I do confide in a lady I used to see. She is very insightful and gives good advice.
Do you have a confidant?
- Thread starter West End Guy
- Start date
I have a buddy older than me, probably in his late 40’s. I don’t think he’s a virgin but I’ve never seen him with a girl. He doesn’t partake in escorts or even massage, or at least admitted to it. And I don’t get the impression he gets laid often. A friend and I suggested to get him an SP for his birthday. Not sure if it goes against his moral or what not but at this stage in your life, if you ain’t getting you’re better off paying for it rather than not getting laid
Just had coffee with a bloke last week who reached out to me on Perb a few weeks back after reading about an MFM adventure I had posted about on the forum. He was interested in trying something like that and we DMed back and forth for a bit to suss one another out and decided to meet.
I DM with a few folks on the forum but for any adventuring I like to meet the person first. As such I’m now Perb buddies with 3 or 4 guys and when we meet we’ll compare notes, have a coffee before or after an adventure, and talk shop. We keep our personal lives private for the most part, but I must say it’s quite liberating to be able to talk openly about the industry; likes, dislikes, different shops/practitioners and preferences. Sometimes we’ll share an incident that happened but not wishing to post on Perb, or talk cars, food, wine or any number of topics. Not sure if that qualifies as a confidante, but it certainly takes the whole pooning thing out of the shadows and I feel better for it.
I DM with a few folks on the forum but for any adventuring I like to meet the person first. As such I’m now Perb buddies with 3 or 4 guys and when we meet we’ll compare notes, have a coffee before or after an adventure, and talk shop. We keep our personal lives private for the most part, but I must say it’s quite liberating to be able to talk openly about the industry; likes, dislikes, different shops/practitioners and preferences. Sometimes we’ll share an incident that happened but not wishing to post on Perb, or talk cars, food, wine or any number of topics. Not sure if that qualifies as a confidante, but it certainly takes the whole pooning thing out of the shadows and I feel better for it.
My advice, free, unsolicited, if unwanted, my apologies, but please ask your buddy if a gift of an SP visit is something he would like, FIRST.
Good point. It became a joke between another friend of mine that we’d get him one. Then the more we talk about it, the joke is becoming a possible reality. He always fantasized about being with a taller chick.
On this topic as well, there’s a group of my friends who are open about their adventures. I do not partake in the amount of activities that these friends do but travelling with them and as we ended calling ourselves mongers made quite entertaining about the different experiences we had
I have to agree , of course you have to be very selective. I have friends who wouldn’t care but have loose lips .
That being said , when a mature friend opened up to me about it, it was quite liberating to be able to talk freely w a friend about it .
this is my only outlet, and like Vin stated, coming out-of-the-shadows (even briefly) absolves a bit of my 'Cathlic shame', lol
K, maybe time for another MFM
"Not sure if it goes against his moral or what not but at this stage in your life, if you ain’t getting you’re better off paying for it rather than not getting laid"
Thankd. My thoughts exactly.
I’ve been in the hobby since my twenties, and really wish I could be more involved. I’ve seen between 100-125 not too sure as I never record the experiences other than my memory vault. I talk with some SPs but that is a chemistry thing. I did have one that I was completely comfortable with and we talked often. Sometimes in the middle of a session but she was pro and never let the action slow.
it is nice to take off the mask and enjoy yourself without the judgement.
she is gone now and I will look again for a SP that I can trust and gets me going.
it is nice to take off the mask and enjoy yourself without the judgement.
she is gone now and I will look again for a SP that I can trust and gets me going.
Apart from the SPs who I regale on occasion with stories about my various adventures, and those few providers who I have developed very open dialogues with, I have one longtime friend who is also in a similar retired situation that sees providers with about the same frequency that I do. It’s nice to have someone to share stories with and be open about this hobby of mine. That’s the only person in my life who is aware of my hobby and I’d like to keep it that way. The discretion and privacy of doing this is a part of the allure, and I wouldn’t like to risk the judgemental eyes and ears of others who may not agree with my lifestyle!
I have one friend who talks about getting a massage once in a while. He is very open about it, even with our wives in the conversation. Now he claims that he is just getting a massage, nothing else, but he talks about the place he goes and I know that they provide more. He also talked about being on vacation with his wife and getting a massage, he even had his wife negotiate the price, because she knew the language and he didn't. He said that his wife waited outside while he went in, then halfway through, the lady grabbed him to see if he was "ready." He says he booked it out of there and told his wife what happened and she laughed at him.
Either he really is just getting a massage and is clueless about these places (I casually asked how much they charge, he said 60$), or is trying to hide his habit in plain sight.
Either he really is just getting a massage and is clueless about these places (I casually asked how much they charge, he said 60$), or is trying to hide his habit in plain sight.
I do have one friend, I met here on Perb. We communicate mostly by email, but often have coffee together when in each others town. We also have experienced several MFMs together with several of our SPs of common interest. I trust him. I believe he trusts me.
