Basically setting up a profile, meeting someone and having a solid relationship at some level. No serial dating, one nighters, etc.
Is online dating successful???
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Yes it works... but it`s a numbers game. It`s just a way of meeting more people than you`d ordinarily run across. And ultimately you can fuck some of them.
I have used and looked at many internet dating sites with varied levels of success. First you need to prioritize your expectations. Yes there are alot of women (and men) - who could be defined as having issues on these sites. However there are some average, ordinay people who are there to try and make their lives better as well. The problem is sorting the two groups apart.
A lot of these sites don't count on you reading the terms of agreement because in there they are required to tell you that there are accounts placed on the site to generate traffic or communication (forget the term) - but basically they are admitting that some of these accounts are dummy or fake accounts. They also don't want you to know that the fees are auto recurring against your credit card unless you specifically cancel them.
Then there are the accounts that are only looking to have you join another website or chat site. These usually are the ones that will have the explcit photo and who contacts you first - sometimes within minutes of your joining. Then it becomes an endless game of innane questions in order to get you to where they can lure you to the next site - usually by promising some kind of better pics or contact info.
It can be alot of work to seperate the real from the fantasy on these sites and in the long run would probably be as much or more work than either arranging for a provider or even conventional dating methods.
I personall used Lavalife and had pretty good results for dating and even a relationship, and have heard good things about match.
The rest I looked at I would qualify as shady and would probably avoid.
A lot of these sites don't count on you reading the terms of agreement because in there they are required to tell you that there are accounts placed on the site to generate traffic or communication (forget the term) - but basically they are admitting that some of these accounts are dummy or fake accounts. They also don't want you to know that the fees are auto recurring against your credit card unless you specifically cancel them.
Then there are the accounts that are only looking to have you join another website or chat site. These usually are the ones that will have the explcit photo and who contacts you first - sometimes within minutes of your joining. Then it becomes an endless game of innane questions in order to get you to where they can lure you to the next site - usually by promising some kind of better pics or contact info.
It can be alot of work to seperate the real from the fantasy on these sites and in the long run would probably be as much or more work than either arranging for a provider or even conventional dating methods.
I personall used Lavalife and had pretty good results for dating and even a relationship, and have heard good things about match.
The rest I looked at I would qualify as shady and would probably avoid.
Never worked for me. Was just a complete waste of time and money. Granted it was a few years back. The ladies who showed never looked anything like tj. It was uncomfortable buying them dinner as we had nothing in common. Most we divoiced and coming out we spent time listening to what a ass her EX were. Could not talking about the hobby as they would not understand. I came away depressed. Just not a good experiences for me.
There's also an app you can download called Tinder. Kinda like the mobile dating version of hot-or-not. To maximize the use of it, take some really good activity px (sailing, tennis, wine, skiing, etc) and set up an alternate facebook account.
Because the immediate pool of potential dates in their social circle is tapped out and they have to look elsewhere to meet someone new. When you are 20 or so that isn't so hard, but it is a big problem for older women. That is why they try the dating sites.
It depends if your intention is merely to get laid for free, or casual/short term dating/ or ideally long-term dating/serious relationship. If it's the first, there are sites and apps where that is potentially possible, but you may have to lower your expectations/standards and wade through a lot of crap to the point of it hardly being worth all the time and effort. It's definitely easier to see an SP for a guaranteed thing and it might not even be that much more expensive in the long run (if you're the one paying for dinner/drinks/events/etc on these dates), not to mention it saves you time. But it is possible to hook up with people from dating sites. Since one-time hookups with someone you just met online are a pretty superficial thing, it depends greatly on your appearance/attractiveness and age, BUT also on how confident, charming, interesting and witty you are. I do personally know a few guys who are able to frequently have sex on the first or second date with cool/pretty girls they meet online, but they have looks and skills that enable them to do this easily and they do put a significant amount of time and effort into it.
Whatever your intentions, I have a ton of tips, such as:
- Put some effort into your profile! How would you like potential dates to see you? Even those women who might be up for some NSA sex do care what you look like, whether you share interests, about your personality, etc and do read the profiles thoroughly. Post as many photos as possible, make sure to show your face very clearly and smile and some photos of you having fun, showing your personality or individual style, doing activities you enjoy/that ladies might also enjoy or at least find a turn-on, like playing an instrument (but please not every pic should be of you mountain-climbing or snowboarding!)
- Be very selective with who you message. Copy and pasting a generic message to as many women as possible apparently seems like a good idea to a lot of guys but it really is not appealing to women, we can tell. Nor does it actually save you time. Carefully look through the profiles to determine who you should even bother to message in the first place. For example, don't message someone who states that smoking is disgusting if you smoke. Don't message someone who states that they are only looking for a soulmate if you are only looking to bone. Don't message someone whose profile makes it clear that they would not be interested in you (if they have restrictions about age, religion, location, interests, etc or live far away from you and don't drive. Read their profiles!).
- Don't message someone whose photos get your spidey senses tingling: like if the pics look old and don't have dates in the captions, or are all filtered Instagram pics or Photoshopped/heavily altered in some way, at weird angles or are distant silhouettes where you can't really see what they look like. And don't do any of these things to your own photos.
- After eliminating as many people as you can in these kinds of ways (On Okcupid, for example, read the match question answers! These can tell you a lot), you should be left with the ones who are more likely to respond and who you are more likely to be compatible with.
- Take the time to write a well thought-out personalized message to them, starting with the ones who were online most recently. Check your messages frequently. If you can catch the person right after they've messaged you and are still online it's more likely to keep the conversation going.
- If chatting is going well, ask to switch to text message (not immediately of course, but don't be afraid to suggest it or you may just end up in an endless penpal situation which can easily happen on these sites).
- Try a few different sites. Personally I'd go with the 3 free sites/apps that are most used and well-known in your area.
I disagree. When I see a profile that is all/primarily distant activity photos I think, "Hmm, this guy must be really unattractive physically, since you can barely see him, and probably has little personality or charm either, so he has very deliberately crafted this image that he thinks will convey that he is a super fun guy because he does tons of activities and sports." By all means include some, but make sure that you are still the main focus of the photo and are clearly recognizable. Show how you normally dress (or would dress on a date), not just how you look in cycling gear or a skydiving suit. Use activities the type of woman you want to attract might actually want to join you in doing. Tinder is one of the most superficial dating apps by the way so have a good main photo, most people will judge you based solely on that photo.
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Honestly for me online dating is hot and cold sometimes I meet quite a few women that are just looking for a quick hook up then sometimes it's dry for a few weeks or months depends on how much I go on it. Just don't be a creep and go on about sex but once you get a girls number and if she starts the sexting then it's all good that's how I find it goes for me.
Yes that site is all about the type of pics you have. I tried once with one shitty pic and got next to nothing. Then tried again with a few more pics and got some more hits. But I don't really get a lot of photos me taken so I have a shitty profile and deleted account. Most girls on there are smoking hot and have no reason to be on there other than the attention to boost there ego. Everygirl on there always attaches there Instragram account for some reason I don't get, maybe trying to get a lot of followers and become famous.
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