating someone who was a stripper etc, but you yourself, would date while you were still an SP. Am I reading this right?

I have no objection to dating an SP or seeing an Sp date. If it feels like the right thing to do, all is well.

Thanks

G.A.

 

[smackyo]

Hi Moi

I am not trying to be a pain, but this is where I get confused.

While being an SP you would date. Now I am not saying this is wrong, just can't get through your logic as to not dating someone who was a stripper etc, but you yourself, would date while you were still an SP. Am I reading this right?

I have no objection to dating an SP or seeing an Sp date. If it feels like the right thing to do, all is well.

Thanks

G.A.

she is maybe being a little hypocritical but i can see where she is going with this. i'd have no problem "dating" or "casually" seeing someone that works in this industry but when things get a little more serious then thats when all involved have to buck up a little realize that that profession isn't the best one for a new relationship.

i love the way she put it.

sex and money = great

sex and love = better

or something like that.


p.s. post #1400 "yeah muthafucka right back on yo ass, i hid the bushes and i crept up through the grass."

 

[therealrex]

I'd be okay with it if she payed for my gold chains and big fur hat.

 

[BJhunter]

It's Ok w/ me as long as she sucks good cock

Extremely good cock to make up for for her sucking other good cocks

 

[moi]

Hi Moi

I am not trying to be a pain, but this is where I get confused.

While being an SP you would date. Now I am not saying this is wrong, just can't get through your logic as to not dating someone who was a stripper etc, but you yourself, would date while you were still an SP. Am I reading this right?

I have no objection to dating an SP or seeing an Sp date. If it feels like the right thing to do, all is well.

Thanks

G.A.

Well, because I'm just "dating". To me that means, no sexual relations yet, still getting to know each other. Beyond the month mark or whenever I actually start to really like the person and I see it as going further on his part, then I would stop.
It's like seeing someone from another town, you wouldn't move there or fly there til you think it's worth it and/or gonna last right? Why would I stop if it's just a few dates and doesn't go further.

 

[Guardian Angel]

Well, because I'm just "dating". To me that means, no sexual relations yet, still getting to know each other. Beyond the month mark or whenever I actually start to really like the person and I see it as going further on his part, then I would stop.
It's like seeing someone from another town, you wouldn't move there or fly there til you think it's worth it and/or gonna last right? Why would I stop if it's just a few dates and doesn't go further.

Thanks, I get your point. I am old and sometimes a little thick in the head. Hmmm, that could be a good thing if in the right location, lol.

Have a good day Moi!

G.A.

 

[moi]

I agree completely with liveforthe funk.

what if she USED to be an SP in the past but isn't now

 

[athaire]

Like it or not, sex is a form of intimacy. Yes, there is sport fucking...mindless penetration. But when your SO starts getting wet as a client to whom she is physically attracted starts to kiss her neck and fondle her breasts. Then he goes down on her and she orgasms like she never has before and then begs him to take her doggy style...you are OK with that?? Oh...and by the way she orgasms again in reverse cowgirl.

Of course that never happens...or at least not too often.

No, it is not love, just sex. But are you OK with it because it is paying her bills...I mean if she was a realtor and having meaningless sex with co-workers or clients would that be different...she would just be having sex with them right?

LOL.......well that is one way of looking at it isn't it.....Thankfully not all of us see things in that way. A job is a job, certainly there will be times when that is fullfilling, insert your puns here, but that doesn't mean that she would be seeing that person on the side now does it? If there remains an exchange of cash with the person then why should it bother anyone? Not every one of us pooners is Brad Pitt.....but we aren't all gross losers either.

 

[ChineseDude]

what if she USED to be an SP in the past but isn't now

she better be doing a lot of kegel excercise... but i'll be fine with that, only if she quits for me.