Although sex workers disagree as to the effectiveness of review boards... the most disconcerting part of the story remains the inability of sex workers to freely choose whether or not to be reviewed.
You and far too many other women in this line of work just don't recognize or consider that reviews comprise
so very much of what drives the male (BIG head) as he makes decisions and establishes priorities toward his next encounter with a working girl.
It isn't about the deeply-personal (data) bits, and whether or not he tickled any of them with his tongue... it's about
your individual details circulating
out there (while letting YOU continue to steer the rudder of
your own anonymity in this business)...
so that X percent of the next Y men will reliably take interest in
your individuality in the way of wanting to purchase Z hours of your time and company.
You need only go to a bar to figure out that any woman... under a certain age... with any of various hair colors... and with discernible breasts
will get her share of male interest and attention. But she's THERE... at the bar... and the random SP is at home, behind the internet anonymity...
SO anytime anyone is circulating
particulars about what makes HER unique into the waters of the rest of the
anonymous internet, it enhances the probability that the phone will ring sooner, vs. later.
If you want to exercise that (very reasonable) choice to not be reviewed, you are only taking steps to return your
self to that long-ago scenario where the only alternative to standing out there at curbside late at night was
a dark silhouette against a yellow backdrop in the phone book.
Sex workers who "disagree as to the effectiveness of review boards" simply DO NOT
get it...
I really
can appreciate one's wish not to have the bare details of her random
pay-for-play dates scrolled all over the internet, but to not be represented AT ALL on a review board is only reducing your presence in the
awareness of the clientele by whom you pretend to want to be
noticed.
And I know in advance that you're likely to point out that you could sit in a trench coat in the lobby of any of Vancouver's finest hotels and garner
some social approaches... but
everyone knows that.
It is only
common sense that you keep your
image as prominent at your local review board as you can... and whether the means for that is through various
reviews you permit, or your own personal thread on which you list your favorite recipes for Dim Sum (over and over and OVER again)
is NOT as important as you might think.
If you start a thread on which you talk only about Hockey... eventually some guy will book time with you based on your favorite team, or a team you wrote of
hating... and that is OK.
Those
extra-detailed reviews aren't that important... nobody is comparing your, uh, physical depth to that of the next girl... but the
review authenticates you in plenty of ways, and it might be the random mention of your having
(the most awesome elbows) which causes some dude to start seeing you next week and maintaining a looooooooooong-term business relationship with you.
So it would be nice if one could at least sense in the women here an
awareness of the importance of
detail in whatever
image is created of you at boards such as this.
If more of the ladies here would focus mainly on just being
themselves and less on
wondering if they, as 6' 2" natural blonds, need to focus more on somehow passing themselves off as petite Asians in order to garner more attention from would-be clients, then the whole board would be discernibly better in the eyes of even the women presently inclined to
"disagree" about the effectiveness of online review boards.
bottom line:
Just be yourself (but if you hide her completely beneath a burlap sack, the phone won't ring as often as it would if you
at least hinted to everybody just WHO she is )
