Hi,
This feels a bit vulnerable to share, but I’m wondering if anyone here has ever seen an escort—not just for sex, but to feel some kind of safety or connection. I’ve struggled ... like I don’t really know how to connect with women anymore.
I’m not looking for romance or a quick fix, but maybe just a moment where I can feel accepted and not judged. I’ve been thinking about seeing someone just to talk, be close, and maybe start building some confidence again.
If anyone’s been in a similar place—or has thoughts about this—I’d be grateful to hear them. You can message me if you’d rather not reply here.
Thanks for reading.
I remember when I realised I was seeing providers not because I was horny, but because I just wanted to feel a human connection.
Engaging with women in Vancouver sucks. It's a city that is completely cold to you regardless of your gender. I'm not blaming women, men have never been kind to women so I can totally understand why women are so defensive.
I just get tired trying to prove myself, that I am not a threat, not going to assault you, not going to stalk you or steal something from you. It's just too much to prove. Again, not blaming women, just expressing how tough the dating scene in Vancouver has become. You'd be surprised by how many shitty men, women see in a day. So the bar to impress women is pretty low, but yet so difficult to connect.
I needed to bypass this "trying to prove myself" thing.
Which is why I ended up seeing providers. They don't judge me, they know we are going to have sex either way and they are humans too, so they love to engage in conversations. Whenever I see a provider I make sure to talk to her for the first 15-20mins. It just makes the entire session so much better because we both start to understand what we really want.
And trust me, most providers, who are genuinely wanting to care for you, will actually love to talk.
But you need to understand, variables exist. Not all providers like to talk, some must be tired that day, some are just so rightly confused why is this guy not fucking me lol
Eventually by trial and error, you will find your regulars.
This is what I love about this hobby, it made me so confident to talk to women, that I love meeting a new provider and getting to know them. I've learned so much about women in the past few years seeing providers. I'm so happy that providers have given me an opportunity to learn so much about women, that nobody was willing to teach me. Till date I am so thankful to everyone I've seen. Massive respect.
So fucking hate it when men feel entitled to sex just because they pay for it. It is a privilege to see a provider, not a right.
In my experience, most of the providers I've met, like 99% have always been so down to earth nice to me when they realise I'm not a sex hungry male, I'm just someone who is missing a human touch, a connection.
The last time I saw someone, we ended up talking and never had sex! It was such a beautiful moment that we just talked and let the moment take over.
But a very important note. You need to open your mouth so they know what you want. Don't just walk to a provider and expect them to be compassionate. You are not a mind reader and so is not your provider. Just talk and ask lol she's not gonna bite you.
Trust me, you're not alone. Now go book a provider.
