I can't cum

[Jack_jack]

Might say its a good thing, but actually I don't think it is...

I can go for hours without cumming...

The only and only way to cum is if I do it myself.
Yes I do it every week because it starts to be painful without unloading... So I can't really stop it.

I know there are meds for early ejaculation but is there something to make it faster?

 

[badbadboy]

I hate it when that happens. For me it’s like a month long thing which has a huge buildup. Trying too hard I guess.

Try not to jerk off too. Makes it even more frustrating when I can’t cum with a Fleshlight or my hand. A solid BJCIMWS works most of the time with me.

 

[Newb808]

I’ve experienced this. Too much porn, death grip, runners (edit:rubbers)etc and in my case a bit of psychological reservation about pooning when I first started. An SP helped me with this by recommending only jerking with a fleshlight with minimal porn and only with as much speed as I could replicate in intercourse. She even used it in sessions a few times to finish. BBJCIMWS is a great way to finish too!!

 

[blakealridge]

Check out www.curedeathgrip.com
It’s really helped a lot of my clients with this issue ?

 

[laddi_daddi]

This happens to me a lot when I am a little anxious and it happens mostly when getting laid with someone for the first time. Generally the more mechanical the sex is, less are the chances of me reaching a good climax.

 

[Jack_jack]

I’ve experienced this. Too much porn, death grip, runners (edit:rubbers)etc and in my case a bit of psychological reservation about pooning when I first started. An SP helped me with this by recommending only jerking with a fleshlight with minimal porn and only with as much speed as I could replicate in intercourse. She even used it in sessions a few times to finish. BBJCIMWS is a great way to finish too!!

I didn't believe in psychological side effects before, but now I think it's one of the main reasons

 

[Jack_jack]

Check out www.curedeathgrip.com
It’s really helped a lot of my clients with this issue ?

This is exactly me lol...

The death grip, I did it for 20 years before even touching a women. I was disappointed from sex at the beginning.. it was very soft and light

At least I know what's my problem now, thanks Charlee

 

[westwoody]

Get your prostate checked.

My brother has prostate cancer, never had any symptoms, and it’s bad. Literally came out of nowhere.

 

[PuntMeister]

Couple of tips that work for me:
- abstain from any ejaculations for 3-5 days min before your session
- build up slow. Don’t take your clothes (or hers) off until you’re rubbing up against each other and making out. Junior should be bulging big time before being unleashed
- find your money position. Don’t worry about how many different poses you get into. Go to the one that feels really good and stay with it. My money position is crashed doggie. Start in regular dog, then flatten out. Get your legs outside and take long deep strokes—works for me
- go to your happy fantasy place. If sexy heels make you horny at night, visualize sexy heels. If it’s big red lips, fill your mind with big red lips
- if you got somewhere close and then lost momentum, take a short break. Cuddle, and rebuild slowly
- book enough time, and let your lady know.
- give her a magic wand, and start at setting 1 for at least 5 mins on junior before amping it up
- tell her what talk and touch turns you on. Save it for closing time
- find a Closer. All sp’s are not alike. Some are really really good at closing. 98 percentile stuff. Generally not mentioned in their ads, nor in the reviews.

-Punt.

 

[Sophia Fae YVR]

Might say its a good thing, but actually I don't think it is...

I can go for hours without cumming...

The only and only way to cum is if I do it myself.
Yes I do it every week because it starts to be painful without unloading... So I can't really stop it.

I know there are meds for early ejaculation but is there something to make it faster?

I would suggest some embodiment practices.. There are some amazing sex coaches and somatic sex educators who can help with this, no drugs required.
This can often have to do with not trusting or not feeling safe... Control... But other things can factor in as well

 

[pwnageKing]

Bro, I was like that too. Been jerking it myself for like 20+ years on porn. Couldn't cum for like 3 years until an SP fixed it (Tiffany 4331, kgirl from dt like 4 years ago).

Basically you gotta stop jerking off everyday. I was jerking off like 3 times a day. Try to resist for 2,3 days.

Get the girl to wear black leggings. Have her stimulate your nipples. Foreplay a bit, and go on top. You'll cum in like a minute just like how you do it with your hands.

I dono, for me, black leggings and anything related to Japanese porn helps (teacher, office lady, nurse cosplay, moaning, etc). Basically you gotta create an environment where real sex and porno are the same. You'll cum just as easily at that point.

 

[MRGREEN]

Here's a bit of a different story. Had open surgery to repair a Abdominal Aneurysm a couple of years ago. A lucky find (8.5 cm) and am fortunate to be here. Some nerve damage occured resulting in the inability to ejaculate. No issues with erections or achieving orgasm..... just no juice. I do miss the days of explosive ejaculation.... but it is what it is. May come back but unlikely.

Peace
MG

 

[Andrew69913]

It's a rare thing for me as well to ejaculate with an sp....pretty sure it's purely psychological in my case as I have no problem when time, or familiarity isn't an issue. Watching the time really gets me as I really try to respect it, no matter how much I'm told not to worry about time, I do lol. Partly why I never book under an hour.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

The honesty here is humbling.

Thank you to all fellow perbites for sharing what you have.

As a teen I was trained by an older widow - and when you are almost 16 to 18 you cum just by a few strokes. But as I transitioned into my early 20's I had a lot of sex but I did not cum. I could fuck for hours without losing an erection but did not cum. The term blue balls is fully understood by me. Then. I think it was when I was 22, maybe 23 I met this gal. I swear it was a mutual pheromone thing maybe something that put me just that more at ease, I really don't know and I learned what cumming was all about. Other than something physical I really think it is, at is most basic, an issue of trust.

And THAT may be the biggest issue everyone may have. When you get right down to it.

 

[Goldcoast2009]

I had problem cumming before . My SP is very patient with me and now it is much better, about 1 out of 10 I can’t cum. Her trick is caressing my ass any my butthole when I am in mish and some dirty talk.

 

[gugga_madi]

It's a rare thing for me as well to ejaculate with an sp....pretty sure it's purely psychological in my case as I have no problem when time, or familiarity isn't an issue. Watching the time really gets me as I really try to respect it, no matter how much I'm told not to worry about time, I do lol. Partly why I never book under an hour.

I second your point, any SP who is there for just to finish it up quickly kills the whole vibe.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

One of the things I learned early on with SP's, actually with any woman I was about to get down to doing the wild thing is that I tell them, clearly I very much enjoy and want sensuality in the session/evening. For the most part that gets it into a mood where the finish(es) are going to happen and time is not that much an issue. Anyway, works for me.

 

[Sharj]

People who use viagra or similar drugs have as side effect of drug difficulties with Cuming.

As you grow older you have less of testosterone in body ,less of spermatozoon so less cum.

Than there mantel and health reasons.
My perspective!

 

[Andrew69913]

One of the things I learned early on with SP's, actually with any woman I was about to get down to doing the wild thing is that I tell them, clearly I very much enjoy and want sensuality in the session/evening. For the most part that gets it into a mood where the finish(es) are going to happen and time is not that much an issue. Anyway, works for me.

I was never able to just walk in to the room ready to go lol, but I've never straight up told them I want sensuality, teasing, etc. I've just used the generic GFE term, because I am afraid of offending someone by talking too much about details. I am coming to the realization that if a person can't even talk about it, it most likely isn't going to happen lol. Thanks for the tip!

 

[johnsmit]

Well come to the club.
When I 50 and first started seeing the ladies I could not cum at all with any of them it was pretty disappointing all around. Yes I had had 37 years of masterbating and in my mid 40s I noticed my loads were getting less ,I had less sensation and not much force .

Even with porn I had to find the right one that turned me on.it was a chore some times, toke a few hours.
And with the girls it was more psycological then any thing else.
I eventually I managed to cum on a girl I was exstreanily turned on. I has phyced my self up for it but it was all about finding that mind set and kind of feeling for the moment. As I jacked off
Like I said totally in the head , psycologically taking my self to the place where I had been when I came with porn.
I got better and better at it and most of the time I was able to cum when with some one.

Of course was only me wacking off.
I have never cum while having sex, or from a BJ or a girl giving me a hand job. I just never been in a relationship or situation where we were so enthroled to make love and explore and please each other.

But i would say you got a mental block that what causing your problem.
You got to put in the work to find your mental trigger for cumming