Old Folks Homes
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Our father was in a good one for his last year. It was worth it but very expensive.
Most are horrible. I have a friend working in one that sounds awful.
Do not try to save money on this.
The best you can do is ask people who have parents in one. Make sure they are regular visitors and not someone who dumped their parents and never sees them.
Most are horrible. I have a friend working in one that sounds awful.
Do not try to save money on this.
The best you can do is ask people who have parents in one. Make sure they are regular visitors and not someone who dumped their parents and never sees them.
in my business i have visited most of them and for the most part they are pretty bad. must be very frustrating for residents cuz most of the care aides and lpn's are immigrants who struggle with english. imagine someone hard of hearing or having a speech issue trying to communicate a need like having to use the bathroom, and the esl caregiver can't figure out what's going on. while walking down the halls i've had a few residents come up to me and ask me to get them out of here.
I have had a few family in homes. Typically they have been ok but since the system is so overloaded and stressed out, they are basically just warehousing old people.
The smell of BO and urine is tough to take some days when you know your family member has not really been cared for in who knows how long. Note this has nothing to do with the actual care aid but more of the lack of care aids during a shift. The ratio from care aid to patient is really out of whack IMO.
Most families will pay for independent care workers to go in X number of days per week to make sure the hygiene is kept up, taken for a drive or walk etc. The family members would visit at night and weekends to help out too. This is key because some family's don't visit their family members a heck of a lot. I spent a fair amount of time in a few of these places and noticed some clients rarely had visitors. Sad but that is what I saw over the years.
The smell of BO and urine is tough to take some days when you know your family member has not really been cared for in who knows how long. Note this has nothing to do with the actual care aid but more of the lack of care aids during a shift. The ratio from care aid to patient is really out of whack IMO.
Most families will pay for independent care workers to go in X number of days per week to make sure the hygiene is kept up, taken for a drive or walk etc. The family members would visit at night and weekends to help out too. This is key because some family's don't visit their family members a heck of a lot. I spent a fair amount of time in a few of these places and noticed some clients rarely had visitors. Sad but that is what I saw over the years.
not good,
you need to have lots of money when you get old so you can get into the higher end ones.
my parents were both in them
and it did not end well,
that is all I can say, but it did not end well at all for them,
you want to be strong and self sufficient for as long as you can into your old age and not depend on other people for the basics,
someone making minimum wage, not trained proper, tired and over worked,. culture differences etc etc,
you need to have lots of money when you get old so you can get into the higher end ones.
my parents were both in them
and it did not end well,
that is all I can say, but it did not end well at all for them,
you want to be strong and self sufficient for as long as you can into your old age and not depend on other people for the basics,
someone making minimum wage, not trained proper, tired and over worked,. culture differences etc etc,
These guys are very good, the homes are run more like a resort, they retain their staff for many years so the patrons and caregivers really know each other. The cost is a bit more but worth every penny. https://chartwell.com/index
Profit vs care of individual. Bottom line is profit always wins.
My Dad is in a care home, it takes about 90-95 % of his pension check. Canadians have an aging population and I would estimate that 60-70% will be in some type of home between ages 80-85. If it is costing them 90% of their pensions, to be in the home, where is their quality of life....
If they are having care problems now, what is it going to be like in 20 years.
My Dad is in a care home, it takes about 90-95 % of his pension check. Canadians have an aging population and I would estimate that 60-70% will be in some type of home between ages 80-85. If it is costing them 90% of their pensions, to be in the home, where is their quality of life....
If they are having care problems now, what is it going to be like in 20 years.
First post and you bring up an old thread to criticize? This is the GENERAL FORUM anything is open for discussion, it also contains the rules and guidelines ^^^^ I suggest you read them!
My father was in a care home for 4 years before his passing last year. We as a family took care of him. Made sure all his needs were met. There was hardly a day that at least 1 of our family visited him. The good thing of having a large family. It amazed me how many people there never received a guest. So sad. My parents were lucky our family is close and honest. We just didn’t throw him in a home and forgot him. We just couldn’t care for him at the end as he needed 24 hours care. He was my best friend and could you abandon your best friend?? I miss him.
Sadly this is the new normal way to leave their family member on the wards. It's terrible to see them without visitors for what seems like weeks/months on end.
It's tough watching your family member deteriorate and I always said to some family members 'you gotta suck em up and go see them'.
When the family member passed, the ones with their hands out the quickest for were the ones who rarely visited.
A lot of members on this board have asked what's the point in staying in relationships that aren't 100 % satisfactory on all levels.
Well, caring for each other as we age is a good enough reason when reading this depressing shit.
Well, caring for each other as we age is a good enough reason when reading this depressing shit.
Dirty old men needing lovin' too. What you spend on an old folks home and the care you get may determine the lovin' you can afford.
Somehow the thought of a warm wet diaper seems much more appealing than sitting across the table watching an SO praying that you choke to death on your dinner so she can collect on your life insurance.
