Should I Get an Escort?

[Rammstein69]

Here's my story guys. I'm in my late 30's and I haven't had a girlfriend since my late 20's. I've had some self-esteem and confidence issues in this area and I've just given up on the dating scene. I'm very shy to boot, so it definately doesn't help my cause.

I've recently tried some on-line dating sites with no success and no face to face meetings. I'm actually not too bad looking and I'm in good shape, clean cut, and take good care of myself. I earn a very good living too.

Since my social skills are so poor around women, am I best to use an escort to 're-establish' a physical connection with a woman? I think this may help me feel more like a man again and provide me with with a boost of much needed confidence.

I've never done anything like this before, so I'm not exactly sure what to expect. I'm in Saskatoon, not sure what's available there for escort services. Thanks for the advice in advance.

 

[timhorton]

This isn't meant to be derisive towards you, but if your confidence is so low, your money would be better spent on some counseling so you can learn some skills for connecting with people. Counseling isn't a bad thing. Everyone can use a good counselor.

Paying someone for attention won't cure esteem problems; it will likely exa****ate (umm... e.x.a.c.e.r.b.a.t.e.) the problem. It's make-believe.

 

[Sonny]

Nothing wrong with trying an escort. But let it be an established professional with a capacity to make a man feel at ease and then encourage the rest out of that. "Dates" with escorts are not the same thing as a relationship with a girlfriend or significant other, and one would have to avoid confusing the two through a fantasy attachment to a SP. If you feel you want feel physically more like a man again, then why not visit an escort for an interlude of companionship and sex?

It is not the case that seeing an escort will improve your skills with women in ordinary social settings. These are usually interactive communication skills, more than anything else. Perhaps there are group social activities which would help you develop communication ability without the burden of trying to make a match - various types of activities from organized mixed bowling, non-credit evening university classes, various groups which present speakers or films related to particular group interests, bridge clubs, art gallery clubs, etc., etc.

 

[AA_Train]

Nothing wrong with trying an escort. But let it be an established professional with a capacity to make a man feel at ease and then encourage the rest out of that. "Dates" with escorts are not the same thing as a relationship with a girlfriend or significant other, and one would have to avoid confusing the two through a fantasy attachment to a SP. If you feel you want feel physically more like a man again, then why not visit an escort for an interlude of companionship and sex?

It is not the case that seeing an escort will improve your skills with women in ordinary social settings. These are usually interactive communication skills, more than anything else. Perhaps there are group social activities which would help you develop communication ability without the burden of trying to make a match - various types of activities from organized mixed bowling, non-credit evening university classes, various groups which present speakers or films related to particular group interests, bridge clubs, art gallery clubs, etc., etc.

Good point. When I first started seeing escorts I did it to get myself out of a funk as well. It took the pressure off and since then my personal dating has improved. I still use escorts to supplement my sometimes heroic sex drive, but I feel no compulsion to see them. If I did, I'd stop.

If you want to jump start your social life, do what sonny said in participating in a co-ed activity, something social, non-threatening where you can just talk to women. If you do decide to see an escort, find one who fits your physical and philosophical ideals and when you're with them relax and enjoy the experience.

 

[terryj]

My thoughts

We have a lot in common, I too have the same problem. I think it wouldn't be a bad ideal to see a Sp, one I would try is sydneysparlour.com, she is in Saskatoon, on Perb with good reviews. In my case I have been with a lot of sp's, I still can't talk to girls easily, but I can have sex with a chick like nothing to it, kind of backwards isn't it. It's so easy being with a escort, all you have to do is pick up the phone call her and make an appointment, she's not going to turn you down. A lot less frustrating than trying to pick up a regular girlfriend. But it does have it's drawbacks, pooning is just like gambling if you don't contol your urges, you can spend all your money. Just my thoughts, I would try it if I was you but keep it in control.

 

[SInCity67]

GO to rsdnation.com , read the game and go to the attractionforums.com It will help you with skills with women. In the mean time, fuck a couple escorts

 

[sgtpubs]

2 sides to every story

Hey, I should hook you up with my sister. She in her early 30's, has it all but also has problems meeting guys. It's a funny old world and as you can see your not alone and it effects both sexes. In fact I'd wager there are more women complaining of this problem than healthy your studs like yourself.

 

[hot-doggie]

Here's my story guys. I'm in my late 30's and I haven't had a girlfriend since my late 20's. I've had some self-esteem and confidence issues in this area and I've just given up on the dating scene. I'm very shy to boot, so it definately doesn't help my cause.

I've recently tried some on-line dating sites with no success and no face to face meetings.

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Oh great just what this boards needs is another loser in life there are simply to many here already – oh wait most of the losers were banned and are now on the other board. You might want to try over there.

 

[Rammstein69]

Oh great just what this boards needs is another loser in life there are simply to many here already – oh wait most of the losers were banned and are now on the other board. You might want to try over there.

Wow...you're quite the asshole aren't you? That's what I hate about the internet...little chicken shits like you that hide behind the anonymity of a computer monitor and take snipes at people you will never meet. Karma can be a bitch, just remember that.

 

[hot-doggie]

Wow...you're quite the asshole aren't you? That's what I hate about the internet...little chicken shits like you that hide behind the anonymity of a computer monitor and take snipes at people you will never meet. Karma can be a bitch, just remember that.

You will need thicker skin if you want to hang out here.

 

[Thais]

Make sure to communicate with the SP of your choice beforehand and explain her what you told us. A good idea would be to book an appointment that allows you two to interact socially: share a drink, talk, laugh.

An understanding SP could help build your confidence and give you an opportunity to talk to a woman and practice your social skills in a non-threatening atmosphere. But you both have to be on the same page: she has to know this is your need, and she has to be enthusiastic about helping you.

 

[IQof10]

Hell yah!

But remember 99.9 % of escorts are not looking for a date/BF with a client.

 

[aznboi9]

Since my social skills are so poor around women, am I best to use an escort to 're-establish' a physical connection with a woman?

Yes, for the above reasons.

And don't worry about the troll. Him being an idiot has nothing to do with you.

 

[visioneast]

We are alike. I am 28 and haven't dated since 22. Low self-esteem and family problem. Grew up without a real dad and mom was nearly never there. I'm unable to form a meaningful intimate relationship with anyone.

Anyways... I say go for it. It might help you.

 

[sinfulsydnee]

Make sure to communicate with the SP of your choice beforehand and explain her what you told us. A good idea would be to book an appointment that allows you two to interact socially: share a drink, talk, laugh.

An understanding SP could help build your confidence and give you an opportunity to talk to a woman and practice your social skills in a non-threatening atmosphere. But you both have to be on the same page: she has to know this is your need, and she has to be enthusiastic about helping you.

Thais...you are absolutely correct...there are many SP's who will provide services that include social interaction as well sexual interaction. This will offer a client the opportunity to develop skills that will vastly improve his confidence both sexually and ultimately socially. The key to the entire process is communication...like everything else, ensuring both parties understand what the limitations are and what the client's expected outcome is will make the encounter more comfortable and effective!

 

[Thais]

Let's be serious here, there is a big difference between having social skills to pick up a girl naturally and paying for a girls to " pretend" she likes you. Seeing an escort is not going to help your social skills. If this gentleman has social problems as he mentioned, no escort is going to take the time or have the ability to do so. (and nor should she, that isn't what she is being paid for)

If the guy needs help he should see a professional, if he just wants to have a good time, he should go see an escort.

Paying a girl to "pretend" to like you would be useless for sure. Perhaps, even harmful.

Paying a girl to pay attention to you, to take a good look at you, find the good qualities you didn't know you had, and bring them out to your attention - to give you the taste and feel of what it's like to be confident, and then help you understand and anchor to that feeling - may be quite helpful. Ever heard of self-fulfilling prophesies?

An escort is paid for whatever it is her and her client agree on. Some escorts have psychological or counseling backgrounds - alas, I don't know anyone in Saskatoon. Some are the kind of people in their daily life that everybody goes to with personal problems or relationship questions. But yes, for sure, not every escort would be fit for this particular task, and going to an escort 'just' to 'have a good time' most likely won't address anything.

 

[InTheBum]

Here's my story guys. I'm in my late 30's and I haven't had a girlfriend since my late 20's. I've had some self-esteem and confidence issues in this area and I've just given up on the dating scene. I'm very shy to boot, so it definately doesn't help my cause.

I've recently tried some on-line dating sites with no success and no face to face meetings. I'm actually not too bad looking and I'm in good shape, clean cut, and take good care of myself. I earn a very good living too.

Since my social skills are so poor around women, am I best to use an escort to 're-establish' a physical connection with a woman? I think this may help me feel more like a man again and provide me with with a boost of much needed confidence.

I've never done anything like this before, so I'm not exactly sure what to expect. I'm in Saskatoon, not sure what's available there for escort services. Thanks for the advice in advance.

Seeing escorts can be quite addictive, but I have no regrets. If you have a high income, then paying to see 1 once a month is no biggie... That fact is...the large majority of guys go through their whole lives wishing to have sex with a beautiful woman, but wimp out and settle for Mary Poppins.
Turn yourself into a stud in the bedroom in the time being...gain your sexual confidence and then you can work on your social problems.

In your case, maybe start with a girl-next-door type, as a pornstar type might scare you away...

Whatever you do, don't go for streetwalkers.

 

[SInCity67]

Paying a girl to "pretend" to like you would be useless for sure. Perhaps, even harmful.

Paying a girl to pay attention to you, to take a good look at you, find the good qualities you didn't know you had, and bring them out to your attention - to give you the taste and feel of what it's like to be confident, and then help you understand and anchor to that feeling - may be quite helpful. Ever heard of self-fulfilling prophesies?

An escort is paid for whatever it is her and her client agree on. Some escorts have psychological or counseling backgrounds - alas, I don't know anyone in Saskatoon. Some are the kind of people in their daily life that everybody goes to with personal problems or relationship questions. But yes, for sure, not every escort would be fit for this particular task, and going to an escort 'just' to 'have a good time' most likely won't address anything.

Feeding the ego , is not a confidence builder. Life experince is how you build a strong core . Traveling differnt country's , getting a passion in life is what will make you confident not paying a hooker , too tell you , what good things you have going on in your life .

 

[Very Veronica]

carpe diem

Single, affluent & good looking? Stop second guessing the situation & go have some fun. It won't change your life but it's a step in the right direction. Indulging yourself says 'i'm worth it' & how you treat yourself is how others treat you.

An illustrative quote: Value yourself. The only people who appreciate a doormat are people with dirty shoes.

Here's my story guys. I'm in my late 30's and I haven't had a girlfriend since my late 20's. I've had some self-esteem and confidence issues in this area and I've just given up on the dating scene. I'm very shy to boot, so it definately doesn't help my cause.

I've recently tried some on-line dating sites with no success and no face to face meetings. I'm actually not too bad looking and I'm in good shape, clean cut, and take good care of myself. I earn a very good living too.

Since my social skills are so poor around women, am I best to use an escort to 're-establish' a physical connection with a woman? I think this may help me feel more like a man again and provide me with with a boost of much needed confidence.

I've never done anything like this before, so I'm not exactly sure what to expect. I'm in Saskatoon, not sure what's available there for escort services. Thanks for the advice in advance.

 

[Willingham]

V V

Very V hit the nail on the head - value yourself and others that are worth it will value you...