What can you do if a SP leaves during a session because "we don't click"?

[Chessmen]

This just happened to me 15 minutes into a session with a SP I saw for the first time and I'm pretty disappointed but she gave me a full refund.
We kissed a bit, I mentioned how I'll enjoy it if she talked a bit more. Suddenly she got up and said "I don't think this is going to work".
She didn't tell me why specifically. She is a very well reviewed lady here that I was attracted to and this made me feel guilty. I suspect it might not even be something I did specifically if the reason is we don't have chemistry. But maybe it is for the best since she doesn't want me to have a bad session either.

I hope this doesn't happen again. This kind of rejection still stings

 

[Pretty_Priya]

Awww! Sweetie, that sucks. But maybe it's not personal. Maybe she realized she was just not in the mood at that exact moment, and she didn't want to give you a sub-par experience. We are women, after all, and we don't feel sexy and cheery all the time. When I was dancing on the strip club circuit, I once cried in the middle of a lap dance with a customer because I'd just had a fight with my Mom right before work. Better luck next time. *hugs*

 

[Mr Quim]

Awww! Sweetie, that sucks. But maybe it's not personal. Maybe she realized she was just not in the mood at that exact moment, and she didn't want to give you a sub-par experience. We are women, after all, and we don't feel sexy and cheery all the time. When I was dancing on the strip club circuit, I once cried in the middle of a lap dance with a customer because I'd just had a fight with my Mom right before work. Better luck next time. *hugs*

It's Compassion like this, that makes You even Sexier, and extremely Appealing !

One Day ....

Cheers !

 

[JimDandy]

I'm just very impressed that the lady was classy enough to give you a full refund. I suspect that most would either try to give you just enough service to avoid giving a refund or throw such a tantrum that you leave on your own without a refund. We have certainly read enough stories of that type on this site.

The older I get the more I am afraid the same will happen to me. In a way it has, because I was turned away by a young lady just starting out for being too old. Later we communicated again, she remembered me, and said she would be fine with seeing me now that she had matured into the work. I did not see her then and have not seen her since but don't discount the possibility that I might see her some time in the future.

JD

 

[lenny]

I've been in similar situations with much the same happening.

In retrospect i regret my handling of it.

IMO it seems that it might have been handled better on both ends:

1] Instead of telling the girl that you'ld like her to talk a bit more, just start talking to her, or asking her questions.

2] Instead of ending the date, ask the guy what he'd like you to talk about, or if something was wrong with the kissing.

 

[Pretty_Priya]

Being intimate with an older gentleman can be intimidating for a young woman who has never had that experience before. Certainly, this was the case for me. My parents were very strict about sex--I wasn't even allowed to date when I was growing up! And of course, when you're a young woman, all the older men in your life are parents, teachers, bosses, etc., so you don't normally have the opportunity to even flirt with them--usually you have to just be respectful and do as you're told! So, the first time I had a date with a man who was the same age as my Dad, it was totally outside of my comfort zone and range of experience. I felt so shy and self-conscious, like I was being a really, really bad girl. Honestly, it was also a huge turn-on, and something I'd always fantasized about, but had always been too afraid to try. It took me until just a few months ago to feel confident enough in myself as a sexual woman to be able to have an intimate experience with an older gentleman. I'm so grateful that I was able to overcome that fear, though, because now I genuinely enjoy the company of older men. There's a lot to be said about a man with skills and experience.

 

[sybian]

Being intimate with an older gentleman can be intimidating for a young woman who has never had that experience before. Certainly, this was the case for me. My parents were very strict about sex--I wasn't even allowed to date when I was growing up! And of course, when you're a young woman, all the older men in your life are parents, teachers, bosses, etc., so you don't normally have the opportunity to even flirt with them--usually you have to just be respectful and do as you're told! So, the first time I had a date with a man who was the same age as my Dad, it was totally outside of my comfort zone and range of experience. I felt so shy and self-conscious, like I was being a really, really bad girl. Honestly, it was also a huge turn-on, and something I'd always fantasized about, but had always been too afraid to try. It took me until just a few months ago to feel confident enough in myself as a sexual woman to be able to have an intimate experience with an older gentleman. I'm so grateful that I was able to overcome that fear, though, because now I genuinely enjoy the company of older men. There's a lot to be said about a man with skills and experience.

With all due respect, to the gorgeous young lady.......could you define "older" to this almost middle aged Cowboy?
I'm to the point in my life when the twenty year old Cowboys that work for me call me the old man.....but the seniors still call me young fella.

 

[Pretty_Priya]

I was thinking my parents' age and older. So, I guess 60+.

 

[mrman848]

If she gave a full refund then no harm done. That is actually quite respectful and shows some class.
Depending on the vibe I got from her i might ask questions about why she wanted to cancel the session. Or I might text her the question.

Heck, sometimes human pheromones just dont match up.
Sometimes we humans get sick with stomach pains, digestion pains.

....this might be a little hectic for us guys with some confidence or self image problems. ....offering money and then getting rejected can be a huge letdown. Sometimes even the straw that breaks the camels back and then he ends it.

But best not to get too hung up on it. Always best to believe it could be another problem outside your control unless 100% confirmed otherwise.

 

[alcxd]

I've had a date cancel, similar situation except she all of a sudden started crying. Took me by surprise so we just sat & talked. Turned out her boyfriend was caught in the act with a friend of hers. Gave me full refund & thanked me for just sitting & talking things out.
We set up another date a few weeks later & it was one hell of a date, to say the least

 

[sybian]

OUCH! That hurts. To be fair, age is somewhat irrelevant. It's how you carry yourself that makes you attractive to the opposite sex. Case in point, I think a 55 year old George Clooney will still be gorgeous at 60. Don't think there's too many ladies who will kick him out of bed just because he's old. The defense rest, your honor.

You may want to review Priya's post #6......she enjoys the company of the more experienced.

 

[Feenix]

I have not had anyone walk out on me. However, an agency girl, who was in her early 20's, came very close to doing so when she saw I was her father's age. When she called her agency, the convinced her to stay, as she was already there. She did.

Several weeks later I wanted to see her again and called the agency. I explained the situation, and gave the lady the option to reject my request without repercussions. She accepted and said she enjoyed our times together.

On the other hand, I have asked one lady to leave when she started to upsell me. That created an icy chill that would not have been melted. She disappeared shortly afterward. That was not a surprise.

 

[oneoldone]

This just happened to me 15 minutes into a session with a SP I saw for the first time and I'm pretty disappointed but she gave me a full refund.
We kissed a bit, I mentioned how I'll enjoy it if she talked a bit more. Suddenly she got up and said "I don't think this is going to work".
She didn't tell me why specifically. She is a very well reviewed lady here that I was attracted to and this made me feel guilty. I suspect it might not even be something I did specifically if the reason is we don't have chemistry. But maybe it is for the best since she doesn't want me to have a bad session either.

I hope this doesn't happen again. This kind of rejection still stings

Have to agree with Pretty_Priya it has happened to me and it can be just the chemistry is off or you set off a memory of a previous bad experience in either case she is doing you a favor by ending it early and preventing you from wasting your time and money so don't take it personally. Accepted the refund but left the flowers and wine and wished her good luck in the future.

 

[Chessmen]

Have to agree with Pretty_Priya it has happened to me and it can be just the chemistry is off or you set off a memory of a previous bad experience in either case she is doing you a favor by ending it early and preventing you from wasting your time and money so don't take it personally. Accepted the refund but left the flowers and wine and wished her good luck in the future.

Thanks for all the responses. I'll try to be more careful about what I say and do next time with a lady. From this time I got the sense that I had too many little requests which annoyed her instead of letting things flow naturally. It would be really unfair if I got blacklisted for reasons I don't even know. It would be even worse if I got accused of being abusive when I wasn't.

 

[Claire Monet]

Thanks for all the responses. I'll try to be more careful about what I say and do next time with a lady. From this time I got the sense that I had too many little requests which annoyed her instead of letting things flow naturally. It would be really unfair if I got blacklisted for reasons I don't even know. It would be even worse if I got accused of being abusive when I wasn't.

There isn't much you can do if a lady wants to leave except perhaps politely ask why. What you can do to try to avoid having the situation repeat is to be clear about what you're looking for in the session before it begins. If you have certain requests for outfit, role play, dirty talk etc make it known beforehand in the booking process so she can make an informed decision whether she wants to proceed with the appointment or not.

Sorry this happened to you and better luck next time!

 

[sevenofnine]

I never really got the chemistry part.
When pushed, women will tell you its a job, a business, no more,
I work every day with people I won't have in my house in my car, I won't even sit with them but I work and am civil to them.

so what is the big deal.
there was a women I fought with on this board,

I asked her for a session, she ignored me, I guess had a good laugh. mumbled something in your dreams.
to me its like Charlie Sheen said when he was heckled go ahead and laugh, but I got your money.

I had a fight with my sp a long time ago, it took maybe a year and we got back together,
I sometimes wonder after a few beers, are we taking out revenge on each other,
she has my money, but I fuck her regularly, tonight as a matter of fact.

it is just funny I think sometimes people need to get over themselves.

and this is very intimate, and if you can't stand something, I get it I do. money is not all that important sometimes.

its interesting the way people think, but you never really know sometimes do you.

 

[Lo-ki]

Excellent advice, Claire

I don't like having any surprise requests during session. I prefer having everything discussed and clairified during the booking process. I need to feel prepared and in the right state of mind for my sessions to flow well.

Well said...

 

[CrazedandAbused]

Thanks for all the responses. I'll try to be more careful about what I say and do next time with a lady. From this time I got the sense that I had too many little requests which annoyed her instead of letting things flow naturally. It would be really unfair if I got blacklisted for reasons I don't even know. It would be even worse if I got accused of being abusive when I wasn't.

I have a feeling that we're not getting the full story. Your original post Chessman made it sound like you didn't do anything and she just up and left. Now you're reflecting on having made "too many little requests....that annoyed her".

Whatever the story is, she did the right thing. If she's not feeling it, she's doing you a favour if she cut it off. Even more classy that she returned the cash. Who knows, maybe it was nothing and she wasn't feeling it that day.

Personally, whatever the reasons, if an SP wants to break it off and leave, I'd let her. Who'd want her to stay when her heart's not into it?

 

[BaconNeggs]

I would ask her if she was okay or needed me to help her.
Maybe she suddenly got very sick, that has happened to me.
My first priority would be to ensure she is okay.

 

[BaconNeggs]

I doubt little requests would make an SP leave.
Now asking something outrageous like can i shove this cucumber up your ass is not a little request.