Dating single mothers

[Sibar]

Single mothers can be pretty hard to deal with their baggage (ex husband). Done this more then once, one mother introduced me in the beginning as the guy that fixed her car. Whooppee, a couple of oil changes, etc, etc nothing major. The husbands were harder to deal with as they saw me as another rooster in the hen house.

After a few bad episodes of single mothers. I stayed away and was up front with future single mothers on where the relationship was going (nowhere)

 

[Aerts]

Single mothers can be pretty hard to deal with their baggage (ex husband). Done this more then once, one mother introduced me in the beginning as the guy that fixed her car. Whooppee, a couple of oil changes, etc, etc nothing major. The husbands were harder to deal with as they saw me as another rooster in the hen house.

After a few bad episodes of single mothers. I stayed away and was up front with future single mothers on where the relationship was going (nowhere)

Good point. My first foray into the single-mother dating pool was with a girl whose ex-husband was in prison for something involving crystal meth (this did not go far, luckily). Another had a baby daddy who was in the army and threatened to kill her. I am glad I never got to meet those scumbags!

 

[tehp8rkpv]

By generalizing an entire group of women, some of you may very well miss out on meeting someone who actually cares for and appreciates you!

But, I suppose, judging from many immature comments in this thread, some of you don’t seem to be at a stage in your lives where you’re actually ready for that anyways.

Just continue on with bad relationships and place the entire weight of blame on the other party when the relationships, that weren’t even built on a solid foundation in the first place, get washed away like a sandcastle when the tide comes in.

why don't you tell us about your experience dating single moms?

 

[tehp8rkpv]

I’ve never dated a single mom, but I do know both pooners and civvie men all have baggage too!!

Everybody has baggage. We’re all human.

Ohhh, then you as a SINGLE MOM must have some experiences to share?

 

[sybian]

I’m not exactly a single mother myself, my situation is... complicated...

My kids father is still actively involved in their lives and taking care of his responsibilities as their father. I do fully support myself though. Everything else is 50/50. And there’s been times in the past when he’s dealt with injuries and health issues where I have taken over complete financial responsibility for not just my children but supporting him too. And I never whined like a little bitch about it.

This is a bit of a thread derailment. But just saying just because a woman has had children and their previous relationship with the father has dissolved, it doesn’t automatically make a “single” mother a manipulative desperate golddigger.

You got that damn right Miss Hunter....I've dated plenty of single Moms.
Sometimes their only agenda is to have stable, well mannered affection, from a square jawed man....but sometimes that's not the case.
Everyone is different, and that also applies in where that person is in their life, at the time of the relationship.

 

[Aerts]

I’m not exactly a single mother myself, my situation is... complicated...

My kids father is still actively involved in their lives and taking care of his responsibilities as their father. I do fully support myself though. Everything else is 50/50. And there’s been times in the past when he’s dealt with injuries and health issues where I have taken over complete financial responsibility for not just my children but supporting him too. And I never whined like a little bitch about it.

This is a bit of a thread derailment. But just saying just because a woman has had children and their previous relationship with the father has dissolved, it doesn’t automatically make a “single” mother a manipulative desperate golddigger.

There are exceptions to everything that just reinforces the rule, they are exceptional examples. If that describes you then great, I will take your word for it... The simple fact is, there are an increasing # of single mothers out there in the dating pool and this thread is for men who have experienced them to discuss the subject matter at hand from a point of personal experience.

Hence my warning at the beginning of the thread, I do not care if SP think I am wrong, it is impossible for them to give an opinion on this subject because they have never dated a single mother.

Furthermore, the fact that some women have gotten so defensive in this thread makes me even more suspicious. If what I say doesn’t apply to you, then you have nothing to be upset about.

 

[Elmore]

OP seems to have just gone on a heart broken rant. Get over her bud.

Can't relate to single moms since I have never been involved with one but I've got a few FWB's who are married and have kids and it is a win/win for both of us. She goes home to her kids and husband who makes 150K per year (haha) and for the most part the line is clear. Neither of us are interested in crossing it.

Thought it was funny the OP called her out for her adulterous ways on a pooner board. Give it a rest. There are married men on this board way worse than her probably. She's just getting paid instead of paying for it.

 

[sybian]

There are exceptions to everything that just reinforces the rule, they are exceptional examples. If that describes you then great, I will take your word for it... The simple fact is, there are an increasing # of single mothers out there in the dating pool and this thread is for men who have experienced them to discuss the subject matter at hand from a point of personal experience.

Hence my warning at the beginning of the thread, I do not care if SP think I am wrong, it is impossible for them to give an opinion on this subject because they have never dated a single mother.

Furthermore, the fact that some women have gotten so defensive in this thread makes me even more suspicious. If what I say doesn’t apply to you, then you have nothing to be upset about.

I wouldn't presume that there are no SP's here that haven't dated single mothers....there may be a few here that could provide video proof.

 

[monger99]

If the intent was to antagonize the SPs here, I think he achieved his goal....... and he managed to do a dam good job of it

I bet he is not just on my ignore list now lol , but I am guessing he is under my age limit of 35 , sounds young, ____ and full of cum

LMAO @Ava Adams. I don't think some of the guys here understand that this board is just as much a screening tool for potential clients as it is a data collection tool for SPs. He may have proverbially "shot himself in the foot".

 

[monger99]

There are exceptions to everything that just reinforces the rule, they are exceptional examples. If that describes you then great, I will take your word for it... The simple fact is, there are an increasing # of single mothers out there in the dating pool and this thread is for men who have experienced them to discuss the subject matter at hand from a point of personal experience.

Hence my warning at the beginning of the thread, I do not care if SP think I am wrong, it is impossible for them to give an opinion on this subject because they have never dated a single mother.

Furthermore, the fact that some women have gotten so defensive in this thread makes me even more suspicious. If what I say doesn’t apply to you, then you have nothing to be upset about.

How do you know that the SPs have never dated single mothers? Many of them are bisexual and may have serious relationships with other female SPs, sex workers, or even civilians. I'm sure that same-sex relationships experience a lot of the complications associated with trying to manage love and single parent responsibilities. Just another take on the subject. Good luck.

 

[tehp8rkpv]

lol sorry not a single mom and not interested in sharing my dating experiences with the whole board .
How could you know if any sps have dated single moms or not ?

Not only does it appear like you got dumped and heartbroken , it also looks like you are NOT over it
sad really , you could have posted in a way that garnered tons of sympathy but instead you went on a rant .

I bet he is not just on my ignore list now lol , but I am guessing he is under my age limit of 35 .

oh oh.....it appears the Ignore Function is broken....

 

[bdan]

After reading the OP's post, my initial thought was "THIS is gonna go sideways!"

But it hasn't seemed to ... too badly.

Some of what he said made sense to me, from a biological imperative perspective but most of it, to me, was just generalizing. Something we all do at times.

But that is his perspective. Not right, not wrong. Just his.

Mine has been different but I was lucky to meet single mothers who had their shit together and their priorities right.

Have to say though that his decision to let the little head do the thinking for him, in a situation like that, is a little umm suspect?

 

[tehp8rkpv]

Oh I guess I should have said Blocked ..as in "on my blocked do not book list".. but then I guess I have to clarify since you did not get it ....young ..........man

My comprehension is sound and I understood CLEARLY what you ACTUALLY wrote.

edit , just a thought , if you dont like what I have to say , try using that ignore function

I do generally ignore your antagonist posts....especially the ones complaining of how unjustly unwelcome you are made to feel here.
And yes I'm done

 

[Aerts]

lol sorry not a single mom and not interested in sharing my dating experiences with the whole board .
How could you know if any sps have dated single moms or not ?

Not only does it appear like you got dumped and heartbroken , it also looks like you are NOT over it
sad really , you could have posted in a way that garnered tons of sympathy but instead you went on a rant .

Ok I’m sorry how narrow minded I was in forgetting about lesbian SP who date women, how could I be so thoughtless... go ahead and tell us your experiences then, I’m more than willing to listen.

Also, did I say I was dumped or looking for sympathy? If anything I feel sorry for the single mom SPs who can’t read and have been offended by this thread. If I’ve upset anyone, I am more than happy to be proven wrong, just bring some type of argument or evidence, I can be convinced I just need a little proof or at least anecdotal evidence to give me a good read.

As for the topic, I have seen a few posts alluding to successful relationships with single moms but haven’t really given any details other than you can’t generalize for the group. I am seriously interested in hearing how you made this work, particularly if you had no kids of your own when you started dating said single mother.

 

[clu]

The single mother I dated wasn't a gold digger nor trying to entrap me with a pregnancy. Rather she was incredulous that I'd want to date her and help her in any way with a child that wasn't my own, and she was also very cautious with birth control.

Aerts, you may maintain that this is another "exception that proves the rule", but that in itself is an assumption. As others have speculated it could be that your experience is biased due to the approach you take or the circles you keep, and not universally "the way it is." Allow for that possibility.

Edit to add: just saw your last reply. Yes, I did also have kids. To make it work, we just treated each other like human beings. I recognized she had responsibilities, a life, dreams... Maybe it's a question of getting into a relationship because you connect with the person rather than it being a provider/reward dynamic?

 

[sybian]

Perhaps she was wise enough to read into your intentions and could see you were never in it for love and commitment, just the easy sex. It doesn't seem like this was ever a real relationship in your eyes but trading fake words of endearment (based on your stated disdain for the women and her social status as you stated in your post) in exchange for her body. Maybe she put you in the "he's just using me for sex so I'll just use him for money" or "if he is just going to treat me like a prostitute he might as well be paying me" catagory.

Your post reads as though you truly view she is inferior to you in more ways than one. If you treated her the way you talk about her, I imagine her behaivor would reflect that of a women who no longer gives a fuck.

Really?.....There are women out there who after being treated like livestock, or inferior, turn into women who don't give a fuck?.....I wonder if at that point, it really matters in the scheme of things....if they have children or not?

 

[Mrmotorscooter]

We used to call these gals Husband Hunters, looking for financial security and a comfortable life. If she has a deadbeat X she is likely in this category and you could be risking a lot especially if she lives in your home for a number of years, she could walk with a portion of it. On the other hand there are independent single mothers who have even refused child support from an X and go it alone successfully raising good kids. There are those in the middle who have made a good choice but it didn’t work out but they have a cordial relationship with their X who pays child support. She is looking for a stable relationship, this could all work out but if you are not bringing positive energy to the relationship nothing will work.

 

[clu]

Really?.....There are women out there who after being treated like livestock, or inferior, turn into women who don't give a fuck?

That said, I'd wager Sybian is a decent guy even to his own livestock.

 

[jgg]

That said, I'd wager Sybian is a decent guy even to his own livestock.

You treat your animals well when they provide your livelihood.

 

[sybian]

Thank you both.....I would like to think that to be true.
I think if you mistreat another living thing, one way or the other, it will turn against you.
I also know if you run into a Grizzly, it will usually turn and walk.....if you run into a Grizzly Mother with Cubs , she will defend their well being to the death....or your death, whichever comes first.
Particularly if you show her, or her offspring any disrespect.