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MissingOne

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Some times I think it's easier to see the fallacies in these discussions in an analogy. For those who think dating an SP would be hitting the jackpot in the sex department, consider this: you have a great meal at a restaurant. You meet the chef to compliment her and you kinda hit it off. She invites you for a great home cooked meal. You think "this is awesome" and start looking forward to all those meals, bragging to friends about it, etc. Thing is even if she enjoys cooking, she's got no shortage of people who admire her work. The question is "what are you bringing to the relationship for her that she can't get from a mere fan?" Which of course leads to OP's intended point: treat her like a person (not a prize), and support her in her needs and insecurities and ambitions and willfulness, etc. like we all wish partners would.
I had been ignoring this thread, because the same general theme has been explored in this Lounge too many times. I'm glad that I read it this morning, just because I got to read clu's post. This post does a brilliant job of putting the topic in context and making the essential point.
 

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For those who think dating an SP would be hitting the jackpot in the sex department,..
Not for one second would I expect sex with an SP to better than with a non SP.
I didn't think we were comparing SP visits with girlfriends. I thought we were talking about girlfriends that were SPs.
And I didn't think dating SPs would be considered hitting the jackpot in the sex department. I guess we we're both confused as to what the thread was about.
 

clu

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And I didn't think dating SPs would be considered hitting the jackpot in the sex department. I guess we we're both confused as to what the thread was about.
Perhaps. That's why I said "for those who think..." though. I was not meaning to imply everyone would.
 
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And I didn't think dating SPs would be considered hitting the jackpot in the sex department. I guess we we're both confused as to what the thread was about.
Well the point is how is dating someone who does sex work for a living any different than someone that drives a city bus? Their job doesn't define who they are or what they are. I guess it's always baffled me how the consensus in these types of threads are that SP's are all cut from the same cloth.

Further, the assumption is by dating a sex worker you may win the sex lottery. Perhaps. But I think, in general (not always), women are far more complex than males. That's why they were the consumers of 50 Shades of Grey. Chris Rock said it best "your woman is a freak and will do anything you want her too". You just have to know how to get it out of her.

Clu said it best "what do you bring to the table for the woman". Women choose their men. So perhaps it should be "would a SP date YOU".
 

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Well the point is how is dating someone who does sex work for a living any different than someone that drives a city bus? Their job doesn't define who they are or what they are.
If you date a city bus driver, can you impress her with your driving?

Right or wrong, many relationships are lasting because of the illusion their sexual chemistry is exceptional.
 

UhOh

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If you brought your city bus driving wife to the christmas party you could introduce her as the route 97 metro driver. Would you admit to coworkers that your prostitute girlfriend sucks dick for a living?
City bus driving girlfriend doesn't need to make frequent trips to the clinic for communicable disease checkups that get passed on to you if she decides to blow off checkups.
Lets not pretend its the same as dating a bus driver.
 

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If you brought your city bus driving wife to the christmas party you could introduce her as the route 97 metro driver. Would you admit to coworkers that your prostitute girlfriend sucks dick for a living?
City bus driving girlfriend doesn't need to make frequent trips to the clinic for communicable disease checkups that get passed on to you if she decides to blow off checkups.
Lets not pretend its the same as dating a bus driver.
If your girlfriend blows off her checkups she is an asshole... but if you date a kindergarten teacher you will also have to accept there is some elevated exposure to colds and head lice.
The part about not talking about what we do in most circles is true. It covers a topic that society generally doesn't approve of people chatting about casually... on the other hand, whether or not someones profession makes for great conversation has never really been a deal breaker for me.

"What do you do?"
"I'm a programmer, I fix problems with such and such software for company name"
"What do you do for fun?"
 

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Be sure she not just washes but douches her pussy. Nothing worse than the warm smell of latex wafting up to your nose as you're pounding away. Well, at least it's the sign she's not barebacking her customers though lol.

But yeah, I pity her customers. Imagine them licking her pussy after you blew a load in her. Ugh.
 

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Be sure she not just washes but douches her pussy. Nothing worse than the warm smell of latex wafting up to your nose as you're pounding away. Well, at least it's the sign she's not barebacking her customers though lol.

But yeah, I pity her customers. Imagine them licking her pussy after you blew a load in her. Ugh.
It can't be easy to have such a strong sense of empathy that you are able to pick up on the discomfort of total strangers.
 

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How we meet people or what their job is has very little to do with who you are atracked to or like to know as a person.

Personal I met a number of girls in this business. As a client and as a driver , and never hesitated to make friends with them if we clicked.

It was never about think that I am going to get free sex..never did. It was about being attracted to them and wanting to spend time either dating or as a friend . And that what I did with 5 or 6 girls through the yrs.

I know what they do and I know how they feel about their job. If they don't want to be in the business I did my best to help out , but if that's what they want to keep doing I respect that it their choise . It never bother me that they saw a bunch of guy, and if they need a ride to a call I willing did it.
And I never minded listen at the end of the day or when ever to what theis day was like ..it was informative but nothing for me to get off on.

We met people we want to date in every walk of life ...at the grocery store, the waitress at the pub, the nabour or on line .what ever we ate active in. That just the way it is.

Yes if we met an escort some of the apprehension is gone be cause we seen each other naked, has sex and find that being open about ourselves is easier then with others people.. Sure just dating and friendship is hard because there allways is the sex aspect which is what we want . But it still comessed down to respecting then as a women and person .And not about them being a sex worker.
 

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If you brought your city bus driving wife to the christmas party you could introduce her as the route 97 metro driver. Would you admit to coworkers that your prostitute girlfriend sucks dick for a living?
City bus driving girlfriend doesn't need to make frequent trips to the clinic for communicable disease checkups that get passed on to you if she decides to blow off checkups.
Lets not pretend its the same as dating a bus driver.
Well, if you answer is not yes then you are not ready to date one. I am. I come in the relationship knowing that whatever she got from clients I will also get. this is part of the deal and where the love part start. Also if you are not proud of the work then you also not ready to accept and date one. it is similar to dating a bus driver or any other job really. Maybe not to you that is acceptable but to me it is.
 
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Warl0ck

When you date an SP she comes home to you at the end of the day. All that she offers (and more) to men, you get for free. Because she wants to be with you.

Some men wouldn't date an SP. Other men, they'd never date a civilian woman.
 

yasmine

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If you treat her like a working girl, expect to be treated like a John. What comes around goes around
 

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When you date an SP she comes home to you at the end of the day. All that she offers (and more) to men, you get for free. Because she wants to be with you.

Some men wouldn't date an SP. Other men, they'd never date a civilian woman.
I think they are generally viewed as damaged goods. Kind of like buying a car that you know everybody drove the shit out of it.
 

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That old double standard: guy who fucks every girl in town is a god. Girl who fucks every guy in town is a slut.

Oh yeah, the other double standard: girl who fucks everyone is a slut. Girl who fucks everyone but you is a bitch.
 
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