Why no one has ever wanted to settle down with me

[lukom]

A study once revealed that a man who is 5'6'' needs an additional $175,000 to be as desirable as a man who is 6' tall.

https://www.vice.com/en/article/93w...ng?utm_medium=social&utm_source=vice_facebook

 

[jamasianman]

The movie Gattaca has a scene where the protagonist has his legs broken and metal pieces put in so he can be a bit taller. Something tells me that future isn't far off.

 

[angry anderson]

Saw a couple of hot sisters in a store the other day. I wanted to approach them. They were hot and slutty looking. They were both about 5'9". Taller than me. Pretty much all the males in the store were over 6'3". If I was that tall, I feel that the nervousness of cold approaches would not exist. Just having that height and heft creates an impressive first impression. When you are short. You are basically invisible to most women. Quite understandably. Why pick a shrimp?

 

[ExpCharlee]

patriarchal standards hurt us all.

 

[E.H.]

Maybe you are dodging a bullet,if being disfavoured by women.
The man who does not place himself at the disposal of women,;is not the man who is disposed of & dispossessed of their resources,by women.
I have a friend,who all women will think lesserly of other men,when in his presence.
This doesn't bother me;because I know they do not love him so much,as they love the idea of what his money can do for them.

Because this friend has a conveyer belt of women,who have their designs on him,he can act up like an Emperor Tiberius and these women will supplicantly not hold him to account for his poor behavior.
To this I laugh sardonically,because beneath the surface,these women are no less rotten than he.

Engelbert Humperdink

 

[angry anderson]

Maybe you are dodging a bullet,if being disfavoured by women.

They usually miss because they are shooting high. lol

 

[Ame123]

The movie Gattaca has a scene where the protagonist has his legs broken and metal pieces put in so he can be a bit taller. Something tells me that future isn't far off.

They are already doing this operation breaking bones and they will grow back together to make the person taller

 

[beaveraddict]

Let's see how long this thread lasts?
I posted a similar one a few months ago and the mods had to shut it down after a couple of tall guys weighed-in with insults, insinuating that short guys have mental problems for thinking that height matters...?!?!
Despite so many studies confirming the same point, that taller men benefit from so much privilege within both male-centric and mixed environments, having this conversation seems to trigger most tall men and a lot of women too. For some odd reason nobody wants to acknowledge privilege when they have it (in the case of tall men); as for women, perhaps the societal narrative is that men are superficial, only caring about the externals when choosing a mate whereas women look for more substantive qualities. This all sounds good until you look around and realize that taller men do so much better in the dating pool! Perhaps it offends women's view of themselves as being above superficial concerns?
Sure, there are outliers, and (as a shorter man) one has to make do with what one has. Perhaps this is why many shorter men are more driven succeed?
Oh, but then you get told you have a "Napoleon Complex" LOL

 

[oldshark]

I would agree and that you see this bias in business and industry as well. Those men at 6' or taller are given more opportunities than shorter men. However despite these individuals constantly having the advantage, it doesn't necessarily mean that they do better. They never ever admit having the advantage. Same as the pretty woman never admits that she has an advantage in obtaining mates. I have found it best not to dwell on these things. I cannot change my height. What I can do is not to play the game. I look at all people and discount their physical appearance, gender, etc., as I hire them, develop them and promote them. Women who look for the minimum 666 male are often disappointed with their catch.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

" Why no one has ever wanted to settle down with me "

A height challenged buddy of mine who is as far as I can tell, as handsome a man as I have ever seen, built like an adonis, etc etc, once told me that he figured the reason he could never find a mate was because he usually ate his meals in front of the microwave.

 

[angry anderson]

" Why no one has ever wanted to settle down with me "

A height challenged buddy of mine who is as far as I can tell, as handsome a man as I have ever seen, built like an adonis, etc etc, once told me that he figured the reason he could never find a mate was because he usually ate his meals in front of the microwave.

Deep.

 

[kelcaine]

To be fair, this is only one study, and there are many other qualities that women look for in men, and many of us don’t look at height as being one of them. I have been 5’9” since I was 16, and I’m on the tall side. I date people of all different heights in my personal life, and quite honestly I have had quite a few partners shorter than myself.

I can speak for myself, and not others but there are so many qualities that are WAY more important than height in a partner, and most definitely more important than one’s wealth too. This is just one article out there that highlights qualities women seek in men:

https://www.thegentlemansjournal.com/8-qualities-women-look-man/

Also to point out, it’s more important to find quality over quantity in those who find you to be attractive too. If someone is going to overlook some of you’re qualities because of your height, they may be a superficial person, and I’ll guess someone you may not want a relationship with anyways.

I do not know you, but I’m sure you have many amazing things about the person you are that makes you a wonderful person, and someone worthy of finding love. But also remember the dating scene can be a crap show out there. It’s difficult for us all, even for many of us providers. So try not to get discouraged... someone special will come your way!

 

[Badman888]

patriarchal standards hurt us all.

They are literally female standards...

 

[SexualHealing]

This is really sad if you think being 5'6 is the reason you haven't found the right person. Sure you are shorter than most guys, but you are still as tall and taller than most women. If you aren't meeting the right women, I seriously doubt height is the main problem. I think your attitude of feeling sorry for yourself and really leaning into that is quite telling of your perspective on life.

And when it comes to height, that is only one aspect of your physical appearance. How about the rest of your physique? Do you work out and present a good version of that? Or do you just sit around and feel sorry for yourself. There is also your style, clothing as well as grooming. And also how much confidence are you projecting when you meet people. Blaming problems on your height is really over simplifying a greater problem here.

 

[beaveraddict]

This is really sad if you think being 5'6 is the reason you haven't found the right person. Sure you are shorter than most guys, but you are still as tall and taller than most women. If you aren't meeting the right women, I seriously doubt height is the main problem. I think your attitude of feeling sorry for yourself and really leaning into that is quite telling of your perspective on life.

And when it comes to height, that is only one aspect of your physical appearance. How about the rest of your physique? Do you work out and present a good version of that? Or do you just sit around and feel sorry for yourself. There is also your style, clothing as well as grooming. And also how much confidence are you projecting when you meet people. Blaming problems on your height is really over simplifying a greater problem here.

Nearly spit-out my coffee at this comical victim-blaming diatribe. Was that meant to be constructive?
How tall are you, exactly? 'cause if you're not under 5' 8", maybe sit this one out champ, ok?
Sure, being fit, polite, respectful, well-groomed, charming, etc....these all matter between two guys the same height. But women still tell super well turned-out short men "I like you as a friend" (unless they're rich & generous) and end-up with boring & unfit tall guys. We've all seen those couples: petite, attractive woman holding hands with some lug with rounded shoulders, skinny-fat, no real opinions on anything... yet they're over 6'2". What a coincidence!!!
This happens all the time.
Why not walk a mile in a short guy's shoes before spewing this Tony Robbins rah-rah BS.

 

[SexualHealing]

Nearly spit-out my coffee at this comical victim-blaming diatribe. Was that meant to be constructive?
How tall are you, exactly?
Sure, being fit, polite, respectful...these all matter between two guys the same height. But women still tell super well turned-out short men "I like you as a friend" (well, unless they're rich & generous) and end-up with boring & unfit tall guys. We've all seen those couples: petite, attractive woman with some lug with rounded shoulders, skinny-fat, no real opinions on anything... yet they're over 6'2". What a coincidence!!!
This happens all the time.
Why not walk a mile in a short guy's shoes before spewing this Tony Robbins rah-rah BS.

Ya I'm sure the guy is going to miss out on the 5'10 supermodels. But I'm sure there are some attractive women who are 5'0 or 5'4 out there. At 5'6 ya that will disqualify you from alot of taller girls or women who are very set on having a taller guy. But there are guys that height who can still land a decent woman.

All I'm saying is that it isn't the be all end all of why someone can't find a woman. And making excuses and feeling sorry for yourself isn't gonna help.

 

[luvsdaty]

Oh I can see this going off the rails rather quickly (take bite of popcorn)

 

[beaveraddict]

Ya I'm sure the guy is going to miss out on the 5'10 supermodels. But I'm sure there are some attractive women who are 5'0 or 5'4 out there. At 5'6 ya that will disqualify you from alot of taller girls or women who are very set on having a taller guy. But there are guys that height who can still land a decent woman.

All I'm saying is that it isn't the be all end all of why someone can't find a woman. And making excuses and feeling sorry for yourself isn't gonna help.

Perhaps. Look, everyone has an opinion... but do you have the "lived experience" to know what the OP is actually talking about? You didn't disclose your own height...?
As for the 5'0" - 5'4" women, they are THE WORST for this!
Speaking from experience (lots before I settled-down)... maybe it's an insecurity thing, but it's almost a trope how really short women end-up with much taller men (and tell shorter men on dating apps they need not apply). I actually found women in my own height range to be most open-minded (5'4" - 5'8"ish) about my own height (5' 7") and even had a few passionate affairs with much taller women (who always lamented that tall guys preferred short women). In fact, because the tall ladies had been so good to me IRL and the short ladies not, is probably why I have a "thing" for tall SPs LOL.
Go figure 🤷‍♂️

 

[ExpCharlee]

They are literally female standards...

Perpetuated by the patriarchy… we are taught men are supposed to be tall and strong and stoic which is some bullshit

 

[SexualHealing]

Beaveraddict, if you were able to date all these women and have these experiences and eventually settle down, then validates what I'm saying in that being 5'6 or 5'7 is not going to stop a man from finding an adequate person for dating or a relationship. Sure I can agree it can limit you a bit or get in the way, but it does not have to stop you.

No one needs to create a post titled "no one wants to settle down with me" and then blame being 5'6 for your disappointment in the dating world. If you were 5'1 sure I could see that being a more extreme issue and being alot more limiting. But not 5'6.