Sex Work is the Most Honest Relationship You'll Ever Have...

[tiger69]

" And I can't afford to be paying an SP every night... or even once a week
... and having enjoying sex bare back would be a really nice luxury..."

Well said, those are two of the reasons off the top of my list as well for preferring a real relationship- not marriage, I'm not that romantic...lol
I think there is just no comparison between the two kinds of relationship really. A SP will get me laid, tell me how much she likes it, how much she likes me, but I can never really trust any of it- the fact that she likes the $200, 300? 400?, that's the truth, the rest, are just maybes and don't amount to waking up in each others arms, snuggling in bed for a hour, and she asking me, "What ya want for breakfast?' Or how she nurses me back to full strength after injuries or sickness, or how she sits patiently listening to me blow off steams after a particular lousy day at work. Yes, a SP will do these things too, if you pay them. And unless you end up with a lousy gf, or wife, I am willing to bet that spending a week with a good woman is a lot cheaper than a week with a good SP.

 

[UhOh]

Sex work being the most honest relationship you'll ever have". I wouldn't expect to hear something so far fetched even from a used car salesman.

 

[Fnejit]

Sex work is entirely a lie and a fantasy. First they market their product which are mostly lies. If it is not the pictures, descriptions of services, age or weight, it is something else. Asian ads for example add 10 or more years. Most girls are 27 to 28 but some are late 30s and 40s. The good genes and services make johns believe the lies. My preference is older ladies so this is not a bother. It's been months since I was with one less than 30.

Everyone lies in this game. The John lie about spouses or to them. The women lie: "you're my first today. I'm running behind baby" (translates to the last pig came in my hair).

The OP looks through rose colored glasses

 

[MissingOne]

The OP looks through rose colored glasses

The OP was at one time an advertiser here. I never met her, but as I recall she was known to be straight-forward provider of good service. Rather than rose-coloured glasses, she may just be seeing things in the light of her own experience and conduct.

 

[Fnejit]

The OP was at one time an advertiser here. I never met her, but as I recall she was known to be straight-forward provider of good service. Rather than rose-coloured glasses, she may just be seeing things in the light of her own experience and conduct.

You're right and the OP is right but that goes to my point everyone lies. It's a natural behavior: even babies lie without being taught!

My comments disagree with the op that the sp relationship is an honest one.

Fuck i hate dating sites. My suggestion: If you have a wife keep her and keep her happy. The grass is never truly greener. It's just slightly different grass. If you're not married you're screwed like me.

 

[billiards11]

It is by far not the most honest relationship you'll ever have.

Sp's will lie about many things such as their age, weight, height, and the services they provide. They want the customer to hear what he wants to hear such as, "baby your the first one I've allowed to do that to me" or "baby this is my first time doing this ever".

Clients will lie about their name, family situation such as wife and kids, where they live, and what they do for a living.

At the end of the day sex work is a lie and fantasy, a fantasy many of us can't get enough of

 

[nickcan]

If you're not married you're screwed like me.

Better to be single than married and unhappy.
Marriage is overrated doesn't mean anything these days, only significant to religious people.

 

[UhOh]

Sex work is entirely a lie and a fantasy. First they market their product which are mostly lies. If it is not the pictures, descriptions of services, age or weight, it is something else. Asian ads for example add 10 or more years. Most girls are 27 to 28 but some are late 30s and 40s.

For Asians you can add 20 yrs, for everyone else add 10.
But every now and again a girl is close to honest about her age. So there are exceptions to the usual necessary SP age scale adjustment.

 

[Fnejit]

For Asians you can add 20 yrs, for everyone else add 10.
But every now and again a girl is close to honest about her age. So there are exceptions to the usual necessary SP age scale adjustment.

Yes, I know a popular one that was in Toronto that was in her 40s but was advertising 21! She didn't look more that 27.

 

[Fnejit]

Better to be single than married and unhappy.
Marriage is overrated doesn't mean anything these days, only significant to religious people.

To each their own. There are some things of married life that are too good. Some just sucks tho.

 

[MissingOne]

... everyone lies. It's a natural behavior: even babies lie without being taught!

Yeah, even my dog lies to me. Fortunately, she isn't very good at it. And she's cute.

 

[Cami Parker]

Do your due diligence, see only well reviewed, reputable providers and you should avoid those types of things. May cost a bit more, but everyone can't be wrong, right?

there's a ton of deceit in the sex industry. just browse at the many entries here from frustrated pooners.
from B&S to fake pics, fraudulent service, etc, we pooners have experienced all that.
mind you, it does happen more on the 'bargain' price point, mainly the so-called asian aunties.
however, I'm sure it also happens at the higher-end scale.

sex work is like any relationship, there's the good and the bad.
but for those pooners who have a regular SP that they can just call on a whim for a quick WBTYM,
I say bravo. I didn't know unicorns and mermaids exists.

 

[Cami Parker]

An hour should be an hour, period. After all "money exchanged is for time and companionship", so if you paid for 1 hour time and companionship, that's certainly what you should get, assuming you were seeing a high end, low volume provider. Sounds like a scam, honestly. I sometimes read reviews about how guys didn't get the full hour, but I wonder if I was a guy, I would probably just say "our appointment ends at *:**" and not leave until then. Obviously, having never been in the situation, I'm quite sure it's much easier said than done lol

Alex I was considering what you might think of the examples of the providers who take your money for an hour but whisk you out the door much sooner. Is this just about completing one act or is it about having an hour of sensuous relationship? I can understand the blow and go crowd for a small time and all, that is acceptable. But a quality provider seemingly who says an hour and means much less?

 

[vancity_cowboy]

An hour should be an hour, period. After all "money exchanged is for time and companionship", so if you paid for 1 hour time and companionship, that's certainly what you should get, assuming you were seeing a high end, low volume provider. Sounds like a scam, honestly. I sometimes read reviews about how guys didn't get the full hour, but I wonder if I was a guy, I would probably just say "our appointment ends at *:**" and not leave until then. Obviously, having never been in the situation, I'm quite sure it's much easier said than done lol

that's a good suggestion, cami

just to make sure, when dealing with somebody unknown to me who doesn't necessarily have a stellar reputation, i always ask before money changes hands, 'that hour you mentioned is 60 minutes, right?' if she says yes but doesn't sound all that committed to it, i then glance at my watch and say, 'so we're here until *:** then, right?' that usually separates the bullshitters from the good providers and gives me a chance to leave without getting scalped

one does have to be thinking with the big head though to pull it off - and having a thick skin helps too!

***edit***

btw, the sure sign she's out to short-time you is if she answers, 'no, an hour is more performance based.' in a case like that immediately turn around and walk out the door

 

[voodooking]

I always tend to avoid high volume SPs all together as they will definitely short change you on time and double book appointments resulting in a rush job.
I don't want to be in the middle of that train or have to tag in the next client in the hallway. :doh:

I agree to pay for a certain time and not get the full time promised is bullshit.
Some SPs punish guys when they cum too early and finish the session right there which is a joke.

An hour should be an hour, period. After all "money exchanged is for time and companionship", so if you paid for 1 hour time and companionship, that's certainly what you should get, assuming you were seeing a high end, low volume provider. Sounds like a scam, honestly. I sometimes read reviews about how guys didn't get the full hour, but I wonder if I was a guy, I would probably just say "our appointment ends at *:**" and not leave until then. Obviously, having never been in the situation, I'm quite sure it's much easier said than done lol

 

[Cami Parker]

Huh... Bad business practices for sure! Maybe we could redo the reviews like Yelp... Give a star rating to a lady along with your review, and her overall star rating can be an average of all the ratings given. Maybe if ladies knew more that they would be held accountable they would think twice about that sort of thing. Then, of course, there's always the girl that doesn't care because not only is she not having fun, but she's not committed and she'll just be a "new girl" every week anyways.
Charming, I'm sure...

 

[Sexiaccent]

After more than 10 years in this hobby well my comment is that I have no regrets at all. I always had respect the lady's in this business, I had develop a good relationship with some of them.

The idea of a long term relationship is for me more and more faraway.

I get tired of the dating websites such just are a waist of time and money.

I just find amazing to meet new girls in this business. Some people say that it is no good to pay for company (and sex); I disagree. I think that the idea to expend money in to look for the company of a beautiful girl is a great idea; at the end I will die some day and I will not get any money with me right? but the memories about be around the fascinating ladies that I had meet are the ones that really matter.

That the concept that the SP's are just looking for money, some of them yes, but everybody work for money, I haven't meet nobody that does not. But some of the finest SP's that I have meet they really enjoy to be in this business. Some people will believe that I am naïve, well, quite frankly I don't care. I have had some much fun since I started in this hobby.

By the way: THANK YOU to all the beautiful ladies that I had meet in the past and the ones that I will look after, you are amazing!!!THANK YOU!!!

 

[sevenofnine]

I guess it depends on your point of view,
Yes they lie we all lie,

But I guess its what they lie about, you enter in a relationship the lies are about well how much I like you my past experiences, or what my intentions are and what I'm prepared to give you intern.
We lie to ourselves mostly in hopes we believe them and to whoever were talking to.

Sps lie about their age weight stats etc, maybe some services or time like guys have mentioned, they want in some cases the most money from you for the least amount of effort and stress on there part, its just a job to them and lets face were all the same. who goes to work and gives 100 percent every minute of every day, most of us or just average at work
we did a year end performance review at work at something like ten percent or less, received an acceptable performance rating. ten fucking percent of us, were only satisfactory at our jobs, your asking sp's to be something most of us are not. lest face it there human like the rest of us.

But you know there pretty honest sp's I mean, generally they won't tell you they love you or some such nonsense or play with your emotions to get you to come back, so yes in a relationships sense, sp's are the most honest person you will ever come across, but in a business sense tbere like any other business arrangement as in buyer be ware.
Its funny I have been seeing the same sp for a decade now, it is the most honest relationship period I have ever been in, and we have crossed the line into friendship been to her house etc etc, all of that bf and gf do pretty much. not quite given the constraints I'm still married and she has someone, so we have issue's but we sit down and talk there is no bull shit, its hard given where we both are, but there is a trust between us an acceptance between us.

lots to say about a on going relationship I have with a women in this, but shit, way to personal and not fare to put it on a message board.

 

[newatit]

So yes Cami I got another dose of truth and consequences an hour ago. Set up an appointment for today at noon then get a note very early this morning that SP has to head out but will be back. Then suddenly another note comes with an hour delay in the appointment time which I am finding hard to accommodate so thinking I will have to reschedule. But I am wondering why the delay? Did she go out early to see another client early or to pick up "something"? And why the hour delay? Is she taking that something then or yet booked another client in my time frame? So I can wait? Nope a deal is a deal as you said! It's off for today.

 

[green]

Here is the perspective of an older member, a white guy in my 60s, a bit of a player in my youth, who just doesn't have the option of a "real" relationship anymore.

After nine years of forced celibacy in my marriage, in early 2014 I started seeing SPs. When I got into it, I expected, at best, some girl to lay back on a bed, close her eyes, and say "Tell me when it's over". What I got were some of the best sexual experiences of my life at any age.

Yes there are nasty, greedy, mean girls who don't give a damn about their clients. But, with luck, and by using Perb to weed out the bad apples, I've met some wonderful girls who give far more than they have to. Even some of the highest volume girls, those pretty enough that they could act like shit and still get away with it, have made an exceptional effort to make sure that I left a happy man. Is it a real relationship? No, of course not. But there are exceptional girls out there who are kind givers and who make this hobby so very rewarding.