Overall, what do you like better(given the choice)? I love pooning... In terms of sex on tap with beautiful women, a relationship could never compete. However, the feeling that someone loves you is something that just can't be bought for any price, and gives a deeper feeling than anything that frantic hot sex with an SP gives. Maybe it comes down to what you feel is more important, the pleasure and rush of SPs, or putting your heart on the line in pursuit of genuine love. Thoughts?
What do you like better: pooning or relationships?
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Tough Call
There's the pro's and con's of both sides. The best thing to happen is to have a beautiful women who is hot in bed, domestic, have a great job, loves kids and allows for boys nite out. Is that too much to ask for.....it seems so.
Never say never because when you least expect it, you'll find it. My ideal gal would be someone like AUDREY, simple yet sophisticated. So my answer would be TRUE LOVE. It's okay to check out the menu, but you have to order sometime otherwise you'll starve.
There's the pro's and con's of both sides. The best thing to happen is to have a beautiful women who is hot in bed, domestic, have a great job, loves kids and allows for boys nite out. Is that too much to ask for.....it seems so.
Never say never because when you least expect it, you'll find it. My ideal gal would be someone like AUDREY, simple yet sophisticated. So my answer would be TRUE LOVE. It's okay to check out the menu, but you have to order sometime otherwise you'll starve.Pooning is only great in that it shows you time and again that you simply don't neeeeeeeeeed "sex on tap with beautiful women".
It also suggests that the right, random long-term prospect with whom you share a mutual dedication to the long-term possibilities has physical/sexual appeal of the sort we tend to expect from women who would rate at least 3 to 5 points higher on the Frat Boy Scale.
It's just crazy to believe that you could take one of the links found on PERB and see a physical specimen of a woman and think for a minute that she would automatically be a more enjoyable f*ck than might a more random, real-life woman who lacks the *sexual energy* and/or *forced sexualization* from the past which paved the way for the working girl's entrance into today's occupation.
And to think, I've not even begun to scratch the surface of the references to "love" you offer.
Pooning affords a different venue to showcase the purely physical attributes of (humans) but remains similarly shallow to things like beauty pageants and the like.
Yeah you can move ever so close, and touch them, and get your rocks off in synchronized fashion but, after your hour, or evening is up, it's still pretty shallow compared to the other.
In my opinion you shouldn't be comparing pooning to relationships, but instead compare pooning to the otherwise void existence known to many who wouldn't experience non-familial human closeness were it not for pooning.
That's where the market is, even for those who are married, but who, through their own actions more often than not, have created a world in which they too lack the human closeness for which most yearn.
It also suggests that the right, random long-term prospect with whom you share a mutual dedication to the long-term possibilities has physical/sexual appeal of the sort we tend to expect from women who would rate at least 3 to 5 points higher on the Frat Boy Scale.
It's just crazy to believe that you could take one of the links found on PERB and see a physical specimen of a woman and think for a minute that she would automatically be a more enjoyable f*ck than might a more random, real-life woman who lacks the *sexual energy* and/or *forced sexualization* from the past which paved the way for the working girl's entrance into today's occupation.
And to think, I've not even begun to scratch the surface of the references to "love" you offer.
Pooning affords a different venue to showcase the purely physical attributes of (humans) but remains similarly shallow to things like beauty pageants and the like.
Yeah you can move ever so close, and touch them, and get your rocks off in synchronized fashion but, after your hour, or evening is up, it's still pretty shallow compared to the other.
In my opinion you shouldn't be comparing pooning to relationships, but instead compare pooning to the otherwise void existence known to many who wouldn't experience non-familial human closeness were it not for pooning.
That's where the market is, even for those who are married, but who, through their own actions more often than not, have created a world in which they too lack the human closeness for which most yearn.
Can't compare
We men are so big into ranking. This is better than that, most goals per game, who is the prettiest SP, etc. Few things are actually measurable on a common scale, and those that are measurable, are subjective at best. Comparing pooning to relationships is impossible. There is no scale to compare.
Pooning for me fills in something that is lacking in my relationship. Even though we are still in love, care for each other, rarely fight and get along really great – we can talk for hours, go on dates - there is just not enough sex (for various explainable causes). Pooning makes up for that.
I don't need sex on tap, I just need sexual supplements. Strange as it sounds, it keeps our relationship strong.
We men are so big into ranking. This is better than that, most goals per game, who is the prettiest SP, etc. Few things are actually measurable on a common scale, and those that are measurable, are subjective at best. Comparing pooning to relationships is impossible. There is no scale to compare.
Pooning for me fills in something that is lacking in my relationship. Even though we are still in love, care for each other, rarely fight and get along really great – we can talk for hours, go on dates - there is just not enough sex (for various explainable causes). Pooning makes up for that.
I don't need sex on tap, I just need sexual supplements. Strange as it sounds, it keeps our relationship strong.
I've got a hot g/f who likes to bring home women for us to share.
She jokes about being my wingman all of the time.
You just have to do like I did, realize that you are the prize and don't settle one iota until you find what you want.
And for the record she's a keeper. So yes it's worth it.
Pooning vs. the real deal
Pooning is to the prom queen you never got to lay as real, genuine loving relationships are to winning the Pulitzer prize.
One is just a casual, slightly tawdry notch on your belt; the other is a cherished, gleaming trophy on your mantel piece.
One you can survive without, the other you cannot. One you keep mum about; the other you shout out to the world.
...just my two cents.
Pooning is to the prom queen you never got to lay as real, genuine loving relationships are to winning the Pulitzer prize.
One is just a casual, slightly tawdry notch on your belt; the other is a cherished, gleaming trophy on your mantel piece.
One you can survive without, the other you cannot. One you keep mum about; the other you shout out to the world.
...just my two cents.I'm not one to throw in for realtionships, preferring to have mutually-satisfacory companionships.
That being said, I don't discount the fact that, someday, my princess might come. (pardon the pun, please! ) I'm active with more than one lady, and some are professionals, and some aren't, and some are on the list of someone I'd spend a generous amount of time with, and some are not.
Love is like water: it seeks its own level. When it does, it settles down, and seeps inwards, embracing you in its folds. No need to worry about it: it'll just invest you, and fill your heart. If it happens, you'll know.
Love is more than wonderful: it's a situation that brings bliss and a heightened awareness of the sanctity of life, and sharing it with someone whom you respect and worship, and who deserves your attention and dedication.
It's also rare, though... if you find it, don't let it get away. As a single guy, I look forward to it, but don't expect to find it!
Cheers, and have fun,
Ghostwheel
That being said, I don't discount the fact that, someday, my princess might come. (pardon the pun, please!
) I'm active with more than one lady, and some are professionals, and some aren't, and some are on the list of someone I'd spend a generous amount of time with, and some are not.Love is like water: it seeks its own level. When it does, it settles down, and seeps inwards, embracing you in its folds. No need to worry about it: it'll just invest you, and fill your heart. If it happens, you'll know.
Love is more than wonderful: it's a situation that brings bliss and a heightened awareness of the sanctity of life, and sharing it with someone whom you respect and worship, and who deserves your attention and dedication.
It's also rare, though... if you find it, don't let it get away. As a single guy, I look forward to it, but don't expect to find it!
Cheers, and have fun,
Ghostwheel
Pooning or relationships?
Hey, Aerts—that's a question I've also been pondering lately.
Obviously, individuals differ greatly on the answer—depending, in part, on how strong a need they feel to bond deeply, and whether they can ever find that special person.
In the absence of my "lifetime soulmate" I think the best current approach, for me personally, is to supplement dating relationships with occasional pooning. What I seek from relationships, apart from erotic encounters, is communication, affection, understanding, appreciation, companionship, sharing of interests.
But the downside is that relationships almost always involve creeping demands for commitment, jealousy drama, power struggles and sooner or later a sense of stagnation.
As a sex-loving person I’ve often found that girlfriends like to manipulate me in various ways by withholding or rationing sex, or in any case they’re often not in the mood or unavailable, and leave me frustrated.
Rather than getting resentful or angry, I now often seek out an SP to fill the gap. Pooning lets me experience surrender to lustful feelings, a sense of intense relaxation, and the satisfaction of overcoming anxiety and conditioning.
Admittedly, juggling pooning and dating relationships involves a certain amount of secrecy, even dishonesty. I don’t feel great about this, but I justify it, in my mind, by the right to a satisfactory sex life which relationship sex alone can’t seem to provide.
Hey, Aerts—that's a question I've also been pondering lately.
Obviously, individuals differ greatly on the answer—depending, in part, on how strong a need they feel to bond deeply, and whether they can ever find that special person.
In the absence of my "lifetime soulmate" I think the best current approach, for me personally, is to supplement dating relationships with occasional pooning. What I seek from relationships, apart from erotic encounters, is communication, affection, understanding, appreciation, companionship, sharing of interests.
But the downside is that relationships almost always involve creeping demands for commitment, jealousy drama, power struggles and sooner or later a sense of stagnation.
As a sex-loving person I’ve often found that girlfriends like to manipulate me in various ways by withholding or rationing sex, or in any case they’re often not in the mood or unavailable, and leave me frustrated.
Rather than getting resentful or angry, I now often seek out an SP to fill the gap. Pooning lets me experience surrender to lustful feelings, a sense of intense relaxation, and the satisfaction of overcoming anxiety and conditioning.
Admittedly, juggling pooning and dating relationships involves a certain amount of secrecy, even dishonesty. I don’t feel great about this, but I justify it, in my mind, by the right to a satisfactory sex life which relationship sex alone can’t seem to provide.
Realtionships.
Pooning has been a good alternative when the realtionship is gone. But I'll admit my relationship needs are a big part of my pooning needs.
Some things just don't change.
G.A.
Pooning has been a good alternative when the realtionship is gone. But I'll admit my relationship needs are a big part of my pooning needs.
Some things just don't change.
G.A.
I can identify with this. It turns into one big game, instead of something beautiful you can share together.
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perbertt
Pooners are guys who are only capable of behaving like nice guys for one hour at a time and are only capable of having sex when a woman looks perfect and gives them the illusion the they are wonderful.
If the timing, the circumstances or the women are not perfect they have difficulties performing.
They are guys who can't light their own fires with the same woman every time. They need their fires being lit from the outside. With other words they need a lot of outside stimulus.
If the timing, the circumstances or the women are not perfect they have difficulties performing.
They are guys who can't light their own fires with the same woman every time. They need their fires being lit from the outside. With other words they need a lot of outside stimulus.
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perbertt
Doesn't matter
I am just tired of reading that you guys are pooning because you are so free and wonderful.
You might want to know that you are pooning because there is something wrong with you.
I've been playing for years. I don't have a particular place I play... sometimes it's in the single scene, sometimes with swingers, sometimes with ladies of the night.Doesn't matter
I am just tired of reading that you guys are pooning because you are so free and wonderful.
You might want to know that you are pooning because there is something wrong with you.
I've not found any particular place where the posse is better than any other; it just adjusts to what I'm looking for. Sometimes the women on singles boards seem to be more receptive, and sometimes it's the locals that are more responsive.
I don't discriminate; I adjust to the changing demographics. If the Foxes Den was the hottest place in town, I'd go there. If those sites at odds with normal dating norms (ie. AdultFriendFinder) are the norm, I go there.
At the same time, I still trust the independents in town. If you want a quality time, with the minimum of tryst, check them out. I like the mystery of dating lines, and the mystique of clubs... but let's face it: when it comes to a steady thing, the ladies that we all love are just fabulous!
Slowjazz,
I think that you have pretty much hit the nail on the head, at least from my perspective.
I guess the other difference is that when I'm pooning I am wondering if this gal is really enjoying this as much as it seems or is she just a really good actress. With my SO, I know that I am giving her pleasure and she is enjoys being with me.
