Do you guys have sex exclusively with SPs or mix SPs with "normal" hookups from Tinder / bars / etc.?

[Gerald778]

I'm curious how many people only see SPs and how many are successful with hook ups outside of paying and use SPs more like a supplement.

Personally, I'm trying to do the latter but not successfully lol

 

[GeeBeeP]

100% SP’s and Sugar (mostly sugar in recent times) If I had the opportunity to use the Tinder / bars scene I’d likely go that route as a mix. They have a fun “thrill of the chase” feeling. But I think I’d still use SP’s and SB’s when I’m looking for a sure thing. And as a married guy the discretion of paid sex is much easier and safer.

 

[Pumped]

I do one or the other exclusively, never mixing them.

After many years of dating/relationships/hook-ups I just got tired of all the stuff that can come along with those options.

So now it's just SPs and peace and quiet (for the most part).



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[apple9927]

This region along with southern California is the most competitive for getting a single date. If you can do so I applaud you. Non paid ones.

 

[ChromeGasCap]

Dating has become fully transactional, or perhaps it always was.
People are waking up to this.
Many men benefit from this arrangement by avoiding emotional drama and attachment, while many women benefit by profiting.
Seems a win-win to me.
The Dating/Bar-scene is no different in that regard.
It is considered a sexless marriage if you are married and "getting it" once or less per month.
If you are not getting it from your significant other even after confronting them about this, then it is not cheating IMO.

 

[ChromeGasCap]

The transactional scenario is a world wide phenomenon.
More and more, Men and Women, are no longer looking for marriage or children.
You can see this in the dropping birth rates world wide.
Statistically, children from a single mother household, are more likely to be criminal or emotionally troubled, so the dropping birth rate is probably a good thing.

I think we are headed for extinction.
I guess this is not my problem.

 

[apple9927]

The transactional scenario is a world wide phenomenon.
More and more, Men and Women, are no longer looking for marriage or children.
You can see this in the dropping birth rates world wide.
Statistically, children from a single mother household, are more likely to be criminal or emotionally troubled, so the dropping birth rate is probably a good thing.

I think we are headed for extinction.
I guess this is not my problem.

Korea Japan are two countries that in 100 years will have less than half it's population and it's irreversible the decline once it starts. The poorest could on earth however can't stop making babies on the other hand.

 

[Gerald778]

100% SP’s and Sugar (mostly sugar in recent times) If I had the opportunity to use the Tinder / bars scene I’d likely go that route as a mix. They have a fun “thrill of the chase” feeling. But I think I’d still use SP’s and SB’s when I’m looking for a sure thing. And as a married guy the discretion of paid sex is much easier and safer.

what do you mean by sugar? seeking arrangements?

 

[ChromeGasCap]

Sugar daddy arragements.
Man pays hot student to be his girlfriend.
Payment can be expensive gifts, to cash, etc.

Sex is almost always involved, but not always in the beginning of such arrangements, but eventually always involved.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

I guess I'm like the old bull, I fuck em all.

 

[ChromeGasCap]

I guess I'm like the old bull, I fuck em all.

You missed the part about moseying around to fuck them all, as opposed to scurrying around to fuck one or two.... 🤣
If we take our time, we will get around to fuckin 'em all...

 

[netes6]

100% SP’s and Sugar (mostly sugar in recent times) If I had the opportunity to use the Tinder / bars scene I’d likely go that route as a mix. They have a fun “thrill of the chase” feeling. But I think I’d still use SP’s and SB’s when I’m looking for a sure thing. And as a married guy the discretion of paid sex is much easier and safer.

as a guy in a LTR (once or twice a month plus the same with a FWB) this sounds super appealing. especially SBs. i like the idea of mixing and supplementing what i have. at this point ive only been considering dipping my toes in with MPs but would appreciate any advice. DM with an experienced mentor would be great too

 

[Gerald778]

100% SP’s and Sugar (mostly sugar in recent times) If I had the opportunity to use the Tinder / bars scene I’d likely go that route as a mix. They have a fun “thrill of the chase” feeling. But I think I’d still use SP’s and SB’s when I’m looking for a sure thing. And as a married guy the discretion of paid sex is much easier and safer.

do you have any tips about keeping things discreet?

 

[westcoastrider1982]

Paying for sex is more cost effective for sure.

Follow The three F rental rule!

If it flys or floats, cheaper to rent it!

3rd “F”….I’ll let you guys figure that last F out lol.

 

[Banged_Up]

One way or the other you pay for it.
Oh yes you do.

 

[Harmony-bc]

I think seeing sp’s makes people more attractive. If you’re not desperate to get laid, your chances of getting laid for free might go up. Women like fun interesting people that don’t drool all over them. Confidence and independence is sexy. 🩷

 

[TenderLover]

That's for sure, I think you got that right.

 

[Resilient]

I always prioritize real life sex from dating. I only turn to SPs when I don't have anything going on with the real life ladies.

 

[GeeBeeP]

do you have any tips about keeping things discreet?

Here’s a good thread from TERB that I’ve contributed to. It’s long but it has plenty of married guys sharing tips and experience.

https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/how-to-be-discreet-about-hobby.839619/

 

[12qwaszx]

I have never succeeded with the hookup culture. Therefore, Strictly SP's. Right now I only see one SP exclusively for the past 2 years.. We have gotten to know each other and feel very comfortable with each other.
I see her about once every 4-6 weeks. Can't go any longer than 6 weeks without seeing her.