Relatively new to this. My thoughts so far.

[Mephitik]

This year has been my first year just getting my feet wet, trying to find the occasional SP. I had long been curious about trying it but never got around to actually booking the dates. I can say now that my experience thus-far has been somewhat disheartening. My personal preference is to do as much reading/research as possible on a given provider before reaching out, usually well in advance of the date I am looking for. For the most part I have been finding I tend not to get replies at all, maybe 1/5 times. Initially I thought this was because my first contact was too terse. In my opinion I have included lots of information to try to initiate a conversation. Despite trying to improve this over time I have not had better luck. I have only been reaching out to independent providers thus far, I always appreciate the detailed websites with lots of information to scan over prior to making a decision to try and book something together.

Within the last 2 months I have tried to book for 2 dates and ended up just calling both times off due to lack of replies/interest, and just the overall feeling that this is way too complicated for what I was looking for. It becomes somewhat of a mood killer after trying for days.

For those of you who have been around this scene for a while, would I have better luck just going through an agency? I have always liked the thought of 2 individuals making the monetary deal, and having a dialogue beforehand, instead of involving a company or agency with just a cold call. But I am starting to think maybe the communication/booking (arguably the hardest hurdle to get over) might just be easier through an agency.

Anyways. Just my thoughts this evening. Thank you for your time everyone. I do appreciate the loads of information available on this board.

 

[addicted2lov]

Maintain a long enough list of girls that you want to see -a to do list so to speak - based on your personal preference, budget, proximity, etc.
It's easier to txt first -most appointments can be done that way unless the girls specifically mentions no txt. In your initial txt make sure to be polite and introduce yourself - like hi xxx, I'm xyz, I'm clean, polite (Always be polite, never be vulgar!), etc, age range, ethnic background.

The introduction should not be longer than one message. If she is ok with the description she will get back to you.

Send the same introduction to your to do list just make sure you put the corresponding name each time so it's easier to know who are you texting with when you get multiple replies. It's better to make sure that the ladies you contact have advertised recently - like today - or the day before as most girls only advertise when they work. Not all of them make prebookings. Booking more than 24hrs in advance is usually pointless unless you are a regular. Unless you are txting at odd hours (late at night or before 10 AM) you will get enough replies.

Once they reply ask about the offering and what is not allowed. And the rates. Do not ever haggle the price. If the rate is over your budget move on to the next one.

If you have special requests (fetishes, etc) it's better to mention right away - that will save you some txts if she is not wiling to entertain that request.

Avoid Friday and Saturday evenings as the girls seem to be the busiest at these times. Monday seem to be pretty dead so you may be able to find the girls more reachable. Some girls don't work after 7pm especially if they don't have security as the after7 crowd is totally different than the day crowd.

If you book and change your mind afterwards always let the girl know even if it's at the last moment.

 

[Larry Storch]

Use a 7-11 burner phone.

 

[Caramel]

Once they reply ask about the offering and what is not allowed. And the rates. Do not ever haggle the price. If the rate is over your budget move on to the next one.

If you have special requests (fetishes, etc) it's better to mention right away - that will save you some txts if she is not wiling to entertain that request.

Avoid Friday and Saturday evenings as the girls seem to be the busiest at these times. Monday seem to be pretty dead so you may be able to find the girls more reachable. Some girls don't work after 7pm especially if they don't have security as the after7 crowd is totally different than the day crowd.

If you book and change your mind afterwards always let the girl know even if it's at the last moment.

Make sure to read her ad before first and see if rates and restrictions are listed, some girls don't like to discuss that on the phone through texting. And don't ask too many questions or you could get ignored.

 

[Mephitik]

I tend not to make a list and blast out a ton of messages at once. Usually read and go through ads and just reach out to one at a time. But again maybe that's my issue. I also had a bad experience with texting recently which had me thinking maybe that's not the best way to communicate initially.

Waiting till the day of to try and organize something feels hard to. Might be just me but I prefer having something on the books in advance. Maybe certain SPs don't like that.

 

[Riza]

I tend not to make a list and blast out a ton of messages at once. Usually read and go through ads and just reach out to one at a time. But again maybe that's my issue. I also had a bad experience with texting recently which had me thinking maybe that's not the best way to communicate initially.

Waiting till the day of to try and organize something feels hard to. Might be just me but I prefer having something on the books in advance. Maybe certain SPs don't like that.

I myself prefer texting. I usually respond promptly if I am available and working. If I can't respond in a short period of time I don't, just in case he happens to not have a separate phone for the hobby. Email I find to slow especially the day of the appointment. I also find that appointments setup in advance a few days or more ahead of time have about a 75% chance to cancel or be a no show even when I send reminders the morning of. Also short and sweet is always preferred. By all means ask questions you have but not a constant back and forth. I had one email thread that was over 45 back and forth for a session and then ended up not showing.

So for me, book for today or tomorrow, ask what you need to know and book your time. If you start your questions with "are there any specials" don't be surprised if you never get a response or one like my favorite which is "Yes I have a special, for today only, pay double the donation and get the next session of equal length for free" And as you have probably heard from other posts the "I'm a young hot rich white guy" won't get you any points. Oh and ffs no cock pics.

Also make sure you aren't looking at an archived ad for a provider, make sure she has a current ad up on LL or BP and has been recently bumped. My friend Becky has for now retired but still get calls and texts for her from people finding her ads on sites we have never advertised on, she hasn't had a active ad bumped for a while now but like anything, once its on the internet, its there forever.

And by all means, give me a call on the phone... I don't bite hehe

 

[tiger69]

@Riza: "If I can't respond in a short period of time I don't, just in case he happens to not have a separate phone for the hobby." ah now I know (hopefully) why you didn't get back to me lol. Thought you're mad at me for some reason...

 

[wetnose]

This year has been my first year just getting my feet wet, trying to find the occasional SP. I had long been curious about trying it but never got around to actually booking the dates. I can say now that my experience thus-far has been somewhat disheartening. My personal preference is to do as much reading/research as possible on a given provider before reaching out, usually well in advance of the date I am looking for. For the most part I have been finding I tend not to get replies at all, maybe 1/5 times. Initially I thought this was because my first contact was too terse. In my opinion I have included lots of information to try to initiate a conversation. Despite trying to improve this over time I have not had better luck.

??? Why do you need to have a conversation? For these girls, time is money.

Just book the appointment on the day itself, turn up on time then have fun. Shave, wash and bring the correct amount. That's all you need to do.

 

[Lady Companion]

I only set up liaisons over the phone, as I find a verbal conversation the best way to ensure we are a good match, all your questions are answered, and any details noted to ensure you have the most memorable experience.

I will always reply to an email, but will still request a conversation to make the arrangements.

With that said, most of the ladies who have entered the industry in the last 5 years don't really want to communicate beforehand. They just want to book a time. Ideally through texting for them.

It's just a different way of doing things. I think of those of us who prefer to communicate beforehand as providing more of an experience, and those who just want to book the appointments without knowing much about you as providing more of a service.

If I'm going to spend several hours with a new friend, I want to make sure I can provide him with the experience he craves and deserves. The only way I can personally be mentally prepared for that is to know a little bit about him and to get my head in the right place before he comes. I enjoy deeper and more meaningful connections, so for me, the communication before is necessary.

If I just enjoyed sex, and din't care about the details, then yes, communicating before would seem like a waste of time. For me, it is part of the foreplay.

So perhaps you are just emailing the wrong ladies. There are some who really don't like to book in advance. Some who don't really care about anything other than the exchange. Some who don't actually check their email with any kind of frequency etc.

The only other two possible issues I can see are that you are either getting too graphic in your emails, or that they are replying, but it is going into your spam folder because escort names can look like spam.

I hope you find what you are looking for! And no, you don't need to settle for less. You just need to find somebody who wants to provide the type of experience that you are looking to have

 

[Dick Ford]

I love everything about this quote. This is exactly the kind of SP we should all seek out and reward with our return business. The attention to detail and communication before a date goes such a long way to ensure a memorable time is had by all. Kudos!

If I'm going to spend several hours with a new friend, I want to make sure I can provide him with the experience he craves and deserves. The only way I can personally be mentally prepared for that is to know a little bit about him and to get my head in the right place before he comes. I enjoy deeper and more meaningful connections, so for me, the communication before is necessary.

If I just enjoyed sex, and din't care about the details, then yes, communicating before would seem like a waste of time. For me, it is part of the foreplay.

 

[LisbethNova]

For me, the way someone writes to me tells me everything. Writing a proper email with concise detail about yourself and in a polite and respectful manner goes a long way. Maybe not every SP agrees, but this is how I judge who I am going to make an appointment with and who I am not. I do not accept emails and messages where someone writes me like a pizza delivery service "ARE YOU AVAIL?? I WANT 1 HOUR BBBJ DFK CIM TONIGHT" ummm... sorry who are you??? Such messages are just unacceptable and give me a terrible impression.

 

[jamasianman]

I have my own system for meeting providers. I have to plan it out a lot, in fact people make it seem like it really easy to just book and go, but its not.

My system: I book ahead a day or two, by text. Never on the same day, I have never been able to book on the same day, except one time but I woke up early and called her at 9am, but she said in her ad she's an early riser.

I like to call a lady, it makes things easier and I wanna hear her voice. Most will never be able to answer the phone, its just the nature of the business. Then I leave a text and wait. If no reply I move on, sometimes things go south and I have to aim for another day or week.

And just because you text a lady is not a guarantee for a visit. Your text might be buried by others or she forgets to respond or has an emergency, just contacting a lady doesn't mean you automatically get to see her when you want.

 

[sevenofnine]

I think every lady is different there is no hard and fast rule.
some like to talk some don't

in a way its all meaningless and pointless. communication is 90 percent non verbal. and guess what people lie. and like a thread not long a go, we construct images of our self to show the world. and I think mostly lie to our self..

get your feet wet, meet the girl its the only way, be brief in the intro, unless the girl is curious that is the impression you get then talk,
and for sure if anything is a deal breaker get it out in the open before you put your money down.

I honestly think I could have fun with any girl out there,
but do they want to have fun with me, that is the kicker,

don't take it personally,
as a newbi I sort of cried in my beer when it fell through.

the more experience I got, when I deal fell through with a lady, I would feel the bulge in my wallet. hey my money is still there,
I would e mail the lady and thank her, seriously I did,

for most of us, the first thing that will happen is you will run out of money before girls to spend it on.

 

[athaire]

Dude you are way over thinking this. The provider will let you know either text or call. Just go with it day of appointment. Trust in your choices. You will make some mistakes but if you pay attention and keep your head.....you will have more good times than bad.
Also.....listen to your long time perb brothers. They won't steer you wrong