Is online dating successful???

[girth-brooks]

Recently a buddy of mine at work has told me how 'easy it is' to pick up women online, particularly with the site POF. He goes on and on about how him and a buddy of his, chatting up these girls and somehow getting laid not soon after. A good friend of mine was on the site to find a relationship and told me what a nightmare it was for him because of all the lying he realized about them when they eventually met up. These girls he met would lie about their age, used photos of themselves from years ago and even lied about the fact if they had children or not.

Part of me wants to sign up and see what happens. I have tried it years ago, but vowed never to do it again, as I found most of the people I met were just into games or had unrealistic expectations of finding "the one".

Does anyone out in PERB land have any tips, advice, good or bad stories about online dating?

 

[manni]

I have tried it years ago, but vowed never to do it again, as I found most of the people I met were just into games or had unrealistic expectations of finding "the one".

Does anyone out in PERB land have any tips, advice, good or bad stories about online dating?

why return and re-live the same BS? unless you're sucker for punishment.

I tried it once (about 5 yrs ago) and had gone on a few dates, but the women you meet are never the same
as their profile pics or the person they claim to be. and yes, I figure the girls posts pics anywhere from 5-10 years ago.
maybe it has to do something with age? I'm in my late 40's and I tend to date women of similar age bracket, education, income, etc and
none from POF have turned my crank.

I'm probably more suited for single life, unattached with appropriate dosage of pay for play session thrown in.
it's the NSA lifestyle that I like. I come and go as I please.

but I wish you success in your search for 'the one'.

 

[girth-brooks]

why return and re-live the same BS? unless you're sucker for punishment..

Hahaha - I told my friends that if I ever try it again to hit me over the head with a shovel. I was just looking online and ironically I see some of the same pictures that I saw years back. That is crazy, you hit the nail on the head there. It makes me wonder sometimes. If these girls on there are so great, why would they want to be online? Like, wouldn't they have all kinds of guys meeting them in real life to sweep them off their feet?

 

[girth-brooks]

Before I first tried online dating, a good friend asked a similar question. Overall, I think it was an excellent question and of course applies to both genders.

Yeah, what I can't figure out is that women are more likely to be more selective, have more social options, get 'hit on' much more than guys do - why would they want to sit at home and look at e-mails? For guys, I guess there are similarities, but I think women get hit on much more than we do. Traditionally speaking, women don't normally make the first move - our lives aren't exactly Axe Body Spray / beer commercials where women are all over the guys.

 

[manni]

Hahaha - I told my friends that if I ever try it again to hit me over the head with a shovel. I was just looking online and ironically I see some of the same pictures that I saw years back. That is crazy, you hit the nail on the head there. It makes me wonder sometimes. If these girls on there are so great, why would they want to be online? Like, wouldn't they have all kinds of guys meeting them in real life to sweep them off their feet?

I suppose the girls could say the same thing with the guys they see or meet on POF.
let's face it, we horndogs just want a quick hook up. and why I think if that's the jest of a guy's intent,
then be prepared for all the BS that come with. it's hilarious to see these tv ads portraying the
'beer commercial' lifestyle and we know it's never like that. think of the eharmony ads.

better wear a good helmet the next time you see your buddies.
and btw, couldn't your buddies hook you up?

 

[girth-brooks]

better wear a good helmet the next time you see your buddies.
and btw, couldn't your buddies hook you up?

Yeah, I may need to get one. Funny you should ask about the setting up. It seems to be a priority for them more than it is for me. They seem to be looking on my behalf, but on the same token only hang out with married people. This marriage thing seems to be one big clique :doh:

 

[girth-brooks]

Depends on what you define as online dating.

Your friends are just looking for a booty call. Dating kind of implies a relationship.

If you're looking for a booty call, free sites like POF are what works best. But factor in supply and demand, as there are way more bros than women on those sites. And no matter what the woman looks like, she'll get bombarded with emails on a daily basis. Also note, most people on the free sites tend to be pretty insane.

I don't know anyone (at least anyone who admits using) Tindr. From what I understand of this app, it sounds pretty dangerous and might just be full of crazies. Tread carefully.

If you're looking for a relationship, use a paysite. I've had a few friends marry someone they met on eharmony. Others have had pretty positive results.

Thanks for the insight. Yes, crazy/insane is bad :fear:

 

[Julie Page]

I dunno. I was on POF about 6-7 years ago, and while nothing came of it romantically, I actually made some good friends. That's my two cents.
I'd say just walk in with zero expectations.

 

[D12]

With online dating I met maybe one genuine nice girl a few nut jobs and a few hook ups I don't think it's the place for long lasting love just my opinion

 

[MissVioletRei]

After years of hesitation I joined POF & OkCupid (last year.)

I found POF didn't work too well for me. I went on one date and it turned out the guy was a previous friend of a previous boyfriend. I still went through with it and enjoyed a few drinks however we never went on another date.

I joined Okcupid. I ended up meeting someone whom I'm still quite good friends with.

I would suggest being careful of course because as you said girls can lie about their age, etc.

Online dating is interesting. I think at the end of the day even if you don't find true romance or a real connection, you will probably have some funny memories & met someone new.

 

[emacky]

I'm on okcupid right now and I seems like a numbers game. Keep messaging girls and some will answer, most will not and I've actually gotten replies for girls who would tell me not to message them cuz they don't want to talk to me.

I've tried pof as well and a lot of the girls there seem to have issues. Some look as fake as the ads on erslist and some have some major baggage they're still clinging onto. And some just are psycho

 

[Chef99]

I did a lot of online dating about 10 years ago. I have many single friends that still do. Here are my data points...
- POF is one of the lowest forms of dating web sites. It's known for "crazies". If you can put up with that, I'm told a lot of people are just looking to connect up. I couldn't stand it so can't say first hand
- I successfully used match and lavalife. Yes, there were a few nutjobs. There are also a lot of "career" online dating people - saw a number of the same ones there for a few years as I'd come and go.
- there are just as many deceitful men as there are women - fake pics, fake age, fake weight. You learn to weed them out by reading between the lines and looking at the pics from the right angles
- Although I was seeking a relationship, I was extremely blessed with a number of fun hookups that lasted everywhere from a single date to FWB status. I just found that women in their late 30s to early 40s were mostly tired of games and willing to go with the flow if they felt an attraction even if there wasn't longer term interest.
- it was a hell of a lot of fun

 

[vanperb]

Just wanted to put this here.

http://jezebel.com/man-poses-as-woman-on-online-dating-site-barely-lasts-1500707724

Dating sites for women can represent the Internet at its worse...

 

[girth-brooks]

The thought of paying for a dating site, to me, is like paying for a handful of magic beans. You spend the money, but it guarantees nothing. Maybe I just need to get out a little more and stick to seeing escorts while I still can. Don't know what to say in regards to 'the crazies', because I think that there are crazies are everywhere.

 

[Papa Chongo]

back a few years ago ( 10 ) I tried POF and met only crazies, i had some great sex! its funny one thing that i have found to always be true...crazy=awesome in bed!

my two cents!

 

[girth-brooks]

back a few years ago ( 10 ) I tried POF and met only crazies, i had some great sex! its funny one thing that i have found to always be true...crazy=awesome in bed!

my two cents!

That's awesome - I knew the crazy ones were good for something. You may have to put up with some Fatal Attraction, but at least you know she's into you. ound:

 

[twoblues]

Also sanity / intelligence / beauty

 

[girth-brooks]

What's the old saying? Sex/Sane/Hotness: You only get two out of three. Choose wisely.

Ah, here it is:

 

[kauffman]

a question like this needs some clarification? What is your definition of success? Are you asking according to whatever that may be or individual responders definition of this? Is success marriage? sex? actually going out on a date? More than one date with the same person? Compared to dating that is not founded online?

 

[kauffman]

who really cares about what people choose to lie about? THat provides just as much information as the "facts". If the truth was acceptable no one would need to lie