Rants and Confessions from a Denver Escort

[AirdrieGuy]

Saw this on best of CL but it was too long to paste so I hope this link works. Have seen similar posts, but this is the best one yet.

http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/den/415707529.html

 

[ezsmile]

They have a High Track in Denver too?

 

[chilli]

The sad truth is most of it is probably true.

That's why I never begrudge an escort how much she charges.

Most guys use women, they are stupid, act stupid, and are pretty selfish.

But then again a lot of women are like that too.

I guess it's what we call the "human condition"

 

[Aeiyah]

Question to the guys:

If you had the opportunity to be with an absolutely perfect gorgeous woman but knew she would have these kind of thoughts running through her head when she's with you.... would you book with her???

Definitely not. If she's not enjoying what she's doing, it will definitely be reflected in the quality of the time we spend together. It's like any other service that I pay for, the provider is only it to make a few bucks, the quality I receive is going to suffer.

 

[chilli]

I posted a link to this rant in the private escort section on the other board...

The general responses from the girls were that although there was quite a bit of truth in what the denver girl ranted about, her anger and attitude where way off base...

My own opinion is that she should NOT be in the business. AT ALL.

Anyone with that kind of attitude could NEVER provide a service worth that kind of money. I don't care how freakin' gorgeous she is.

Question to the guys:

If you had the opportunity to be with an absolutely perfect gorgeous woman but knew she would have these kind of thoughts running through her head when she's with you.... would you book with her???

Unfortunately most men don't care, were here to have sex. And we always think you're talking about the other guy... not us. My experience with most beautiful women has been that they are really messed up - because of all the attention their beauty has gotten them. It messes with their head and they don't even know how to have a relationship.

They constantly question why a man is with them and they constantly question their value.

The funny thing is for how much they hate how men chase them for being "beautfiul" I doubt for one minute that they would change themselves into a fat ugly girl to get rid of the unwanted attention... poor girls...


Unfortunately the escort who wrote this article is probably very sweet and professional in real life, I doubt that anyone would know that these are her true feelings about her profession.

A lot of women "suppress" their true feelings about most things, they call it being "polite" and "tactful" I call it passive aggresive. As blundering as most men are in a neanderthal kind of way - at least you know where they stand - the good the bad and the ugly, but it's all there for you to see.

The 2 times I've been backstabbed in business - it wasn't by another man as you might think, on both occasions they were by women. Women who both posed as my friends and staunch and "loyal" allies.


For me, once a beautiful woman opens her mouth with something ugly, she becomes "ugly" but - and this is where most women have a real hard time understanding men - I'll have sex with her anyway - and then move on.

That's why most beautfiul women have trouble finding good men imo, their just so messed up from men having sex with them and dumping them - because they just don't have anything "inside" to offer and keep a man.

Their (pick any of the following) : needy, their bitchy, high maintenance, opinionated, whiney, money hungry, materialistic, cold (did I leave anything out?)

They think it's that men are pigs, well no it's not - a man will stay with a "good" woman - most especially if she's beautiful.

 

[agent47]

oh snap

that chic definatly needs therpy, but i get her point of view

 

[kalel]

issue #1 sums up alot. we've had many posts in this forum about guys who beleive they can make any sp cum and can tell when she's faking it. well, i suppose it is a fantasy world and anything can happen, including the chick who wrote that article actually putting on the happy face and continuing to work.

 

[Thais]

how many guys does a reputable SP see each day? Or even mp girls? does this girl just see to many men and bitter and tired out and not makeing enough money to make worth wile?

The first part of question: it varies so dramatically any average becomes meaningless.

As for the Denver escort who ranted, she mentions she started at a "lower" agency and now raised her rates to $500 an hour. I suspect she saw too many people at her lower rates and became bitter. So now, even though she sees a lot less people, a lot of that bitterness is still there as she did not have a change of perspective. And if that is how she feels about most of her clients... she needs to get rid of them and only focus on people the says "thank you" to.

I started at an MP very much part-time but I could see a lot of what she writes about applied. I only had shifts twice a week and yet I could see myself becoming jaded if I kept going at the same pace and with the same varied kind of clients.
Then I learned about independence and different approach, seeing escorting as healing and connection, building regular relationships with favourite clients - and that did change my whole perspective.

So I suspect it is less about sheer number of clients and more about the attitude with which you approach the business. Although I would also suspect that higher volume is more likely to lead to burn out.

 

[d_Duck55]

That lady doing the CL rant sounds miserable, sarcastic, and cranky. Maybe she provides GFE

But seriously, if you don't like it don't do it. That applies whether you are an accountant or a SP. The best experiences I have enjoyed are with ladies who for the most part enjoy what they do, they like sex, and we have fun together.

 

[kman32]

If you had the opportunity to be with an absolutely perfect gorgeous woman but knew she would have these kind of thoughts running through her head when she's with you.... would you book with her???

No way. Who wants to be with such an angry and miserable person. Especially when you can be with any number of gorgeous women with great attitudes.

 

[john23]

My experience with most beautiful women has been that they are really messed up - because of all the attention their beauty has gotten them. It messes with their head and they don't even know how to have a relationship.

While I would agree there are examples of this I don't think its globally true. However, there are people who are very dependent on how people react to their looks for their self worth. One woman I knew in that camp literally took 3 hours to get ready to go out and do errands and whatnot.

Their (pick any of the following) : needy, their bitchy, high maintenance, opinionated, whiney, money hungry, materialistic, cold (did I leave anything out?)

Compulsive liar - I know personally 2 women who fall into that category.

That we'll have sex under trying or even negative circumstances is basically evolution. We'll do it and then feel like crap after. But the problem for the woman is if she gets pregnant (which was more or less a likely reality prior to the late 60s and convenient birth control) she won't have an ally to help her successfully raise the child. I think much female behavior is explained by this.

 

[tedsweettangv]

I guess I found it kind of disturbing. I don't think I have ever made an SP cum, although I have to admit I have been with some very good actors. I guess what bothers me is the absolute contempt. I know pooning iis a fantasy for us, but I always felt that at the very least if you were clean, polite, didn't haggle and treated SPs like people, it at the very least wasn't unpleasant for them, even if it isn't enjoyable per se. The vitriol expressed in that post makes me wonder if maybe I should give up pooning. Besides being held in such contempt, it sounds like the anguish caused to the SP makes this a lose-lose arrangement.

Does anybody have any thoughts on this?

 

[Irresistible Isabelle]

Chin Up Luv

I guess I found it kind of disturbing. I don't think I have ever made an SP cum, although I have to admit I have been with some very good actors. I guess what bothers me is the absolute contempt. I know pooning iis a fantasy for us, but I always felt that at the very least if you were clean, polite, didn't haggle and treated SPs like people, it at the very least wasn't unpleasant for them, even if it isn't enjoyable per se. The vitriol expressed in that post makes me wonder if maybe I should give up pooning. Besides being held in such contempt, it sounds like the anguish caused to the SP makes this a lose-lose arrangement.

Does anybody have any thoughts on this?

"Ted,"

I seriously wouldn't worry about it. The rant was posted in the ladies section of the other board and it was unanimously declared that her rage and irritation is a sign that she should not be in the business. All the women in the SP Section said, while she has some very valid points about behaviour & hygiene that pooners should pay attention to, that they in no way felt the same way that she did.

It is possible that the author had a string of bad experiences, was in a terrible mood in general and the rant was just the result of dwelling on the worst of the worst of experiences.

You are quite correct in your original assumption, when it comes to the majority of providers, especially the ones active on the boards (or so it seems). There are no doubt some, possibly many, who would whole-heartedly concur with the sentiments expressed, but don't give up, just stick with those whose reviews sound like they enjoy it. Orgasms are easy to fake, but contempt is much harder to hide, and if someone hates what they do, it will show in their reviews.

Cheers,
Iz

 

[Thelyhi]

This is the greatest long rant---ever.It needs to be in the hall of fame/shame.Just too bad there's no pics of this troubled 'ho.

 

[ma1234]

sounds a lot more honest than the "I-love-every-client-no-matter-how-rude-ugly-fat-or-cheap-and-escort-life-is-wonderful" kinda talk....

C'mon guys, you don't seriously believe those???????

 

[ma1234]

that chic definatly needs therpy, but i get her point of view

Why therapy?

I bet if any of us would have to have sex with someone we find disgusting we would feel JUST LIKE HER.

 

[miss meiko]

Why therapy?

I bet if any of us would have to have sex with someone we find disgusting we would feel JUST LIKE HER.

Amen to that. Speaking from my own experience, by the time I left the business I was much crazier than most of my clients. Nobody, not a single person I ever met from this business walk away without feeling ashamed, guilty,stupid, disgusting about themselves. You can not feel a whole again. It took me more than a year to go through ups and downs and I'm not done with the roller coaster ride,yet. It was a fast way to make money, as least for me, but it was not an easy money. The price I have to pay is quite high. You kid yourself if you say it is only happen to them, not me...
I thought I was strong enough to handle the biz...well, was I ever wrong!!

Prove me I'm wrong by stay strong. Good luck every one!

 

[bustyluster]

my Gf is in the business and she tells me this stuff all the time. She is a business owner and tells me what the girls say. The one about making the girls orgasm is true. The girls don't like it when the customer does this (or maybe only the odd time). That is for home and the boyfriend/husband. The same rings true about the larger guys and kissing. The writer obviously has had enough of the crap that goes with the business and vented. I haven't heard it that harsh from the workers but still they make all the same comments. "Just pay me and get it over with......"

 

[eurhythmia]

I used to love hangin out in strip bars until the day I met a young woman who was also a stripper. The disdain she felt for guys who went to peeler bars totally surprised me. Since I don't get off on being despised I stopped going cold.

I can empathize with the Denver SP. Having to get it on with smelly, disgusting bodies on a constant basis would drive me off the Burrard Bridge in a matter of hours. Or better yet, just send me driving headlong into a brick wall sans seatbelt and airbag.

I think of the all the gross people (including very attractive women with breath that would crack a concrete gargoyle) I come into contact with on a regular base and, well, I just ... oh christ ... I'm gonna puke ...

 

[wilde]

If she hates her job so much then the obvious question is why keep doing it? Oh I forgot, it's hard to make $500 an hour in a REAL job.


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