Some random comments here...
Having just come out of a relationship with a very low volume provider, I can say that me being a Pooner was an issue with her as well. Her insecurities, as she thought I was comparing her to others all the time did come out, from time to time. The point being that past issues can go either way. I mean how many guys in civi-life, even if they are big time "playas" have had more than 100 women in their lives? Fairly common on this side of the fence I would say.
A lot of girls that have successfully exited this life, have made a complete break with the past. this usually involves moving to another area of the country. For many of them, they worked in Alberta, for a defined period of time, and then went back home afterwards, to resume real life. They had a structured game plan with exit strategies in place.
As for revealing ones past, this I would say must be done, if at all, with great discretion. If you are back home and retired and a former lover spills the beans, after a few beers with his buddies, you may find a reason to close your Facebook page quick pronto. You may also find your family slow to accept this disconcerting reality. For this reason many providers with privacy needs, will only work out of town. this is very common for touring Ontario gals.
I would also also say it would depend on the nature of the sexual relationship you have with your partner too. If it is uninhibited, involves, clubs, partners, swapping, etc. the issue of a professional past would have much less impact than if it was a traditional relationship.
I would say there are no hard and fast rules here. Each situation is unique. I have seen sp's in relationships with unknowing civilians, reveal their past/current avocation, and so far it has never gone well, just sayin'.
Also my experience with sp's, and I tend to know them as people, is the relationships they have while they are still working are always dysfunctional. To not put too fine a point on it, these guys are, "never to take home to mom", propositions, at least in my experience.
We are all damaged goods here, people, men and women alike, and we can not help but bring our pasts to the table. It is who we are.
I know that this is a rather disjointed series of comments, thanks for bearing with me.
Having just come out of a relationship with a very low volume provider, I can say that me being a Pooner was an issue with her as well. Her insecurities, as she thought I was comparing her to others all the time did come out, from time to time. The point being that past issues can go either way. I mean how many guys in civi-life, even if they are big time "playas" have had more than 100 women in their lives? Fairly common on this side of the fence I would say.
A lot of girls that have successfully exited this life, have made a complete break with the past. this usually involves moving to another area of the country. For many of them, they worked in Alberta, for a defined period of time, and then went back home afterwards, to resume real life. They had a structured game plan with exit strategies in place.
As for revealing ones past, this I would say must be done, if at all, with great discretion. If you are back home and retired and a former lover spills the beans, after a few beers with his buddies, you may find a reason to close your Facebook page quick pronto. You may also find your family slow to accept this disconcerting reality. For this reason many providers with privacy needs, will only work out of town. this is very common for touring Ontario gals.
I would also also say it would depend on the nature of the sexual relationship you have with your partner too. If it is uninhibited, involves, clubs, partners, swapping, etc. the issue of a professional past would have much less impact than if it was a traditional relationship.
I would say there are no hard and fast rules here. Each situation is unique. I have seen sp's in relationships with unknowing civilians, reveal their past/current avocation, and so far it has never gone well, just sayin'.
Also my experience with sp's, and I tend to know them as people, is the relationships they have while they are still working are always dysfunctional. To not put too fine a point on it, these guys are, "never to take home to mom", propositions, at least in my experience.
We are all damaged goods here, people, men and women alike, and we can not help but bring our pasts to the table. It is who we are.
I know that this is a rather disjointed series of comments, thanks for bearing with me.
