~*~ HAVE YOU SEEN ME (or any SP) OUT AND ABOUT? ~*~

[vancityengineer]

I've not had that exactly happen, but I have gotten emails like ..."Hey, remember me from High School?" I always decline those appointments lol. I guess I'm not a good one to ask because nobody could ever "accidentally" book a date with me without realizing its me.

That's what I guessed.. You must have to shut them out... But as I was reading somewhere on PERB.. SPs are like angels.. I respect the profession and respect the ladies..

 

[Cami Parker]

Awwww that's so sweet! With such a winning attitude I'm sure the ladies you encounter respect you just as much, if not more.

That's what I guessed.. You must have to shut them out... But as I was reading somewhere on PERB.. SPs are like angels.. I respect the profession and respect the ladies..

 

[SweetBree]

I always think clients must see me out and about. Even ones that I've never met. It's a small neighbourhood and I know I definitely stick out. No one has ever said anything to me, and I don't know if I'm getting stared at because I'm recognized, or because I dress cute and I'm so not a sloppy "Vancouver Girl". It wouldn't bother me if someone approached me, assuming they weren't interupting anything important. That's probably because I'm used to getting approached for autographs when I'm in the states though, and probably not proper etiquette, so I wouldn't suggest it with anyone else, just me. Haha I've never see anyone particularly familiar, but that's because I wonder around in my own world of head phones, oversized glasses and an undersized dog. I've walked by my very best friend on the street and not even realized it until I got the "WHAT THE HECK?!?" call a block later. "Sorry girl...." Haha.
Anyways, I guess the point of the thread is that while I promise I would never approach a client in public, I'm totally ok if you do it to me. I guess I was wondering if no one talks to because they don't see me, or they think they're "not allowed", or they just don't recognize me with clothes on, or they can't get through my glasses/headphones/Pomeranian fog. Lol
So have you ever seen me, or any other SP out in public? What is propper protocol? The ignore? The head nod? I know my comfort level exceeds that of most ladies in the industry, and I'm curious because I'm pretty sure that what I think is nice and friendly, is most likely not regarded as such on a wider scale....?
I dunno
What do you do?

Again, I respect a gentlemans privacy and would never take it upon myself to approach someone in that manner....

Really great topic for a threat Cami - I've always wondering about this protocol as well. Its no secret that I'm a university student and I ran into another lady I know from a longtime ago client-setup duo at school and we gave each other the eye connect and discreet nod, which seemed appropriate. I've never bumped into you, but I'm glad to know that you'd be open to me saying hello.

For past and current clients... I'm not out with this part of my life with anyone outside of the small circle of ladies and clients I know, so if I'm out and about with anyone else eye contact and a nod is good, but if I'm alone and you are inclined a nod, wave or hello is completely okay with me. I'm discreet, yet open. A bit of a paradox, no? With a client, I'd never make the first approach as it might not make them comfortable.

I've had a client mention he saw me in a cafe with a friend (close to where I live), and I'm glad he mentioned it later. Why not? I didn't feel like I was being stalked, and we had already established long before that we lived in the same vicinity and it might happen, and what to do if it did.
I've only run into a client directly once I believe, in a parkade downtown. We were both in the stairwell and said hi, and moved along. No big deal.

On the note of seeing SP's in public, I did recognize one from across the street while out and about, whose face is in her ads. I noticed that her photos are a good representation of her too, which was nice. I didn't think it was appropriate to go up, intercept and say hello, since I also don't know her comfort level.

But you know what, we are all human, doing what we do...
And social creatures that like attention, so I'm probably always going to give eye contact and maybe a smile or nod - certainly not indiscreet I think. I'd do that to a total stranger sometimes anyhow!

B

 

[Trevor2136]

I was having lunch at a Vietnamese place a few years back and Holly Taylor came in and sat at the table next to me. She's someone that I always wanted to see but didn't.

I really wanted to strike up a conversation with her, actually I wanted to ask her out on a "civilian" date. I always liked her contributions to the boards and I think she's very pretty too.

Ladies how would you feel if you met someone, who you didn't know professionally, and later found out that they new about your job before you started dating. I think I have a pretty woman fantasy.

Trevor

 

[mimi]

I had it happen twice where a client told me he had seen me in public, but thought it wise not to engage. It made me feel a bit exposed, as I had been in the biz for years and never had that happen before (but, then it was primarily out of towners). I was happy they were discreet. I always think I am pretty invisible.

Vancouver has the repuation of a city that dresses for comfort rather than style. I few fellows have told me that in Vancouver you are more likely to be standing beside a billioniare and not know it, due to the run down jeans, comfy jacket, and runners, than anywhere else in the world.

I liked to dress in style back in the 70s and people often asked me if I was from somewhere else...like Montreal. However, when I finally got to Montreal on a business trip in the 90s I was disappointed. I guess I was expecting Paris chic.

 

[Dickson]

I was born and raised here too, born in St. Paul's on Burrard actually, so I find it really funny if you aren't being facetious and honestly havn't observed the fashion culture around you in however many years youve been alive... . Also, do you consider "Vancouver"? To me that means downtown only. Next time you're out take the time to notice how many women actually wear lipstick on a daily basis (none!) or heels (few and far between) or make any type of sincere effort with their regular every day appearance. Instead, when you want to look nice to grocery shop or walk your dog, you get hard side-eye from women who just can't be bothered. I'm not into the "sloppy chic" thing... ugh. Totally unbecoming for a lady. NYC is so much more asthetically pleasing as far as the way that women present themselves when going out in public. They always say New York has the most beautiful women in the world, but really its just a matter of effort. Every woman has the potential to be beautiful, if only she would try. Obviously I'm not saying that's you, because I don't know you, and I was raised here too and it's definitely not me. Never has been. Since you were born and raised here you must be able to observe how casual fashion culture is here and how people think nothing of going out with no make up and dirty ripped sweats. Like I said, I don't know you at all, but I know I don't present myself in the same way that the majority of women I see walking around do. God Bless 'em if that's what they're into, no judgment, but it won't ever be me.

This thread is dangerous. The conventional wisdom, beaten into pooners over and over in dozens of "if you see me in public" threads over the years is don't approach the SP or acknowledge her. Every lady seems to have horror stories of being confronted by clients while with family, friends etc. Most guys have accepted the request and now we have a very vocal lady saying "come up and say hi". Us poor men get confused way too easily, and this could be bad. It's like finally getting the dog trained to stay off the couch and then letting him jump up one time. Total confusion.

Cami, you have done a disservice to the ladies who deserve privacy here with this thread.

Oh come on it is just about respect. I have seen a few SPs out and about. One recently in Berlin. You can tell if there is a need for a word to be spoken or not. If you are unsure it is best to walk on by. Like wise with them. It is like seeing your accountant or lawyer or Doctor. It really is not that hard. Or bit what do I know. I live in my little world so out of touch with reality.

 

[Dickson]

I was born and raised here too, born in St. Paul's on Burrard actually, so I find it really funny if you aren't being facetious and honestly havn't observed the fashion culture around you in however many years youve been alive... . Also, do you consider "Vancouver"? To me that means downtown only. Next time you're out take the time to notice how many women actually wear lipstick on a daily basis (none!) or heels (few and far between) or make any type of sincere effort with their regular every day appearance. Instead, when you want to look nice to grocery shop or walk your dog, you get hard side-eye from women who just can't be bothered. I'm not into the "sloppy chic" thing... ugh. Totally unbecoming for a lady. NYC is so much more asthetically pleasing as far as the way that women present themselves when going out in public. They always say New York has the most beautiful women in the world, but really its just a matter of effort. Every woman has the potential to be beautiful, if only she would try. Obviously I'm not saying that's you, because I don't know you, and I was raised here too and it's definitely not me. Never has been. Since you were born and raised here you must be able to observe how casual fashion culture is here and how people think nothing of going out with no make up and dirty ripped sweats. Like I said, I don't know you at all, but I know I don't present myself in the same way that the majority of women I see walking around do. God Bless 'em if that's what they're into, no judgment, but it won't ever be me.

You know what's even less 'becoming'?
People spamming the board, CONSTANTLY inundating the lounge (and bumping archaic reviews) in a shameless attempt at self-promotion :/
We have ads for that, no?
If people want to open threads whereby it is blatantly obvious (to anyone with an IQ above room temperature) that their primary and ONLY objective is to cast a line with the intention of replying to the ensuing posts in a manner that accomplishes NOTHING but to pump their own tires? - perhaps such people could do us all a favour and modify the title of said threads to reflect this, so as to not drag other ladies through the mud while they sit at their laptop all day telling everyone how amazing they are.
Call me crazy, but one might speculate that such AMAZING providers would likely be too busy attending to their MANY adoring clients to carve out such a massive amount of time each day starting and replying to overtly self-promoting threads?

Ouch. Now I understand why I am the biggest dick you have ever known. Wow.

 

[acutelonewolf]

Cami, I haven't seen you on the street (or anywhere, a fact I need to correct soon), but I live in Coal Harbour and have run into a few girls on the seawall or at local restaurants.

I always try and give a smile, but nothing more. I'd rather give a non-verbal indication than 'ignore' someone; particularly someone I've been intimate.

Comically, there is one special lady on here who I've been forced to stop and chat with as our dogs stop us to chat and sniff. We've always kept the discussion about the dogs though!

 

[BofSea]

If I got to town more often and had time to hang out walking on the street I would love to see Cami (or anyone else) out and about. How about ,since I`d be a tourist, I randomly asked you for directions to something and we just started talking ? Would some still be uncomfortable ? Like wolf says though I need to correct the fact I have not seen Cami yet.