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Red Flag Questions SP’s Receive

carvesg

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Really had a serious head shake after seeing some of those questions. If I ever find myself asking any of those questions (and hopefully I never do), slap me!
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SInce you are self aware it will never happen ...
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The only thing I can say about some of the more paranoid questions is:

When we contact the ladies in response to their ads we are 'technically' breaking the law.
Now, I understand that LE have bigger fish to fry and aren't worried about the activities of consenting adults, but anyone new to this is going to be pretty jittery about doing it. (I was more worried about calling/texting someone back in the day than I was picking up a lady on a street corner.) Perhaps they feel the answers they get will put their minds at ease to actually book.
 
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The amount of times I get asked #1 lately is actually disturbing and adding “I’m looking for someone to see regularly” just adds even more to the ick factor. Because you tell me you’ll be coming back (which guaranteed they aren’t) I’m just supposed to throw my safety and the safety of my other clients out the window for a couple hundred bucks? It’s also not just the safety concern but also that is an incredibly intimate thing and something I’m not doing with some stranger who’s done it with god knows who else 🤢, this question garners instant blocking. Also been asked too many times where my actual place is and if I wanted to date a client I was seeing, I’ve actually lost regular clients on several occasions because I wouldn’t date them. Common sense is a myth these days it seems which makes me seriously question the next generation of pooners tbh. .
 

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I'm questioning the next few generations of virtually everyone. tbh
The lack of social skills, common sense and basic politeness seem to all be disappearing rapidly. I pity anyone who has to deal with the public, but throw is sex, and I'm sure it can be a nightmare for the ladies.
 

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The amount of times I get asked #1 lately is actually disturbing and adding “I’m looking for someone to see regularly” just adds even more to the ick factor. Because you tell me you’ll be coming back (which guaranteed they aren’t) I’m just supposed to throw my safety and the safety of my other clients out the window for a couple hundred bucks? It’s also not just the safety concern but also that is an incredibly intimate thing and something I’m not doing with some stranger who’s done it with god knows who else 🤢, this question garners instant blocking. Also been asked too many times where my actual place is and if I wanted to date a client I was seeing, I’ve actually lost regular clients on several occasions because I wouldn’t date them. Common sense is a myth these days it seems which makes me seriously question the next generation of pooners tbh. .
Talked to an SP who had a burn mark on her from a client. He lit up a bowl of crack, and when she tried to stop him, was burned by the glass. I mean, unless an SP allows drugs, who would spark up anything nowadays without consent?
 

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Talked to an SP who had a burn mark on her from a client. He lit up a bowl of crack, and when she tried to stop him, was burned by the glass. I mean, unless an SP allows drugs, who would spark up anything nowadays without consent?
Assholes. . And there doesn’t seem to be a short supply of them these days. .
 

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Common sense is nowhere near as common as people think lol
Actually common sense gets better after you made some stupid mistakes and gained life experience from making those same mistakes. People always will hit bumps in the road. The problem we always are gonna make mistakes and learn from them too....

To further add to the discussion if someone is young and inexperienced with escorts/sps; then yes some of those question will be asked. Especially if they haven't read stuff on PERB here.
Alot of people here have benefited from discussions here on PERB about questions, and boundaries etc. They are in no way perfect and they will make mistakes in the future.

But if you have experience and common sense, why are those people asking the the above questions of SP, most people would think they are trying to exploit the SP. I would think so, but that might not be the answer either.

Some SP don't have a menu, only restrictions, so some questions might be to verify extras..... I prefer SP that do have webpages that detail their extras and restrictions.
But hey if the SP likes you (good looking, cool, and etc) she might let you have extras as a YMMV kind of way... after seeing you a couple of times. YMMV.

I haven't a clue what the #1 question is? I think I have eliminated "What is your real name?"
 
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Assholes. . And there doesn’t seem to be a short supply of them these days. .
In case you haven't noticed every customer of yours has an asshole... its hidden behind a face, abs, muscles and a sly smile...to get to the asshole, you have to pry apart and separate the ass cheeks.... And the older a person gets the less patience they have with crap from assholes... LOL
 

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Tried to be inclusive of all three environments (independent/AMP/agency) and have heard ALL of these myself since entering the industry. 🤷🏼‍♀️
  1. The number one 🚩 cannot be posted here on Perb. We all know what it is…
  2. “Can we work something out outside of the agency/AMP? They don’t have to know… “
  3. “Are you working alone / does anyone know where you are / do you have security?”
  4. “Can I come over without screening / use a fake name / different number / book under someone else?”
  5. “Can we keep this completely secret / off the books?”
  6. “Can you sneak me in without anyone knowing / block the cameras?”
  7. “Can we meet somewhere isolated / private with no cameras or people?”
  8. ”Do you do car dates / public fun?” (Asked early on or first session)
  9. “Do you host at your own home / where do you actually live?”
  10. “What room/condo are you in before I arrive?”
  11. “What car do you drive / what’s your real name / can I get your personal number?”
  12. “Can you prove you’re alone / leave your phone outside / lock the door?”
  13. “Can I take pictures / leave my phone recording?”
  14. “Can I tie you up / restrain you / ignore listed boundaries?”
  15. “Can I touch whatever I want?”
  16. “What are your hard no’s / what won’t you do under any circumstances?” (very early on)
  17. “Do you ever make exceptions / Can I convince you to change your mind?”
  18. “Will you break rules for regulars / if I’m respectful?”
  19. “What’s the cheapest you’ll go / least you’ll accept?”
  20. “Can I pay later / partially / with a tip instead?”
  21. “What happens if I don’t bring the full amount?”
  22. “Are you desperate for money / financially struggling?”
  23. “Can I stay longer, sleep over, arrive early, wait inside, or just drop by?”
  24. “Can I bring friends, substances, or alcohol?”
  25. “Can I show up without confirming?”
  26. “Can we meet first so I know you’re real?”
  27. “Can you send live photos or FaceTime?”
  28. “Do you secretly like rough guys?”
  29. “What’s the craziest/furthest thing you’ve done with a client?” (Asked early on)
  30. “Have clients ever hurt you / do you carry weapons?”
  31. “Do you have trauma / cry after sessions / dissociate?”
  32. “Are you mentally stable enough for this work?”
  33. “Do you use drugs with clients / have you overdosed with clients?”
  34. “Have you ever been arrested / do cops bother you / how do you avoid getting caught?”
  35. “Can you delete our messages?”
  36. “Would you date a client / become exclusive?”
  37. “Are you new or inexperienced?”
I think that at any point after seeing an SP (more than a couple of times), some of these questions get raised in conversation you have with a regular SP .

Security issues---- alot has been said about this on PERB, comes from conversations with SPs
Picture/movies, dinner date, you will bring her favourite wine, these are YMMV
Why something is off the menu when it was on before, eg. Anal/Greek, usually its a bad experience with some asshole.
legal issues on escorting, again discussion with SPs
their experience (how long they been doing SP work),
When to pay.... before or after
Menus what is on or not on the menu. What they need to get off in a session... conversation with the SP
You can damn well bet, they have your number on record somewhere, even if they say they don't... I would say escorts have the biggest black books out there....and I can not prove it....


And finally:
Yes you can tie your SP up; only after they get to tie you up and torture your cock and balls, and whip you....That sweet innocent bubbly smile turns into a vicious murderous bitch... right before your eyes....:ROFLMAO:
 

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IvyLane91

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My restrictions are a no for everyone because they’re things I don’t enjoy. . They’re not based on how you look, if you’re cool or I’ve seen you a few times. . They’re a NO and will always be a NO. . To think any of the above listed reasons are grounds to go beyond my boundaries or even ask for them is rude imo. . You don’t know if I even think you’re any of the above, I may make you think so because you pay me to but that’s probably not what I really think. . You should never ask for an SP to provide one of their restrictions, if they offer then yes but never assume you have the right to ask.
 

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My restrictions are a no for everyone because they’re things I don’t enjoy. . They’re not based on how you look, if you’re cool or I’ve seen you a few times. . They’re a NO and will always be a NO. . To think any of the above listed reasons are grounds to go beyond my boundaries or even ask for them is rude imo. . You don’t know if I even think you’re any of the above, I may make you think so because you pay me to but that’s probably not what I really think. . You should never ask for an SP to provide one of their restrictions, if they offer then yes but never assume you have the right to ask.
If its not obvious, I always ask an SP for their restrictions. If something is not listed, I ask her (exceptions for the obvious restrictions that don't need to be said).

I've had SPs voluntarily override their restrictions, but it was always their idea. For example one SP asked me what I liked, I said I like rough stuff but I knew she had that as a restriction so I wasn't here for that, she said she also enjoyed rough play and felt safe enough to do it with me and we established boundaries and had our fun.

When a girl feels safe, comfortable, and respected, and you show up with a good vibe and are clean, you're going to get the most out of your time together. This applies to any woman, not just SP's.
 

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When a girl feels safe, comfortable, and respected, and you show up with a good vibe and are clean, you're going to get the most out of your time together. This applies to any woman, not just SP's.
THIS my fellow pooner is IMO, the quote of the week, maybe the month!!
 

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And this is the reality
At the end of the day its the girl's discretion, not our demand, that decides what happens. Being pushy and disrespectful is not going to get anyone anywhere. While some girls have gone the "extra mile" for me, it was because they wanted to, and that's fine, but definitely not an expectation. Maybe they did it because they like me, or maybe they just think it's good for business and I'm a safe client, but either way, it's their decision to make.
 

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A provider I follow on her work socials sometimes posts screenshots of the abusive texts she gets when she says no to stuff in the booking stage. It’s awful 🤮
I used to post things like this before, but I started being accused of ''client bashing'' and being negative, when I just wanted people to be aware of what we didn't like, and what happens to us. Some clients seem shocked when I tell them certain stories
 

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I used to post things like this before, but I started being accused of ''client bashing'' and being negative, when I just wanted people to be aware of what we didn't like, and what happens to us. Some clients seem shocked when I tell them certain stories
Thanks for sharing. The older I get, the less surprised I am at the depravity of humans (as in surprised/not-surprised, oh him?), given the manosphere, the crimes of folks like Epstein and his whole network (hi Deepak 👋), and the 45th president of the US. Even when I read between the lines of some of the folks who post on Perb, I can’t help, but think, “wow, did they really just say that?”
 
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Thanks for sharing. The older I get, the less surprised I am at the depravity of humans (as in surprised/not-surprised, oh him?), given the manosphere, the crimes of folks like Epstein and his whole network (hi Deepak 👋), and the 45th president of the US. Even when I read between the lines of some of the folks who post on Perb, I can’t help, but think, “wow, did they really just say that?”
Honestly I've looked around on this forum and although there are questionable conversations and posts, it's nowhere near as bad as Merb - in my opinion the worst Canadian review board and the one I have to deal with here
 
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