Underlying our fascination with celebrities (Ben Affleck, Al Pacino at 83 having a kid with his 29-year-old wife) and our need to budget for this hobby is a conflict that is at the heart of male programming: the need to spread our seed, in opposition to the need to be loved.
Why else would Affleck, or De Niro, or Pacino keep marrying when they have cash aplenty to buy as much sex as they need? Nobody wants to die alone. In our personal lives, most of us on Perb have needs that can’t be met in the bedroom; the sad corollary, is that while we can pay for our sexual gratification, it will never fill our need to be loved.
Lucky are those who can have both in the same bedroom - or are evolved enough to rise above the testosterone. That damn sure ain’t me.
The rest of us will put our quarters and dimes in the pooning jar; for some it holds $20,000 a month, for others $200. But no matter the budget, everyone is left with that same empty feeling when the timer hits zero.
