my husband is off pooning 1st time

[melissa.in.abby]

so, I had been wanting to find an sp for my husband and I. it is fairly pricey though. I couldn't wait any longer. I sent him in the shower looked up valleygirlz #. Gave him the # told him to call. He set up appointment and is there right now.

Stupid me though!! The girl had already asked if she can phone him back he said "of course", she calls back and they finalize. He leaves.

At the exact time he is supposed to be there she calls back and when I answer she says "oh wrong #". I say, "oh, it is okay, you can talk to me" then I say (doh!) "are you looking for my husband?". Of course, she says "no, I was phoning my friend Stephanie, one # off". I am such a heat score, lol... probably freaked the poor girl out.

I know she was waiting for the 2nd girl to show up. Hubby probably got there early she made him wait, and was phoning to tell him all good, lol... my guess anyways.

Can't wait until he gets home to tell me about, the sex will be good tonight!
I am a pile of nerves right now though

 

[melissa.in.abby]

I just like to live vicariously through my husband(s cock), haha

 

[HB40]

Can't wait until he gets home to tell me about, the sex will be good tonight!
I am a pile of nerves right now though

LOL, that sounds awesome. Have fun tonight, I'm sure it will be something special for you both.

I get so turned on for my wife after. I once had a MSOG duo session that was epic, I was wrecked! When I got home less than an hour later my wife jumped my bones and I was fully aroused, much to my relief. I don't think I've ever impressed her more, it sure wasn't marriage sex.

 

[melissa.in.abby]

So you know what I am talking about! ... I can't believe you still had it in you after a duo MSOG session! I am so excited for hubby right now. It has been a long time since he has been with another women ;-)

 

[melissa.in.abby]

Aw... shit he is home already... he says she was the biggest girl he had ever been with. I told him he should have walked out. He says he won't do it again :-( ....I am so pissed, we just wasted our hard earned money. That was Valleygirlz in abby ... is there really nothing out here???

 

[trackstar]

Aw... shit he is home already... he says she was the biggest girl he had ever been with. I told him he should have walked out. He says he won't do it again :-( ....I am so pissed, we just wasted our hard earned money. That was Valleygirlz in abby ... is there really nothing out here???

Yeah, you!

 

[melissa.in.abby]

haha... no comment as I don't want thread deleted, or to be banned.
that was really dissappointing though.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

I told someone his wife (most of yor wives) would still be having sex, great sex and lots of sex with him (with most of you) if they were fucking other men, knew and were okay with you fucking other women. I honestly believe that, were attitudes and views on sex, marriage and monogamy different..... well, I guess that might make me out of a job, wouldn't!

His answer was that she wasn't really for that idea, which obviously didn't surprise me..not many women are. But the truth is that even if all wives suddenly decided they were okay with it, the big majority of men out there could not handle it, even those who play around themselves. So the problem definitely isn't only with women not being willing to look past monogamy.

But I bet you monogamy is the #1 cause behind the death of married ppl's sex life, not kids, work or stress. Monogamy. Who wants to eat the same thing for dinner every night? After you've prepared it the exact same way, it tastes the exact same way? It gets boring, routine.. unless you change things up. Men and women are just wired different, which is why men can still get aroused or want to have sex, even if they're not as excited as they were in the beginning.. I think women can's as much and just give up because getting into becomes more of a hassle, and there's dishes and laundry to do anyway. Sometimes if it's really been a while, they think - ok I'll just lay on my back until he's done and he'll leave me alone for couple of weeks. Just wired waaaay different.


I think that's awesome melissa.in.abby.. #1 it's great to hear about marriages like yours and #2 it's equally great to hear about husbands like yours. Maybe I'll find one like him when I grow up. Hmm Maybe I'll put that in my Christmas letter to Santa. I've been good this year, I'm sure those elves can do something nice for me. Ha! kidding.

But thanks for sharing, my optimism is back again for a little bit at least.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

Aw... shit he is home already... he says she was the biggest girl he had ever been with. I told him he should have walked out. He says he won't do it again :-( ....I am so pissed, we just wasted our hard earned money. That was Valleygirlz in abby ... is there really nothing out here???

oh sorry to hear that that sucks

haha... no comment as I don't want thread deleted, or to be banned.
that was really dissappointing though.

You should get him to write a review.

 

[t1163]

What!!

Yeah, you!

Aren't you tired of pretending to be a guy?

 

[melissa.in.abby]

oh sorry to hear that that sucks







You should get him to write a review.

I would but I wouldn't want to get flagged for same computer - different users and he is severly dyslexic, so no one would understand it anyways, lol. I am going to right something somewhere though.

He wanted to stay in town but now I am regreting not getting him to phone Misty in New West, or Betty I think they might be good matches and they are not too far. I told him we will just go back to swinging, he likes that hobby... unless I go to the bank and then set up a date with Misty for him... hehe

 

[FortunateOne]

There's a thread re: Abbotsford maybe in 411?
April is mentioned and Vanesssa.
In Langley there is Ann, Kerri-Anna, a few others (plus you lol)

It sounds like the sps size was an issue? Someone who has a preference for very slender body types is going to be a bit overwhelmed by a curvier build. This can be overshadowed by great attitude/service but it sure can have an impact.

He might not mind travelling during the daytime, so you can look further afield like Surrey/New West (Betty and Misty) or choosing someone who is experienced and really good at making first-timers feel comfortable is a good idea too.

 

[melissa.in.abby]

There's a thread re: Abbotsford maybe in 411?
April is mentioned and Vanesssa.
In Langley there is Ann, Kerri-Anna, a few others (plus you lol)

It sounds like the sps size was an issue? Someone who has a preference for very slender body types is going to be a bit overwhelmed by a curvier build. This can be overshadowed by great attitude/service but it sure can have an impact.

He might not mind travelling during the daytime, so you can look further afield like Surrey/New West (Betty and Misty) or choosing someone who is experienced and really good at making first-timers feel comfortable is a good idea too.

You are right, I have been researching for so long and then I just got so worked up thinking about him being with someone else I just rushed him into it. I think maybe if it had been Kelly from valleygirlz it would have been okay.

I think he is okay with average body types (well I hope so mine is pretty average! lol) but he seemed to think she was quite large and she wasn't very good at anything she did from massage to cbj. He did say her face was pretty and she was a sweet enough girl....

He did make me feel good though, he thinks I am extra special now, lol... but afetr so long of being together it is not the same as a someone new and exciting... and not the wife lol

 

[tootall204]

You are right, I have been researching for so long and then I just got so worked up thinking about him being with someone else I just rushed him into it. I think maybe if it had been Kelly from valleygirlz it would have been okay.

I think he is okay with average body types (well I hope so mine is pretty average! lol) but he seemed to think she was quite large and she wasn't very good at anything she did from massage to cbj. He did say her face was pretty and she was a sweet enough girl....

He did make me feel good though, he thinks I am extra special now, lol... but afetr so long of being together it is not the same as a someone new and exciting... and not the wife lol

Sounds to me like your business is slow and you are trashing the local competition. Pretty sad

You are not a advertiser here and are using this place to drum up business

 

[trackstar]

Aren't you tired of pretending to be a guy?

Don't you get tired of starting shit for absolutely no reason? Grow up child

 

[melissa.in.abby]

Actually I had recommended them before as one of my clients did have a good time there. I am proud of my local competition, I believe we offer different things ... I geniunely wanted my husband to enjoy himself, trust me on that, lol!

 

[lickrolaine]

Actually I had recommended them before as one of my clients did have a good time there. I am proud of my local competition, I believe we offer different things ... I geniunely wanted my husband to enjoy himself, trust me on that, lol!

you are a class act,forget the naysayers,

 

[melissa.in.abby]

Just a correction that I am in Langley not Abbotsford

And I would be happy to see your husband if I may be someone that interests him

Vanessa, My hubby would be very pleased to be with you I am sure! Your definitely on our short list, if we are ever in the (financial) position for him to be able to poon again

 

[tantalizeme]

Thanks for this exceptionally intriguing post

Hey Melissa, let me applaud your courage in offering us this fascinating glimpse of your personal life. I love the existential rawness of it and totally relate—combining long-term intimacy with erotic intensity remains the greatest unsolved problem of my own life as well.

The images you painted last night, of sending your husband out into the arms of another SP, only to have him come back early and dejected, reporting that the girl you’d set him up with was “the biggest girl he had ever been with” who “wasn’t very good at anything she did from massage to cbj”—these images keep haunting my imagination even today. Your saddest sentence, for me: “…we just wasted our hard-earned money.”

My thoughts about this scenario, and the marital drama no doubt playing out in the background, form a rather chaotic tangle, not all of them "politically correct" (my thoughts seldom are):

1. I applaud the open relationship you two have—the only kind of relationship that could work for me. But even open relationships generally need some degree of balance in the extra-marital forays of both partners. I imagine arranging for your husband to see another SP wasn't just a selfless desire to let him enjoy sexual variety but also an attempt to correct the imbalance created by your work as an SP? (Just checked your website and like what I see, including your menu: "MSOG; GFE including DATY, LFK, DFK. I also enjoy BBBJ, CIM, COF, COT....") mmmm

2. Your husband's experience last night certainly drives home the incredible asymmetry in men's and women's opportunities with respect to sex. You get paid—your husband has to pay; and all he gets is a girl who’s neither very attractive nor good at anything she does; and he wasn't even motivated to try FS with her? Yes, so many men, perhaps the majority, spend most of their lives in a wasteland of sexual neediness...perhaps part of the lesson of your story is to make you and others more empathetic about men's situation?

3. Your story also makes me appreciate Vancouver again for what’s available here in terms of SPs (and rates), compared apparently to bible belt Abbotsford. You suggest, repeatedly, that money isn't exactly in abundant supply for the two of you; and now lovely Vannessa from Langely generously offers her services to your husband—for $$$.5/hr. I can only hope as a professional colleague you get a special discount for your husband. It's a cruel world out there for sex-needy but cash-starved men, isn't it?

4. You say your dyslexic husband couldn't produce an intelligible review of yesterday's encounter. I wonder if this tidbit shows affection or disrespect. Surely, with a bit of help from someone as articulate as yourself, a terrific write-up based on his oral report could easily be put together?

But thanks so much for sharing, Melissa—I sincerely hope you can maintain the primary connection with your husband, even if you may face a somewhat obstacle-strewn path ahead.

 

[melissa.in.abby]

Oh Crap! Tantalizeme has picked my brain and I am embarrassed, lol
First I was being very whinny last night, ehm :S ... I have to admit that on reflection.

It does give a higher appreciation for how you boys feel. My husband wanted some one (other than me? more able than me?) to make him feel special. That didn't happen, and honestly he has no desire to poon again.

Even more honestly it was me who suggested it, figured out how to do it, and practically kicked him out the door to do it. There is a definite desire to make it feel more even in our relationship. He likes to be with other people to but it is heck of a lot easier for me to be with other people. He thinks I am a good SP (I know some people may think I am a bad SP, for some of the same reasons) and he would like to have the experience that others get with me.

It was underhanded of me (and not very discrete) to say what I said about his literacy. If he desired to write a review (or I forced him to, yes I should be ashamed of myself, I am a control freak!), I could certainly edit it for clarity. There was no need for me to bring that up, and that probably does signify something about our relationship that I am not going to ponder out loud about right now.

As for the lovely Vanessa, you see our dilemma there, lol ;-) I would never want, nor expect her to lower her rates for any reason. I am sure she is worth it.