As someone who has dated a client, I think you’re absolutely right....obviously.
ETA: don’t cross the line—have a conversation and use your words like an adult. 🙃
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Has Anyone Had Feels For A Provider?
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ETA: don’t cross the line—have a conversation and use your words like an adult. 🙃
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I can see why you would say this, but is their nothing to be said for the person who is confident enough to be open and genuine with their feelings? If you truly want to be an "adult" about it, isn't this the way to go?
Usually when two people get along extremely well there are mutual feelings that both parties can sense, but sometimes a lady can be so good at her job that you might be mistaken.
Just some food for thought. Waiting for the lady to make the first move in this particular situation may very well be the considerate and smart thing to do.
I mean, you are paying us to be your girlfriend. You know? Let us ask you. Lmao
If you have feels for a provider that go beyond business then you should check your ego and remind yourself that you are paying the lady to spend time with you.
I once had major feels for a few providers. One of them we ended up seeing each other outside of work for a bit. I would still go visit her at her work and would still pay (I wasn’t sure if I could/should not pay/pay). But then later that same day or the next we would go for dinner and an extended shag at her place or mine. She wanted to leave and for us to date as regular people but to be very honest I really only cared about how hot she was and what a good lay she was. We are still friends and still meet up but nothing physical.
She still mentions off the cuff that we should get married. I’m not sure how I feel about that.
She still mentions off the cuff that we should get married. I’m not sure how I feel about that.
I definitely have romantic feelings for several clients! Just makes it more fun!
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Exactly, and why not? Assuming you're adults and understand exactly where each other stands, I don't see the problem. Of course, you're as open with your life and what you want as you can be, which I think makes all these types of situations easier and less prone to misunderstandings.
I mean to be honest, a guy who values my time enough to pay for it is more desirable to me than a guy who doesn’t, so I’m not sure what you’re getting at here?
I literally felt that tonight. I had legit feels for her but, definitely uncertain if she felt the same about me.
So sorry to hear how it ended bro. When I was reading the first half I was like wow a SP was willing to go out with you and she's out of your league, way to go! Then I read how it ended I was like yea, it just doesn't work does it.I was seeing a regular for about a year, then we started to really enjoy talking about our personal lives more. One time she even asked me about going out, maybe checking out a Canucks game since she knew i was into hockey. The unconfident chickenshit side of me kicked in and didn't take her seriously cause standing side by side, she's hella out of my league. I think a session or 2 later, tried to book her and phone girl said she couldn't see me anymore for now because sp either developed feelings or said I reminded her too much of an ex. And that was that, was unable to book her ever again, my loss cause out of my 5 years she's still in my top 3 ladies
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Is that what I'm doing?? Thanks for letting me know, I had no idea....
Do you prefer a different kind of experience? I do go a few ways myself. We could also watch paint dry together, maybe after we paint an imaginary line that you could cross. LOL
I say tread lightly because I’ve been in a relationship that was indeed the result of some line-crossing, and while absolutely mind-blowing, genuine and unforgettable, it may end up tumultuous.
MACK OUT 😍
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Hope you don't mind if I stare as you walk away....
I have seen this floating around the Twitterverse, and it seems pretty pertinent to this conversation (courtesy Viola Fauvelle):
"Clients: when you start to feel possessive over a provider, remember the words of Lao Tzu: 'If you try to change it, you will ruin it. Try to hold it, and you will lose it.' Life is short, so don’t spoil a good thing and simply enjoy what is there to be enjoyed 🕊 "
"Clients: when you start to feel possessive over a provider, remember the words of Lao Tzu: 'If you try to change it, you will ruin it. Try to hold it, and you will lose it.' Life is short, so don’t spoil a good thing and simply enjoy what is there to be enjoyed 🕊 "
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