Help troubleshoot no-responses - am I giving off red flags?

[Vancity2401]

Hi, regular guy from Vancouver here. Trying to get started but every single message I've sent so far has been straight-up ignored with no response - what gives?

Here's an example of the message I'm sending over text:

"Hi <name>, saw your ad on Leolist I'm a 29 y.o. caucasian guy, double vaxxed, interested in 60min gfe, I'm available any time Thursday or Friday"

Is the <30 first-time user giving off creepy vibes? Do I sound fake by saying "available any time" (unemployed, so i really am)? Is my 236 number the issue? (it's a legit Vancouver area code, but a newer one so maybe people don't know it like 604 and 778) Or, probably, I'm just expecting too much, especially from very popular spinner girls that probably get 100s of messages?

If there's any glaring tips on SP etiquette over text / email that I'm missing, I'd love to know

 

[milemiles]

Nope no red flags. That is literally almost the exact same thing I send.

Who are you messaging ? You’ll probably get better response rate from the agencies or women who advertise on Tryst.

 

[luvsdaty]

Hi, regular guy from Vancouver here. Trying to get started but every single message I've sent so far has been straight-up ignored with no response - what gives?

Here's an example of the message I'm sending over text:

"Hi <name>, saw your ad on Leolist I'm a 29 y.o. caucasian guy, double vaxxed, interested in 60min gfe, I'm available any time Thursday or Friday"

Is the <30 first-time user giving off creepy vibes? Do I sound fake by saying "available any time" (unemployed, so i really am)? Is my 236 number the issue? (it's a legit Vancouver area code, but a newer one so maybe people don't know it like 604 and 778) Or, probably, I'm just expecting too much, especially from very popular spinner girls that probably get 100s of messages?

If there's any glaring tips on SP etiquette over text / email that I'm missing, I'd love to know

Are you blocking your phone # when you're sending your texts? Many ads say no blocked #s

 

[oldshark]

I don't think many of the massage AMPs actually monitor the messages that come through their emails. I either phone the place or just go there. As for Escort SPs, they usually respond to text messages but they may not respond to LL enquiries. I am guessing.

 

[Chacha]

The only thing I would change is narrowing the time down. Even though you maybe free throughout the day, the Sp’s aren’t. Having at least 2 times that are preferable allows the lady to weed out time wasters. She doesn’t want to have a back and forth with any of us to set up an appointment.

The more detail of your ideal time, services and day preferred, the more likely you will have positive responses. These are all things I have learned the hard way. Like any service, be concise and courteous and you will have better results.

 

[Buddyguy66]

The only thing I would change is narrowing the time down. Even though you maybe free throughout the day, the Sp’s aren’t. Having at least 2 times that are preferable allows the lady to weed out time wasters. She doesn’t want to have a back and forth with any of us to set up an appointment.

The more detail of your ideal time, services and day preferred, the more likely you will have positive responses. These are all things I have learned the hard way. Like any service, be concise and courteous and you will have better results.

Agree. I've had better luck when I request a time and day. I've thought I was just veing considerate by saying any weekday after 5 but maybe an SP sees it differently..or thinks I may not be of serious intent. So now I say something like hope we can get together x night at 530. If that won't work, I trust she'll say yay or recommend an alternate plan.

 

[Banged_Up]

Dude, I shit you not... I’ve had a girl call in sick, then when I pivoted the next girl I contacted gave me shit (semi my fault) so I didn’t connect with her then a girl I really wanted to see texted me today to tell me she’s on holidays. I texted her Monday.
Long and short of it I feel like I can’t even get laid paying for it. I’m gonna hang a pork chop around my neck so the dog will play with me.
Just shit luck and bad timing. Full moon? Mars retrograde? Probably.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

Something seems off here. The OP's text is pretty much on. I would change it though to something like:

"Hi <name>, saw your ad on Leolist I'm a 29 y.o. caucasian guy, double vaxxed, interested in an hour appointment with you. Can you tell me please roughly what part of the city you are in? Do you have some time for me {this afternoon, this evening, this morning etc}"

The response you should expect would be an approx address, maybe some rates/service and a request when would you like to come? The fact you are getting nada for replies means you either have your number blocked (as noted) or you have impeccably bad luck and have picked out flakes for your appointments. Keep trying. Both you and bangedup - it isn't that hard to make an appointment.

 

[Big_Guy_Rye]

Trying to get started but every single message I've sent so far has been straight-up ignored with no response - what gives?

bad luck choosing old ads for providers that have since moved on?....it happens.

Here's an example of the message I'm sending over text:

"Hi <name>, saw your ad on Leolist I'm a 29 y.o. caucasian guy, double vaxxed, interested in 60min gfe, I'm available any time Thursday or Friday"

Nothing wrong with this. ....But I would say, (from my generalized experience) it's harder to catch a provider on a weekend night, like Friday, than something more in the middle of the week like Thursday... It's a good time to take the night off and paint the town red with all their earnings. On the flip-side, even if they do work the weekend nights, all their clients want their action too so demand gets super-high peak times for sure......

Is the <30 first-time user giving off creepy vibes?

No, and Yes? A professional, non-judgmental provider will look past the age gap; but the younger they are (relative to your age, and within legalities), the less-professional and judgmental they can be.

Do I sound fake by saying "available any time" (unemployed, so i really am)?

If you're not working, and have all the free time in the world, then worry about her availability, since she's definitely would have a packed schedule.

Is my 236 number the issue? (it's a legit Vancouver area code, but a newer one so maybe people don't know it like 604 and 778)

No.

Or, probably, I'm just expecting too much, especially from very popular spinner girls that probably get 100s of messages?

Perhaps? Popular, well-reviewed, 10/10, spinner, smoke-shows that rejected you in high-school, (that are REAL) do get scooped up pretty quick; which is what I said before about worrying over her schedule and not yours.

If there's any glaring tips on SP etiquette over text / email that I'm missing, I'd love to know

First off, e-mailing isn't effective, unless you're attempting to see a more professional, high-tier, VIP, well-branded provider. Otherwise, e-mail addresses you see on random classified ads, like LL, are mostly dummy e-mails used to set up their profile, then forgotten about. Rarely have I seen a lesser known provider use the e-mail on their ad to reply back. So stick with texting.

Overall, you're doing nothing wrong anyways. Maybe it's just bad luck, so keep trying.

 

[Buddyguy66]

I wouldn't lead by asking anything relative to what part of the city does an SP live in. What bearing does that have on the encounter beyond client convenience. That sounds creepy to me. Just saying. I know many SPs will say I have a beautiful condo downtown or the beltline or whatever, but I wouldn't expect them to share anything else about their location at that atage in the communication.

 

[EuroSZabina]

Hi, regular guy from Vancouver here. Trying to get started but every single message I've sent so far has been straight-up ignored with no response - what gives?

Here's an example of the message I'm sending over text:

"Hi <name>, saw your ad on Leolist I'm a 29 y.o. caucasian guy, double vaxxed, interested in 60min gfe, I'm available any time Thursday or Friday"

Is the <30 first-time user giving off creepy vibes? Do I sound fake by saying "available any time" (unemployed, so i really am)? Is my 236 number the issue? (it's a legit Vancouver area code, but a newer one so maybe people don't know it like 604 and 778) Or, probably, I'm just expecting too much, especially from very popular spinner girls that probably get 100s of messages?

If there's any glaring tips on SP etiquette over text / email that I'm missing, I'd love to know

I thought you are going to say for an example
"Hey u avail"

 

[steverino]

Depending on the ad and lady including stuff like, "I read your ad/website and the experience that you offer fits very well with my preferred session. Feel free to text me back at anytime." Being 29 may set of some rejections from ladies who prefer older clients. Bon chance.

 

[islander1-1]

Depending on the ad and lady including stuff like, "I read your ad/website and the experience that you offer fits very well with my preferred session. Feel free to text me back at anytime." Being 29 may set of some rejections from ladies who prefer older clients. Bon chance.

BUT. on the other hand I prefer to be right out front about me age. (Old Phart) Even at that I had a bad session .... Lasted about 10 min with a young SP in Victoria, who said she was good with my age, but soon as I got in the door and she counted the cash, totally different story. Otherwise... YES your pretty much right on with your intro text. I agree an approx time of day is appropriate.
I get a lot of no responses too... I just think of it as "well thats her loss."

 

[steverino]

You definitely want to be upfront about everything because you would rather a lady reject you as a client than accept you based on a misunderstanding and then deliver a less enthusiastic experience. I am pointing out that you may be rejected because you are 29, not to be deceptive about your age to get the appointment.

 

[westwoody]

Lying about age or ethnicity is a huge red flag. Neither matter as much as the fact that someone lied about it. Right away a lady has to wonder what else they are lying about.

 

[80watts]

How new is your number?
If so it could be a flagged number by previous user.
Try email for a different option.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

Hey hun! I just spend a week in Vancouver to test the waters for work and I did notice a huge influx of activity on my phone that made it hard to manage bookings. There are also a lot of girls who will mess with other working girls to cut competition. It really could be a matter of the SP being overwhelmed with texts, especially if they are independent. I honestly would encourage that if you are interested in someone in particular and have reached out w no response to try again with reasonable time between messages obviously. Any REAL sp who missed a call or text out of a genuine mistake or busy-ness wil typically not have a problem w this (I say this as a Kelowna worker). Phones get busy and it honestly is likely just human error.
Personally I appreciate if someone sends a reminder text if I don’t reply in an appropriate timely manner.

that "there are also a lot of girls who will mess with other ..." caught my attention. And I did not think of that.
Pretty low but I guess in a dog eat pussy world that shit will get exuded.
On a polite followup text, I have never had a problem with doing that. Those who don't reply to a 2nd text will just bring drama/trouble to the game something I for one don't need.

 

[Banged_Up]

Man, I caught shit for a follow up inquiry 18 hours after the first email.
“It's not appealing to send a message to a girl the night before and then when she doesn't respond send another message the very next morning.” was the reply I got, via email.

 

[abbyguy4]

Man, I caught shit for a follow up inquiry 18 hours after the first email.
“It's not appealing to send a message to a girl the night before and then when she doesn't respond send another message the very next morning.” was the reply I got, via email.

She’s is running a business and should reply sooner than that or at least apologize… certainly not scold you.

 

[ExpCharlee]

She’s is running a business and should reply sooner than that or at least apologize… certainly not scold you.

Would your boss get mad at you for not working in between your work days too? 🤔 we need rest as well, and often have many inquiries to respond to. Demanding a fast response can feel like a red flag that a client could also be demanding in session.