Can you keep up?

[Slapshot1]

50 Shades of Grey.... If you haven't heard about this, you've been living under a rock. With the release of the movie slated for Valentines day 2015, I can't help but wonder where the next level of pleasure will be for the average guy. The books alone have the meekest of women of the world quivering as it is, so when the husbands are dragged to the theaters next February 14th, one would assume that many women will look at their men and expect a carbon copy of Christian Grey.
I can't even compare this to porn where men wish that their partners could be like the starlets on the flick, as this very well could be on a level that most men may have trouble comprehending. I guess it was just a matter of time before the tables turned on us men, yeah, we'll definitely benefit from this, but can we adhere to the inevitable expectations of perfection that will be expected of us?

 

[SeductiveCameronDEL]

I haven't read the book, but I do have a few friends involved in the BDSM community....and this storyline is not being hailed as anything good....

Check it out: http://37.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mef15sESlY1rmxdlno1_500.jpg

I found that link on Facebook, along with this explanation:

"There are a lot of people who are new to the lifestyle or have discovered the life because of a certain series of books.....to them I say this :

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

with love,
Your friendly RL non fictional Pervert.
Me. "

 

[Summer-Love]

Thanks for sharing that Cameron, I've literally been trying to tell people similar info since the book exploded. I'm not part of the BDSM community but I also have friends in it who are equally as upset about what that book is putting forth. If unformed people try to replicate that kind of relationship, it could be quite dangerous.

...Plus the dude doesn't even look hot in the movie.

 

[SeductiveCameronDEL]

Thanks for sharing that Cameron, I've literally been trying to tell people similar info since the book exploded. I'm not part of the BDSM community but I also have friends in it who are equally as upset about what that book is putting forth. If unformed people try to replicate that kind of relationship, it could be quite dangerous.

...Plus the dude doesn't even look hot in the movie.

Right?! It sounds like affirmation for passive-agressive guys with jealousy and abuse issues, demonstrating that women are meant to be ornamental fixtures, lacking any emotional value. Please don't emulate this for your wives or girlfriends without warning in an effort at being romantic.

 

[Slapshot1]

Thanks as well Cameron, I take usually like to learn something new every day and well.... I'm pretty sure I'm good for the next month or so. I too haven't read the books(c'mon I'm a guy, I don't read unless I have to) and I'll be the first one to admit that I don't know anything about BDSM. Not really my cup of tea. The missus, however did, and let me tell you, I haven't had that much sex for a very long time. It was a great two months.
I do believe that the majority of people that have read the book and or will see the movie will take from it what they choose that is within their own personal boundaries. I can't see the sales of whips, chains, and handcuffs skyrocketing on the 15th of February.
All that being said, when has Hollywood ever portrayed anything accurate? Doctors must cringe when a procedure is performed on screen and anyone who has shot a handgun knows that you ain't gonna get the bad guy between the eyes at 100 feet. I for one will never watch another hockey movie again.
This is really no different. The writers and producers of this will take their chances and sell their product to the masses that don't know any better and will shrug the critics that are in the know about such things.
I'll give the benefit of the doubt to the greater percentage of the people that see this, that their bedroom habits won't change because of this film. If in some way, this film influences people to show an interest in BDSM, I would hope that they wouldn't rely on the movie for guidance. I know this much, I'm probably going to need an oxygen tank by the end of the night.

 

[1nitestan]

 

[1nitestan]

Right?! It sounds like affirmation for passive-agressive guys with jealousy and abuse issues, demonstrating that women are meant to be ornamental fixtures, lacking any emotional value. Please don't emulate this for your wives or girlfriends without warning in an effort at being romantic.

and yet...this is the shit that women eat up like candy judging from book sales and movie hype. As a man I would refuse to go watch this movie even if my date/gf/wife offered the most amazing sex. First, it's a chick flick and being the lone dude in a theatre filled with women is...well...awkward. It's NOT a date movie by any stretch of the imagination. Secondly, as Cameron already said, it promotes abuse.

BTW, I would love to quote cameron's response (discreetly of course) to anyone who wants to talk about this movie/book either online or in RL.

 

[Julie Page]

I haven't read the book, but I do have a few friends involved in the BDSM community....and this storyline is not being hailed as anything good....

Check it out: http://37.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mef15sESlY1rmxdlno1_500.jpg

I found that link on Facebook, along with this explanation:

"There are a lot of people who are new to the lifestyle or have discovered the life because of a certain series of books.....to them I say this :

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

with love,
Your friendly RL non fictional Pervert.
Me. "

Here, here.
Not at all a healthy D/s relationship.

 

[Lo-ki]

I started to read the book and got bored with it.
50 Shades of Boring
I can't imagine the movie being any better.

 

[Cock Throppled]

I haven't read the book, but I do have a few friends involved in the BDSM community....and this storyline is not being hailed as anything good....

Check it out: http://37.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mef15sESlY1rmxdlno1_500.jpg

I found that link on Facebook, along with this explanation:

"There are a lot of people who are new to the lifestyle or have discovered the life because of a certain series of books.....to them I say this :

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.

Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

with love,
Your friendly RL non fictional Pervert.
Me. "

I think this is exactly what Stephen Harper and Peter McKay fantasize about.

AS LONG AS HE DOESN"T PAY HER it's all good. If he pays, then he's a criminal.