Do SPs ever look forward to DATY from a client?

[skycrush99]

You can’t even imagine how much it breaks the mood to give instructions. Sexy conversations during , asking questions is good but men don’t ask they just tell you how good they are at so “hold on “ 🤭 I love when men are very open with me about the kind of oral they like , makes things go VERY well . 💦💦

to clarify: when I say “give direction” I mean I say things like “I love it when you do <insert sexy description here>”

but I’d still love to know how to make a woman feel comfortable to do the same…. I find very few are willing to share what they like/want. I’ve said things like “let me know how you like it” when I start but very few give much feedback verbally. It’s puzzling 🤔

it’s not like I can’t use many other cues and I do, but some SPs are probably good at acting excited to help me feel like a great lover.

 

[beaveraddict]

I luv daty and it's a big turn-on to be given directions by a partner.
The irony is here is that most SPs are pretty awkward when it comes to giving directions. Those chiming-in here with comments like "most men aren't really that good at it"... well, have you ever given pointers? Particularly when men ask you to do so?
Yet nobody misses an opportunity to make a disparaging generalization...?!
Encountering a woman who will actually give specific instructions beyond "ooh-ahh-that's-good-baby" is like finding a unicorn... 🤷‍♂️

 

[rebelwithsomecause]

Most women prefer oral sex, IF you're good at it, for the clitoral stimulation, over penetration. A lot of men are very unpleasant pussy eaters, anything from scratchy beard that causes razor burn, (or worse an unclean tongue and mouth that can cause a UTI), to nibbling and sucking way too hard, too little focus on clitoral stimulation, and not enough listening to feedback on body language and verbal cues. Some tips - practice on a piece of citrus fruit. Start slow and gentle and think like Gordan Ramsay "you can always add more but you can't take back". Soft, long and gentle tongue strokes up and down labia, and swirling around clit. If all else fails revert to french kissing mode. AVOID TEETH AND BLOWING INTO VAGINA. You can use your clean and trimmed fingernails to rub her clit when you get tired, and very gentle slow digits to supplement tongue on the clit. If she allows.
Check out this article and refer to lesbians for more advice. Please don't make fun of me either I'm 1000% serious and it's why straight women also could take tips from gay men for blow jobs.
https://www.vice.com/en/article/jm537y/a-lesbos-guide-to-eating-vagina

 

[rebelwithsomecause]

I luv daty and it's a big turn-on to be given directions by a partner.
The irony is here is that most SPs are pretty awkward when it comes to giving directions. Those chiming-in here with comments like "most men aren't really that good at it"... well, have you ever given pointers? Particularly when men ask you to do so?
Yet nobody misses an opportunity to make a disparaging generalization...?!
Encountering a woman who will actually give specific instructions beyond "ooh-ahh-that's-good-baby" is like finding a unicorn... 🤷‍♂️

If it don't apply then let if fly baby! 🤗🤭

 

[Fiona]

I luv daty and it's a big turn-on to be given directions by a partner.
The irony is here is that most SPs are pretty awkward when it comes to giving directions. Those chiming-in here with comments like "most men aren't really that good at it"... well, have you ever given pointers? Particularly when men ask you to do so?
Yet nobody misses an opportunity to make a disparaging generalization...?!
Encountering a woman who will actually give specific instructions beyond "ooh-ahh-that's-good-baby" is like finding a unicorn... 🤷‍♂️

At this stage in my life & in my career , I don’t feel like teaching men “how to “ either you’re good at it or your not.
nowhere in my menu is cunnilingus instruction written , unless a man asks me I’m going to assume he’s content with what he’s doing , we’re there to create a fantasy , an experience , it’s not up to us to teach you . It’s almost not something you can give directions to , either your going to eat my pussy like it’s the last pussy you’re going to ever have & blow my mind , or your not ,
every woman likes different things.Harder, softer, fingers , no fingers , just don’t stick fingers any where without asking . Nothing worse then lying back about to enjoy being eaten & he’s already trying finger my ass 😑 .
I don’t cum from oral sex . Never have but doesn’t mean I don’t love be devoured. Don’t get butt hurt if you don’t like our responses , they’re honest .

 

[Fiona]

Most women prefer oral sex, IF you're good at it, for the clitoral stimulation, over penetration. A lot of men are very unpleasant pussy eaters, anything from scratchy beard that causes razor burn, (or worse an unclean tongue and mouth that can cause a UTI), to nibbling and sucking way too hard, too little focus on clitoral stimulation, and not enough listening to feedback on body language and verbal cues. Some tips - practice on a piece of citrus fruit. Start slow and gentle and think like Gordan Ramsay "you can always add more but you can't take back". Soft, long and gentle tongue strokes up and down labia, and swirling around clit. If all else fails revert to french kissing mode. AVOID TEETH AND BLOWING INTO VAGINA. You can use your clean and trimmed fingernails to rub her clit when you get tired, and very gentle slow digits to supplement tongue on the clit. If she allows.
Check out this article and refer to lesbians for more advice. Please don't make fun of me either I'm 1000% serious and it's why straight women also could take tips from gay men for blow jobs.
https://www.vice.com/en/article/jm537y/a-lesbos-guide-to-eating-vagina

Not sure if you’re a client or a SW but no , most woman don’t “prefer” oral sex , so not true . It’s part of the climb to an intense session .

 

[beaveraddict]

You can’t even imagine how much it breaks the mood to give instructions. Sexy conversations during , asking questions is good but men don’t ask they just tell you how good they are at so “hold on “ 🤭 I love when men are very open with me about the kind of oral they like , makes things go VERY well . 💦💦

Sorry, but you just completely contradicted yourself: you like it when men tell you how they like to receive oral, but find it a turn-off to have to tell a man how to give you oral?!
Am I missing something?
I think we've found the root of the problem right here...
As an aside, I always take it with a grain of salt when a pooner complains about how an SP gave head, my first thought being "dude, did you say anything in the moment?". There are certainly ways to make requests & subtle directions part of "sex talk"... but that's a two-way street.
Good sex is based on chemistry at the start and then communication to sustain it...

 

[Fiona]

Sorry, but you just completely contradicted yourself: you like it when men tell you how they like to receive oral, but find it a turn-off to have to tell a man how to give you oral?!
Am I missing something?
I think we've found the root of the problem right here...
As an aside, I always take it with a grain of salt when a pooner complains about how an SP gave head, my first thought being "dude, did you say anything in the moment?". There are certainly ways to make requests & subtle directions part of "sex talk"... but that's a two-way street.
Good sex is based on chemistry at the start and then communication to sustain it...

How is that a contradiction ?
im the escort , your the client , how is asking you how you like to be handled a contradiction?? 😑
If I was paying someone to please me I’d be very clear with what I like.
and if the man really cares to know how I like it , he’ll ask.

 

[Fiona]

“Good sex is based on chemistry at the start and then communication to sustain it.” ..

Again, not true , I just had a client I had blocked beg me to see him again stating “ But our chemistry was so good “ 🤭 I’m like , “nope , again it’s my job to make you feel that “

I have amazing chemistry with many of my clients . But many I don’t & they still leave very satisfied. Again it’s not my job to have chemistry with everyone .

 

[ExpCharlee]

If you’re good at it, yes. If you’re bad at it AND bad at learning but it’s not painful, I can just think about other shit, and my brain is fun so yes. If you use your teeth or suck like an angry vacuum I’ll make you stop.

 

[rlock]

I love giving oral, and want her to feel pleasure too; as part of my getting turned on, it is important. Nothing wrong with being told how she wants it, and how she doesn't. Assuming each is after the same thing is a mistake. Seeing escorts taught me (or confirmed anyway) that different women enjoy different things for oral pleasure. I've seen some who love only the gentlest of clit licks and anymore more is too strong; others want it direct and hard, and one at least wanted me to suck her clit with more force than my mouth could muster (I tried so hard too). So I no longer assume, and would rather be told / signalled in some way than just try some "one size fits all" routine that does not actually work.

 

[luvsdaty]

Won't mention names but the worst experience I had was with this tall beautiful blonde at SU back in the early 2000's she actually let out a bored sigh as I started to go down on her lol. Weird thing was she really really liked dato though, so with her I never bothered with daty and went straight to tossing her salad

 

[beaveraddict]

How is that a contradiction ?
im the escort , your the client , how is asking you how you like to be handled a contradiction?? 😑
If I was paying someone to please me I’d be very clear with what I like.
and if the man really cares to know how I like it , he’ll ask.

This is funny, you keep contradicting yourself!!!

Just now, you wrote: "if the man really cares to know how I like it , he’ll ask."

Yet you stated earlier that "You can’t even imagine how much it breaks the mood to give instructions."...???!!!

If a pooner likes giving daty, part of the fantasy is that he is pleasing his "partner" (temporary, for hire, but nonetheless...)... so if you as an SP don't feel the need to participate in this aspect of the exchange, fine, but understand that some pooners will not want to see you, or repeat, if you don't "get" that.
Have a good day!

 

[Fiona]

This is funny, you keep contradicting yourself!!!

Just now, you wrote: "if the man really cares to know how I like it , he’ll ask."

Yet you stated earlier that "You can’t even imagine how much it breaks the mood to give instructions."...???!!!

If a pooner likes giving daty, part of the fantasy is that he is pleasing his "partner" (temporary, for hire, but nonetheless...)... so if you as an SP don't feel the need to participate in this aspect of the exchange, fine, but understand that some pooners will not want to see you, or repeat, if you don't "get" that.
Have a good day!

There’s nothing contradictory at all , you’re just butt hurt because you may possibly not be the stud you think you are ??
Telling a man upfront , and giving instructions is a lot different then a man asking , if you don’t ask im not going to direct you & make you think you’re not any good . Get real . Im not your wife or girlfriend . I’m not going to address any imperfections in your talent unless you ask . And yes it breaks the mood if before you even start I start directing you , seriously ??

most men are very good at telling us what they like done to them , and I definitely know how to please .
I’m happy about that , that doesn’t mean I’m going to give you directions to my pussy unless you ask . Get real, me being honest & very much into all my sessions is why I’ve been successful for as long as I have , but thanks for your input 🤭 men who need books or step by step directions are trying too hard & it’s not going to be good so just do what you want & enjoy yourself, men have to stop worrying about the “professional “being weak in the knees from their oral abilities, as long as you don’t hurt us or drool us into a UTI we’re happy 😃

 

[Fiona]

Won't mention names but the worst experience I had was with this tall beautiful blonde at SU back in the early 2000's she actually let out a bored sigh as I started to go down on her lol. Weird thing was she really really liked dato though, so with her I never bothered with daty and went straight to tossing her salad

I have to agree with her , I love my ass eaten like a piece of cake 🍰, over my kitty , too many sensitive areas for most to navigate . Men who eat ass usually are steller pussy eaters anyways 😘

 

[Fiona]

I’m curious. I have only encounter one SP who did not allow DATY in their menu
As a guy I look forward to BJ. Are there any guys that don’t like BJs?

There are a few out there but it’s rare, I find some men have had some awful oral encounters & had given up & once I got my hands, mouth 👄 on them they change their feelings, some poor men literally only get bjs on their birthday & if their partner hates it I can see over time you’d become indifferent to them . Same with oral on a woman , if you can tell the man isn’t into it all good sensations stop , it’s very mental .

 

[John Aston]

Let’s just say you’re not going to hear from many ladies as it’s VERY rare a man gives good head . Very . Even if he thinks he is , we’re professionals & you’ll never really know what’s a real reaction . 🤓
It’s usually men who are really into you , men who crave to eat every inch of you & not afraid to try to that gets us going , the little cat licks or clit only guy is such a buzz kill 😑

A pussy is a beautiful thing, up close. But, I have lost any belief that my tongue skills will bring any SP to a mind-blowing orgasm. There are too many factors that prevent it: 1) if you’re only booked for 45 or an hour, there isn’t much time 2) the SP is not seeking an orgasm. She wants you to blow your load and get out the door 3) I am in it to satisfy my own fantasies. If she can fake it, that’s great! Then let’s move on to the next position! 4) I really don’t know what the hell I’m doing down there.

DATY is a fun menu item. Don’t think you’ll be making the SP your love-slave. Just pretend you’re good at it and enjoy this hobby.

 

[georgej]

If you’re good at it, yes. If you’re bad at it AND bad at learning but it’s not painful, I can just think about other shit, and my brain is fun so yes. If you use your teeth or suck like an angry vacuum I’ll make you stop.

Nobody teaches better than Charlee! It's been too long.

 

[kelcaine]

Yes! I do. As much as I have an oral fixation and love to give, I also enjoy receiving as well, and I have had some clients who want to do this for most of our session sometimes.

I also highly feel that being good at oral sex on any body part is being in tune with the other persons body language and sounds, as well as communication. If something isn’t feeling comfortable for me when someone is giving me oral, I’ll say something and help guide the other person with what does feel good.

I also find my orgasms from oral can feel different from ones with penetrative sex, which is a great thing, because I love having various orgasms. Fun fact: many experts believe that women can have up to 12 different kinds of orgasms.

I have posted this before, but this article is a worthy read for everyone who likes to eat pussy: https://badgirlsbible.com/how-to-eat-pussy

 

[EliseAndrews]

Bridge!

You are very good at eating pussy!

You make me cum my brains out!

You've got the skills!

XOXO
Elise