The best boyfriend I ever had was 5’7. I think the vast majority of people who put importance on things like that aren’t worth valuing their opinions. Life unjustly limits us all in one way or another. Just roll with it the best you can! 🙃
Why no one has ever wanted to settle down with me
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Here I thought men weren't getting married or hooked up because of the "marriage that ends in divorce" and they get taken to the cleaners.
Stuff like being tall, good looking and nice manners are things that get you in the door.
Other stuff keeps her around? Money, career, position in society, family connections, time spent together; but really the important one is keeping your dick in your pants when she is not around....
Stuff like being tall, good looking and nice manners are things that get you in the door.
Other stuff keeps her around? Money, career, position in society, family connections, time spent together; but really the important one is keeping your dick in your pants when she is not around....
Very true Charlee. Also Madison Avenue advertising and Hollywood stereotypes(both patriarchal industries) have hurt people of short stature. Interesting that some new advertising over the years has had mixed races, multi-body images of women etc. but have not shown a shorter man with a taller woman.
Its not getting any easier out there for guys under 5 10. Walking around Vancouver I do double looks at the amount of tall Asian women easily over 5 9. Back When I was in high school I barely saw one over 5 6.
I don't think height is the main reason. If you read this article you would notice that most of those men in the article are Asians. Asian men are known for their lack of social skills. They also lack masculine traits that attract women.
Mexican men have the same height as Asians but are more successful in dating. So it has nothing to do with height.
Funny you mention that. Ive seen single moms travel to Mexico and bring back a husband. In many cases he's shorter than then.
This is whiny. Your a man...go get it.
Don't want to hear how hard it is.
Don't want to hear how hard it is.
Two things can be true at once:
- Height makes a difference. Tall guys have it easier (speaking as a taller than average guy).
- If you attribute your lack of dating success to height (or any other trait like income, race, etc), that victim mentality will negatively affect your mentality in interacting with women (I.e. the Pygmalion effect). Embrace what you have.
Women vote with their feet, not their mouths. A lot of women will say they want a nice guy, but that's not the guy they pick. Some women will say height doesn't matter, but everybody knows height is a major factor. There are a dozen more factors so being short is far from a dealbreaker, but a shorter person will have to make up their SMV some other way. Life and love aren't fair.
There's nothing more self-defeating than self-pity. Blaming things outside of your control for your shortcomings (I couldn't resist) accomplishes nothing. One of my closest friends is 5'6" and throughout our teens and twenties, he always had the prettiest girlfriends and never wanted for female companionship. It never even occurred to our group of friends that he was of below average height until a relative pointed it out. He is now happily married and very successful in his career. He is an upbeat fun person with a good sense of humour that people want to be around and always has been. Maybe if you're having trouble finding people who want to spend time with you, look in the mirror and ask yourself if you're someone you would like to spend time with.
All guys chase after the very small percentage of women that look like supermodels. Those women pick the best of the men out there.
The majority of the women in society don't look like supermodels.
A significant portion don't get looked at, at all.
The complaints go both ways. If you're average, pursue an average looking woman. You'll have better luck.
Or, have a great personality with a great sense of humor, this tends to attract women as well.
Not every woman in society is dating a guy 6' or over.
The majority of the women in society don't look like supermodels.
A significant portion don't get looked at, at all.
The complaints go both ways. If you're average, pursue an average looking woman. You'll have better luck.
Or, have a great personality with a great sense of humor, this tends to attract women as well.
Not every woman in society is dating a guy 6' or over.
" All guys chase after the very small percentage of women that look like supermodels. Those women pick the best of the men out there. "
Sorry Ray, I do not agree. All guys may like to chase supermodels but most have the sense to not waste their time. And supermodels picking the best of men? Hardly. Remember this is subjective, for them, for the men, for you and for me. Supermodels, like normal models
all make mistakes in judgment, just like all of us.
I agree whole heartedly with your comment about great personality, sense of humour, add in being a decent human, all add up to being attractive. Works both ways.
Sorry Ray, I do not agree. All guys may like to chase supermodels but most have the sense to not waste their time. And supermodels picking the best of men? Hardly. Remember this is subjective, for them, for the men, for you and for me. Supermodels, like normal models
all make mistakes in judgment, just like all of us.I agree whole heartedly with your comment about great personality, sense of humour, add in being a decent human, all add up to being attractive. Works both ways.
I think OP post, along with his response or lack there of, really show the type of character this person has. It's very likely that height is not even close to the main reason for this guys disappointments in dating.
Let's play a game:
MEN: state your height before pontificating if the OP is "whiny", "self defeating", etc.
WOMEN: honestly tell us the ratio of ALL men under-5' 8" versus over-5' 8"' that you're dated, crushed-on, made-out with, slept with (for free), etc.
I'm 5'7", I don't share the OP's sense of despair but I'm in my 50s and went through a lot of personal growth to get where I am. Yes, self-confidence, resilience and a positive attitude will get you far in life. No doubt... if there is a positive and constructive message for the OP, it would be that. However, I cannot abide people shitting on this guy about his "attitude" when they know nothing about what it means to be a short man in our society. Do we really have to footnote this thread with references to the myriad studies, research papers, articles, books, documentaries, etc. that have covered this topic and shown that, unequivocally, shorter men are at a disadvantage in business, politics, sports and certainly dating?!
Give the guy a break! It sucks to be a short man, it sucks to be poor (definitely born poor), it sucks to be a person-of-colour, it sucks to be First Nations, it sucks to be overweight, it sucks to be ugly, it sucks to be unskilled, it sucks to be uneducated... in some countries it definitely sucks to be a woman or LGBTQ+... a lot of things suck and yet people persevere and overcome.
However, those with the PRIVILEGE of not having to bear the same cross as someone else DO NOT have the right to dismiss or diminish their struggle and pain when they know nothing about it!
End of rant.
MEN: state your height before pontificating if the OP is "whiny", "self defeating", etc.
WOMEN: honestly tell us the ratio of ALL men under-5' 8" versus over-5' 8"' that you're dated, crushed-on, made-out with, slept with (for free), etc.
I'm 5'7", I don't share the OP's sense of despair but I'm in my 50s and went through a lot of personal growth to get where I am. Yes, self-confidence, resilience and a positive attitude will get you far in life. No doubt... if there is a positive and constructive message for the OP, it would be that. However, I cannot abide people shitting on this guy about his "attitude" when they know nothing about what it means to be a short man in our society. Do we really have to footnote this thread with references to the myriad studies, research papers, articles, books, documentaries, etc. that have covered this topic and shown that, unequivocally, shorter men are at a disadvantage in business, politics, sports and certainly dating?!
Give the guy a break! It sucks to be a short man, it sucks to be poor (definitely born poor), it sucks to be a person-of-colour, it sucks to be First Nations, it sucks to be overweight, it sucks to be ugly, it sucks to be unskilled, it sucks to be uneducated... in some countries it definitely sucks to be a woman or LGBTQ+... a lot of things suck and yet people persevere and overcome.
However, those with the PRIVILEGE of not having to bear the same cross as someone else DO NOT have the right to dismiss or diminish their struggle and pain when they know nothing about it!
End of rant.
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With all the actual hardships faced by people such as mental illness, physical disabilities, or serious illness, whining about being small is really petty. Almost everyone has had to deal with some sort of challenge in their life with some of those challenges more visible than others.
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