Sexual performance problems.

[johnsmit]

I have talk a number for times on the board about my inability to cum while having sex and generally not Cummings during a session with most girls.

All though it was better a few years ago when I found that mental zone now it back to a rare event.

I still can cum while masterbating. But I have to admit I don't have that much sensation and that been that way for a few yrs..
I think a lot of it comes from my back and neck problemso, I have determination in my neck and lower back which seem to interfere with the nerves .causing numbness in all parts of my body and some muscle weakness.

I am wondering if any one else has experienced this, but have found an acupuncture or therapist that has helped restore the nerve functionality.

 

[Stamkos]

Sorry to hear about your issues John. I hope you've sought medical advice from a doctor and aren't relying on a review board for medical advice?

 

[paprides]

good answer Stamkos.
The other thought that came to my mind was: stop masturbating as often. See a doctor. Talk to an acupuncturist. While age (i'm assuming age?) related issues may not be stopped altogether, you may achieve some sort of resolution. Either increased sensitivity or the ability to ejaculate on a more regular basis.

 

[Caramel]

Maybe he just wants to hear from other people who have had the same issues....

 

[johnsmit]

Yes I would like to get info. From others that have had similar issues and how they resolved it.

As for talking to the doctor. In most cases they don't seem to be interested .by situation is not life threatening and I managed to live with it ..Just think I could get more pleasure out of sex if I looked into and asked if others have found something that helps.

Yes it easily could be age and deffinetly masterbating for 46 yrs would cause ejaculating issue with sex partners.. But when you don't have regular sex partners that's what you do.

I have to agree that more exercise might help and that is one thing I have not managed to get back into in the last 12 yrs ..Basically stoped when I started seeing escorts..

I don't have any other medical issues , only a few pounds over what I would like and blood pressure is low normal like it has allways been.
Physically I have lost strength and muscle mass but I still can do F $#@ing for 30 min or more with out aproblem . Just basicly pleasing the girl ..and the odd time I can find that mental place to get off too.

 

[tiger69]

I have the same issue, it was always quite a big "maybe" to reach orgasm with any sp, even with my gf, until I found Surrey's Jewel lol- she finishes me every single time. But I have found one thing that makes it easier too- prior to a visit with an SP, or the GF, I'd hold off jacking it for 2 to 3 weeks. This seems to really do the trick for me and prime me for the eventual release.

 

[johnsmit]

Two or three weeks! Wow...
The last time I managed to cum with the SP I am a regular with , I did hold off masterbating for 6 day , deffinetly made a difference..Of course I still had to do the hand job.

Personally I have not found an SP that interested in figuring out how to get me off.Other then the one that seemed to of all most cure Mr of the problem 8 yrs ago. Back then I started to cum all most all the time and with different girls. It lasted for a few years and then stated become more difficult again.
Part of it maybe that I don't have the same interest and excitement from seeing girls and other mental issues creep in.

Of course I still seem to be trouble by fybromialg, but notthat severe and not debilitating as it once was in my life.
If just there some times to tell me I feel crappy

 

[clu]

If it preoccupies your thoughts it's a problem that feeds itself, like trying to will yourself to fall asleep. You might find it easier if you come to terms with not having to.

 

[johnsmit]

Generally I have come to terms with not Cummings while with someone. But if there is something I could try it will l9ok into it .

 

[Warl0ck]

Given thought to it having an element of mental along with physical? Do you have issues with ejaculation around civilian women too or just SP's? For the physical side, perhaps consider yoga? I know it's a little tough as a male to go to yoga, but as a way to rebuild a body it's great. And the scenery in a yoga club = very nice. As for cardio & fitness you can never go wrong. A good sweaty cardio workout does wonders for the body for a man at any age. It doesn't need to be long, just vigorous.

As a side note, have you considered growing your foreskin back? (assuming you are cut). Apparently males with foreskin have much more sensation during sex than males without. There are actually tools to do this now too.

 

[MissingOne]

When meeting a new erotic massage provider for the first time, I usually tell her that I might or might not have an orgasm, but if I don't have one, it doesn't mean that she has failed to meet my expectations. With that understood, the pressure is off both of us and I can just relax and enjoy the massage.

 

[johnsmit]

It is standard for me to tell an SP that I probably won't come just so they know it won't be a short session and there won't be a quick blow job and I am done.

But generally I repeat with am regular girls who know that is my issue . So it really is not an issue that stops me from Cumming.

I am quite happy with out a for skin, even though I know a dick is more sensitive with one.

Never had sex with a none SP.
Even though I did have sex with ex escorts in a friend type of way. But then that's another issue lol.

I do some cardio , I walk a lot and I am a fast walker .easily 5 to 6 km.an hour. And I still can take stairs at two at a time when I want

 

[summerbreeze]

might have low testosterone level, you can go with natural supplements which raise your testosterone levels safely

 

[johnsmit]

Yes I am sure I have low testoteron at 62, probably allways did .
Never had the biggest sex drive.and I never put on much muscle even from working as a carpenter or any other laboring.
But never be sure of what supliments to take.
Again the doctor never helped much in this area.

 

[summerbreeze]

lots of materials on the web about this

if you chip away at it from a diet, sleep, exercise perspective you will find renewed vigor as well as the sex drive increase

something which effects us slowly over time until get find one day we have no drive, no energy, and no libido. you will be pleasantly surprised with the results of focusing on your testosterone and what benefits will be generated

maca powder (natural product) also acts like an aphrodisiac

 

[1nitestan]

lots of materials on the web about this

if you chip away at it from a diet, sleep, exercise perspective you will find renewed vigor as well as the sex drive increase

something which effects us slowly over time until get find one day we have no drive, no energy, and no libido. you will be pleasantly surprised with the results of focusing on your testosterone and what benefits will be generated

maca powder (natural product) also acts like an aphrodisiac

1. clean up your diet
2. get fit. you don't have to be at the gym 6 days a week but shed some pounds and build some strength.
3. reduce masturbation...you can gradually reduce frequency but you have to gain back some sensation from not relying on your hands for awhile

 

[johnsmit]

Thank for the suggestion ,most of them you have told me before and I agree they probably would help.
As for the lose of sensation only one of you have seem to delta with a problem as I described and that was a women.

I personally think the majority of my lack of sensation comes from pinched nerves in my back .
So I'll have go a round asking which acupuncture and massage therapist treat that type of sexual problems in Victoria.

 

[Warl0ck]

@johnsmit

One way of increasing testosterone is weight lifting especially with your legs. Lots of stuff all over the internet on it. And you've never had sex with a civilian woman? Man, you don't know what you're missing. I'd take sex with a regular girl over an SP any day.

 

[johnsmit]

A little inside note.
SPS are regular girls but generally play a little safer then the so called none SP regular girls.

Where as I don't drink do drugs or even enjoy partying it kind if limits my field.

I did try in my younger days. But not a pushy confident ass holes which it seem so many girls like .

I am more the introvert , introspective. Non nerd that respects women to much and get walked on in some respect.

Best I could do was make a few friends and maybe missed am obertunity two or three times in 30yr

 

[summerbreeze]

Thank for the suggestion ,most of them you have told me before and I agree they probably would help.
As for the lose of sensation only one of you have seem to delta with a problem as I described and that was a women.

I personally think the majority of my lack of sensation comes from pinched nerves in my back .
So I'll have go a round asking which acupuncture and massage therapist treat that type of sexual problems in Victoria.

another area of concern is that the hard narrow racing bike seats found on road bikes (for those who cycle) can cause physical nerve damage similar to what you are talking about with your back

reduced blood flow as well, almost all of the body weight is placed on the perineum while cycling and extended use can cause quite a lot of damage

something most people would never think about until they start probing into problems and uncover this