Giving up this hobby?

[Asian88]

When you sense something bad might happen because of this hobby, you definitely should quit immediately.

However if you (1) have cash for this hobby, (2) reject dangerous maneuvers, and (3) very sure you won't get caught or don't care, then keep calm and carry on.

 

[Rumple_Foreskin]

reject dangerous maneuvers

uhhh.... like what?

 

[Asian88]

Like BBFS, DT... for very cautious folks probably including LFK, lol.

 

[yvrvisitor]

This hobby is too easy for anybody to get laid with a bit of cash. As long as *you* want to get laid, it will be impossible to quit (other than financial and/or health reasons)

I have seen few people *temporarily* leave the hobby because of new gf, fuck buddy, etc. But all come back even if they still keep the relationship because of very simple 2 reasons - want to get laid and have extra cash available

 

[radon]

I think for me a lot of the times it's the process of the rush which is addictive and I basically relate it to chasing a high and much like a drug at the end is disappointment and remorse. Lots of cases I compare to my gf with whom I have great sex and is a complete smoke show. And then I need to go do this? I think it's the male need for variety. Just don't know if other guys go through the same.

It is not only the male need for variety. The ladies wander as well.

 

[takman]

I've been able to quit using the following motivation: invest that money instead into you and your health first off. If you're unattractive or out of shape start working out every day and eating healthy. Second use that money saved to date actual woman -- in this age of internet, there are a never ending sea of possibilities. Travel if you have to! Build relationships, trust and enjoy "actual sex".. yes that's right.. sex without a condom. Paying $300-400 to screw with a condom for me is purely a waste of time and money. It will only ever be 30% as good! It's the equivalent of getting a back massage with your shirt on. It will always leave you wanting more and feeling slightly disappointed. You just need to be smart obviously (disease and pregnancy) but invest a bit of time into finding the right girl and the pleasure, payoff and satisfaction will far surpass! It's well worth the bit of extra effort involved.

 

[51shades]

It is addictive but it is not too hard to quit. Take my example, I have managed to quit it about 15 times during last three years.

If someone like me can do it, so can anyone.

Sounds more like pausing than quitting lol

 

[beefcake11]

Thanks Takman. Solid advice and insight. That money could also go into a future fund for my 3 year old. Thanks!

 

[wintersurfer]

I have thought about quitting a few times (not really for any reason other than looking for more a true gfe set up, with travel and longer dates), thought about trying the sugar daddy route, signed up but never went much further than that, if and when I do decide to move on I would probably try the SD route with someone from this world, at least then we both kinda know each others history...

 

[bangsnation]

Yea, I wanna travel now, with the money I've spent and could be spending now, I can fit in a few countries every year and see the world.

I miss the chase, even though the sps I've met over the years have taught me so much... I want to call it quits, let's see.

 

[Aesthetics>all]

I took 8 months off to prove a point... going out DT and getting a hotel room was costing me more money than I spend on sps... so I'm back

 

[Joy.Division]

I've stopped pooning since my relationship with my SO has ended.

I hit up Tinder and hooked up with a few girls since our relationship ended.
Currently seeing 2 girls from Tinder and I haven't partaken in this hobby for over a month now... Seems like a record to me haha.

I find meeting girls from Tinder way more satisfying than pooning because there is more of a draw to be able to actually pick up a girl when they have plenty of other men chasing after them.

I used to visit the forum at least once a day now it's once a week just to catch up on things I've missed.

 

[Westcoast1]

I just threw away my 3rd burner phone last night.
It kind of forces me to stay away. This will help for a while for sure.

 

[cg16]

I'd say I'm a little conflicted. I enjoy the hobby, the excitement and exhilaration you sometimes get when you anticipate what lies behind that open door with someone you've never seen before. I mostly just do massage +, but there is also the fun in seeing how far her boundaries open up if you hit it off as well.

In addition I've probably dated about 6-7 massage girls I've met before. So there is the benefit of free massages and free everything else that comes with a relationship, along with added costs lol. Though if I wasn't in the hobby I'd never met these young ladies.

The part that conflicts me is the financial aspect. I haven't got in over my head and done more than I could reasonably afford, but I often wonder of my opportunity costs. I've been in the hobby coming up on 15 years now and if that money was funnelled into some blue chip dividend paying stocks instead it would have to be somewhere in the low six figures. So what am I giving up? An earlier retirement? Buying up an income property? More exotic travel? The possibilities are endless if those funds were better invested.

So to summarize my feelings, I enjoy it, I can't see giving it up, maybe slowing it down at some point, but not giving it up entirely. That said the above stated financial aspects do weigh in my mind. Maybe at some point this will cause me to give up the hobby, but for the time being, I enjoy it too much right now to give it up.

 

[Dawgfan]

We could all be rich if we gave up all of the thing we enjoyed to buy Microsoft stock. I have many activities that I enjoy, it's what makes me the man that I am. I enjoy meeting, showering with and having sex with women. It's easier to do it this way.

I take breaks often but when the short shorts come out my mind wanders. Next thing you know I'm surfing LL.

 

[PoCoKid]

Wow... never thought I'd see a thread like this.

I've wanted to give this up for a long, long time. First reason being financial reasons. I think about how much i've spent on SP's and massages and come to think of it, I could have probably been able to buy a nicer car, go on vacations somewhere, hell... maybe even a down payment for a place. Second reason is that I always feel guilty afterwards. I always ask myself "why did i do that?" Like someone mentioned earlier, it's exciting when you anticipate whats behind the door. But i always feel guilty afterwards. And I'm in the same position as someone else who responded here in that I do good for a while, but then something in my head clicks and boom, back in an SP's incall or MP.

 

[bangsnation]

Same idea. I could get a second place for investment and stuff. Sex without having any feelings involved with someone seems futile now, hence considering giving it up. I've not seen anyone in last 10 days and already have saved up enough for a trip.. so I am thinking why not ...

 

[bangsnation]

But good to hear other peeps opinion too..

 

[51shades]

I would like to offer my 2 cents too.

I think while at it we need to know what it is exactly. For myself, I know this is buying me experience and fun, but it doesn't buy me achievements and success in life. So it is more like entertainment, and when I spend on entertainment I know I really need to watch out for overspending.

On the other hand, I hope the experience is helping us rather letting us down. We could use the the experiment to gain confidence with girls and become better at sex. But always remember, don't expect the gfe the same way with a real gf. At this we pay for it so we can demand it. With a gf, gotta make sure she is happy to offer that.

Probably went off topic, but I just wanted to say this is fun but not real, and that is the key to use the experience the right way.

 

[submissive]

The part that conflicts me is the financial aspect. I haven't got in over my head and done more than I could reasonably afford, but I often wonder of my opportunity costs. I've been in the hobby coming up on 15 years now and if that money was funnelled into some blue chip dividend paying stocks instead it would have to be somewhere in the low six figures. So what am I giving up? An earlier retirement? Buying up an income property? More exotic travel? The possibilities are endless if those funds were better invested.

i don't even want to think about the amount of money. Then there is the risks of being caught or catching something!