Domination

[80watts]

So when a man goes sees a domintrix and she uses a strapon. Its going in one of two holes....

But if a woman goes sees a domintrix, the domintrix has a choice of three holes.

Now a domintrix is in charge, and she chooses what she is going to do, cause she is the dom, the one in charge.

Is the sub woman likely to get the strapon in the ass, the pussy or the mouth from the domintrix?

 

[poonerboi]

Whatever the sub desires. In pay for play Dom scenarios, the sub has told the Dom what he/she desires and also what is off-limits. So ultimately the so-called sub is actually the one in control.

 

[nickcan]

Yup, the one who pays/has the money is dominant.

 

[Miss Hunter]

So when a man goes sees a domintrix and she uses a strapon. Its going in one of two holes....

But if a woman goes sees a domintrix, the domintrix has a choice of three holes.

Now a domintrix is in charge, and she chooses what she is going to do, cause she is the dom, the one in charge.

Is the sub woman likely to get the strapon in the ass, the pussy or the mouth from the domintrix?

You typed this with one hand, didn’t you.

 

[Miss Hunter]

Yup, the one who pays/has the money is dominant.

This isn’t a good attitude to have when approaching a professional dominant. Or any sex worker, for that matter.

 

[Miss Hunter]

Whatever the sub desires. In pay for play Dom scenarios, the sub has told the Dom what he/she desires and also what is off-limits. So ultimately the so-called sub is actually the one in control.

Negotiations and consent applies to lifestyle situations as well. The moment consent and hard limits aren’t being respected, it isn’t BDSM anymore, it’s abuse. Sometimes asshole scumbags masquerade as Dominants. Manipulators can also masquerade as submissives

Dominants have limits as well

 

[80watts]

Ms Hunter I used two hands.

But if did take a long time to get the meaning right; I was more interested in the habits of the domintrix. As if she is used to doing things a certain way, with men, will she change if there is a female involved. A really good dom will try and get you to try new things.... So over time if you see the domintrix enough, won't you end up doing what she wants?

 

[Finewine60]

Great answer, I have lots of women who think they are subs approach me, and I always try and explain what you said, but you captured it beautifully.

 

[Miss Hunter]

Ms Hunter I used two hands.

But if did take a long time to get the meaning right; I was more interested in the habits of the domintrix. As if she is used to doing things a certain way, with men, will she change if there is a female involved. A really good dom will try and get you to try new things.... So over time if you see the domintrix enough, won't you end up doing what she wants?

I don't see female clients. I am bisexual but it's just a personal preference of mine to only take on males as clients. Who knows, perhaps one day I'll get an inquiry from a woman that I intuitively feel good about accepting, but this hasn't happened yet so I can't comment on any difference in my own behaviour in that aspect.

But when it comes to getting subs/clients to do what I want, that starts at the gates. These days I'm a cherry picker to a rather extreme level when it comes to accepting sessions. Life is short.. I only do what I want so I only accept requests that already align with my own interests.

BDSM is such a large umbrella term, with so many potential activities to provide there's no reason for me to do anything I don't want to do anymore.

And as Lalani already mentioned it isn't always sexual. These days the most I provide is a hj. When I first raised my restrictions I got a lot of messages along the lines of "haha good luck getting any clients that way!" But I had absolutely no problem. Many people participate in BDSM for other reasons. Spiritual enlightenment, altered states of consciousness, natural highs; endorphin rushes, etc..