Off the top of my head.. a few tips. lol
- Be/Act confident,
- Be considerate & Respect her boundaries:
1) DO NOT push, whine, beg or try to negociate her limits. All of this (the whining & begging especially) is the ultimate fastest way to kill the mood. Really. NOT sexy.
- Don't make the money exchange a big deal. Be a little smooth here!
1) Just put the money in a visible place within the first few minutes. This will instantly get her to relax a little more.
2) DO NOT count it out loud. Not even once, and for the love of god, please, if you must do it, at least do not do it twice.
3) It is preferable to bring the donation in paper currency. I guess some coins is okay if you must, but again if she is going to have to sit down making little piles in order to count it later... that's NOT okay, just stop at the convenience store and get some paper bills, will ya? Better you than her later. But that's if you must. Because otherwise, you just shouldn't.
- Relaxed & easy going attitude
1) Don't go into it with a mental checklist of what you need to accomplish before the end of your appointment.. just go with the flow!
2) Don't act like it's a performance test or a race.
3) DO NOT focus solely on the orgasm (yours or hers!) or be 'goal oriented' to the point of obsession. Instead, just enjoy the ride (do not calculate your level of manliness or your skills as a lover *only* by whether or not she cums. ---> Foreign concept to a lot of you, I know, but women CAN have a wicked time despite the fact that there is no big O finish... (most of us anyway)
4) DO NOT repeatedly ask her if she's gonna cum. That's the best way to make sure she doesn't. Not while you're trying anyway.
5) Know when it's just not going to happen. We understand your resilience but sometimes ya gotta just face it, it is just not going to happen no matter how long she keeps jerking/riding/blowing you! Consider that maybe her jaw/arm/pussy are getting sore at this point..? Wishful thinking is pointless in situations like these and only leads to frustration. Enjoy the ride. No one likes a sore loser, just face it, this is not a goal you're making, not today anyway. And that's fine... it happens, and obsessing over it doesn't help in any way so relax and don't turn it into an awkward moment when it doesn't need to be. Look at it this way, admitting this early on means you get to keep your dignity, that the date ends on a good note and that you're more likely to get invited again.
- Great hygiene
1) It takes less than 5 minutes to soap up the areas of interest & rinse off! So please, for the love of god, ACCEPT the shower! Even if you've just showered & ESPECIALLY if your last shower was more than an hour or 2 earlier! Suggest an accompanied shower if it makes it more appealing to you.. but ACCEPT the shower. Got it?
2) Grooming efforts (at least some) are noticed, do matter and ARE rewarded.
3) If there is mouthwash in her washroom, USE IT. I don't care if you just came from the dentist, just had a gum or mint.. just USE the mouthwash because that is exactly what it is there for, for you to use. So USE IT.
- Kissing:
1)Follow her lead! Can't go wrong, trust me..
2) DO NOT stick your tongue down her throat in the first 10 seconds (in most cases, not at all, ever.)
3) If, and only IF she seems to welcome this (most of us only prefer in moderation & definitely without the twirling around and around and around. Personally that just makes me dizzy)....
4) Just leaving your tongue idle, not moving halfway down her throat, is NOT sexy and in no way, shape or form is it a turn on. Yes, I do realize the expression (or service) is called
deep French kissing, but that doesn't mean the expression should be take literally. You don't actually expect to go on a cruise around the Greek Islands when you ask to "go to Greece', do you? Well, then please, please, please do not assault her tonsils with your tongue. Do
you even enjoy that yourself?
5) DO NOT slobber all over her face,
- Communicate (if you're enjoying or if not so much..)
1) Gentle direction is okay to give because believe it or not, the equipment might be the same... but you guys do not like it operated the same. Not even close..
2) And unfortunately, she most likely doesn't read minds (if she does, good for you) so even if you don't feel comfortable telling her what you enjoy and don't, at least give her some feedback or at least a freaking clue using pretty obvious body language or whatever. Would you not be a tad freaked out if you happened to look up as you're dining, only to see her staring at the ceiling or the wall with a blank unreadable look on her face? Let me tell you this.. you would be freaked out. Cause it is weird. So, if you are shy, uncomfortable or simply do not like for her to look up (yes, there are some of you who do not enjoy BJ eye contact), just say it!
- DO NOT EVER assume she likes anything the same way (pressure, speed, force, etc) as any of the other girls you've been with in the past;
1) start slowly and softly & work from there
2)pay attention to her reaction, body language, moans (or what she tells you) and let that guide what you're doing. No one expects you to re-invent the wheel here, but a little creativity and trying a few different styles
certainly never hurts either. You might be really surprised at what turns out being most enjoyable for her.
