is there much of a point if i just need intimacy and touch?

[raraslokep]

so im having a rough time and sex is the last thing on my mind, what i need is tight cuddles, to cook food with someone, watch some tv, light kissing. id like to be made to feel cared for. preferably spending the night.

i could of course pay someone i know for this but i appreciate the discreet and, honestly, that would be awkward as hell.

but im just wondering if there is a point looking through massage and escort reviews as i have been doing for a few hours? it all seems very expensive, which makes sense for sexual services but not for this. there are official cuddlers offering this service that i have found but they seem to be out of business, only propping up for a month. i guess business is slow for them.

*edit, i did like the price for those cuddle services when they were around! an hour was about $40 and overnights with dinner + movie were about $400, even according to the "canadian association of professional cuddlers". that sounds about right, still a little high for a free meal but there you go.

-rara

 

[adamvic72]

You might not like this answer but I felt a need to respond. I know 2 SP's who would gladly accept your offer. PM me and I'll send you the deets.

Meanwhile, you should really consider the alternative option: Finding someone to spend time with who doesn't need to get paid for it.

These people do still exist you know. It just takes effort. Chances are, if you put yourself out there and try some of the dating sites, and be very clear about what you are looking for - youd be surprised with some of the responses you get.
Just remember there are women in the Exact same boat as you..they dont care for the sex but they need some compassion and warmth. Rather than paying someone, invest some time and search for a potential match. Instead of a DTF ad, make it DTC (down to cuddle) - add some humour to the situation and mention that you're one of the few rare breeds of men that arent just seeking out the V.
Good Luck rara

 

[raraslokep]

thanks adam.

i have done so, but there is too much drama and stress to go along with it.

i recently broke up with someone and the timing was just terrible. i'm in no place to start any new relationships, i have to focus on work and such things. you know how it is. my needs are just not sexual, they never have been, im quite the cuddle monster and prefer to just snuggle tight with someone.

- rara

 

[ddcanz]

Unfortunately what you are looking for is still a service- whether there is sex involved or not. Most genuine and well reviewed SPs sell their time- what occurs then is up to the consenting adults. A pro cuddler for 400/nt isn't bad in that case.
The alternative as noted by adamvic72 will involve an investment in time as well as intellect to find a compatible "mate". Further than that is getting back into a relationship of some sort- which you clearly are not into at this time.
Good luck- we are all looking for something that meets our particular needs.

 

[raraslokep]

great perspective ddcans, thanks.

im definitely a fan of the service aspect, it means once the time is over there's nothing lingering, no obligations etc.

i'm hearing that there are sometimes significant discounts from SP's for sex-free encounters and also for sleepovers. i dont think they will approach the low costs of a professional cuddler but, nonetheless, it may satisfy my need for affection.

and yes your assumption about relationships is true. while i might be able to find a woman seeking a similar arrangement, for free, my chances are slim that they would be as aesthetically pleasing and soft to the touch as i need.

 

[Elmore]

Unfortunately what you are looking for is still a service- whether there is sex involved or not. Most genuine and well reviewed SPs sell their time- what occurs then is up to the consenting adults. A pro cuddler for 400/nt isn't bad in that case.
The alternative as noted by adamvic72 will involve an investment in time as well as intellect to find a compatible "mate". Further than that is getting back into a relationship of some sort- which you clearly are not into at this time.
Good luck- we are all looking for something that meets our particular needs.

This is true but many well reviewed escorts have a social rate. If it was only about their time and not the actual services performed in that time then greek or other services wouldn't be an extra cost.

The OP won't find what he's looking for at his price point. But it makes you wonder...400 for an overnight clothed I assume cuddle session doesn't sound like a bad gig as long as I am the big spoon!

 

[ddcanz]

This is true but many well reviewed escorts have a social rate. If it was only about their time and not the actual services performed in that time then greek or other services wouldn't be an extra cost.

The OP won't find what he's looking for at his price point. But it makes you wonder...400 for an overnight clothed I assume cuddle session doesn't sound like a bad gig as long as I am the big spoon!

Pretty sure the social rate would be at a bare minimum 800-1000/nt for non-sexual time- and only available at the discretion of the lady depending upon her own calendar and more lucrative bookings.
And costs for greek, facials or other extras are different- more of an add-on- when the SP "sells" her time for say 250/hr. My point was more to her regular FS or GFE rates.
However- time spent would more than likely be of higher quality.

 

[raraslokep]

clothed? loosely clothed, haha, underwear would be alright.

i'm curious to see what initial quote i get for my request, time will tell if it is something i can afford semi-regularly.

 

[fallon.kane]

Did you try those sites to find sugar babys? I think in the lounge area of this forum there is a big thread about it, maybe you can find a young lady that just wants some extra cash with no strings attached and might be interested in the no sex part, and you can even make this a regular thing without the drama... I've never tried, but was the first thing that came up to my mind reading this post. Good luck!

 

[johnA27]

At one point all I wanted was non-FS appointments, maybe someone whos a trained stripper to give a good dance show, lap dance, some grinding, some basic touching. I always admired the SPs who know how to please a guy without having to put things inside other things. I am surprised at how many SPs wont take things slowly and talk a bit first even when requested to, and will just pounce, make out, off to the bedroom you go, etc. And when the act is done, and there is still time left, wont offer to do non-sex acts that are still intimate. Thats why I made the netflix and chill thread.

And thats why I sometimes enjoy strip clubs more, there is intimacy, it is still sexual in nature, but the guy's clothes HAS to stay on therefore the ladies have to find other ways to keep the guy entertained for the however many songs he paid for.

But who knows, it is also sometimes ruined by pooners who think the girl is stalling if she is taking her time to kiss and caress, and expect to be humping her for the entire time that hes paid for, so the ladies get a bit worked up about not stalling.

 

[summerbreeze]

so im having a rough time and sex is the last thing on my mind, what i need is tight cuddles, to cook food with someone, watch some tv, light kissing. id like to be made to feel cared for. preferably spending the night.

i could of course pay someone i know for this but i appreciate the discreet and, honestly, that would be awkward as hell.

but im just wondering if there is a point looking through massage and escort reviews as i have been doing for a few hours? it all seems very expensive, which makes sense for sexual services but not for this. there are official cuddlers offering this service that i have found but they seem to be out of business, only propping up for a month. i guess business is slow for them.

*edit, i did like the price for those cuddle services when they were around! an hour was about $40 and overnights with dinner + movie were about $400, even according to the "canadian association of professional cuddlers". that sounds about right, still a little high for a free meal but there you go.

-rara

happens all the time and most providers have experience with it

a mamasan I knew well used to tell me about the customers who just like to lie down with a young girl and touch and hold her

quite common apparently

 

[raraslokep]

fallon.kane i am currently in the process, actually. it seems promising.

 

[summerbreeze]

just an observation, if you go to an indie which is managed by a mamasan, its likely the mamasan won't want to turn down the business and a girl who might be a bit shy about this service will be encouraged to follow through (some girls will be worried about the weirdo possibility)

the mamasan will be looking out for the provider, so some additional comfort there

I know some of the mamasans will drive a girl to an out call and wait in the car, bit of a security safeguard

of course it depends on the location/provider and how hungry they are for business

apparently this is also how they service the shut in customers as well as some of the disabled (wheelchair) customers

 

[raraslokep]

i'm intrigued, but i'm not sure how to find such a service.

 

[summerbreeze]

they will probably the normal rate the first time, sorry don't know the victoria landscape

will have to do what most of do, research, call, try.....

 

[DatyDiner]

http://www.cuddleup.com

 

[raraslokep]

so after much searching (including cuddleup, thank you Daty), i have settled on having a sugar baby.

for non-sexual, but intimate services the rates are all very reasonable.

currently in the process of meeting them, and being very explicit about it is helping a lot. i think non-sexual sugar daddies are a hot commodity, been getting much attention. i currently am choosing between 3 girls who accept all of my conditions.

- rara

 

[pussy lover]

Keep us apprised. Thank you and good luck

 

[summerbreeze]

glad you found something that might work, best of luck

 

[raraslokep]

so far so good! still in the dating phase, and have already learned alot about the sugar daddy scene.

i've got enough dates lined up that i'm planning on choosing a sugar baby on sunday.

it's all surprisingly realistic and casual. the girls are accurate to their photos, the experiences are fun, and they all have appreciated being simple and direct with your needs/offer.