YOu guys are soooo lucky..

[mimi]

Looking around the board advertisements, at all the attractive, sexy women, I am reminded of a conversation I had with the gals not too long ago: how does a woman go about picking up a guy for some wild and crazy sex....it ain't easy!

One of the things I frequently hear guys say on here is that chicks can get all the sex they want...which chicks, I wonder? The small percentage of actual hawt women? What do the rest of us do?

You can't pick up anyone at the office, going to bars is just creepy, and pof and other dating sites are also creepy...no reviews, no toffts, not even the remotest idea of what to expect...

guys always say that women hold the power in matters of sex, but it ain't so. If we screw someone at the office I guarantee an emotional drama fest on the horizon, and most people spend most of their time at work, so spare time to go out and find some action is limited.

There are about 5 male escorts in the Vancouver area that cater to women...good luck getting an appointment! Look how many options you guys have?? Picking up guys gets more difficult the older a gal gets....when a guy is in his later fifties he can hire some nice young thing with sleek tight skin, and have a fantasy night, but us old gals? We are still horny, and still looking, just not getting laid! I am seriously envious....so, enjoy your advantage! And thank your lucky stars you were born with a penis!

 

[BORKO]

Looking around the board advertisements, at all the attractive, sexy women, I am reminded of a conversation I had with the gals not too long ago: how does a woman go about picking up a guy for some wild and crazy sex....it ain't easy!

One of the things I frequently hear guys say on here is that chicks can get all the sex they want...which chicks, I wonder? The small percentage of actual hawt women? What do the rest of us do?

You can't pick up anyone at the office, going to bars is just creepy, and pof and other dating sites are also creepy...no reviews, no toffts, not even the remotest idea of what to expect...

guys always say that women hold the power in matters of sex, but it ain't so. If we screw someone at the office I guarantee an emotional drama fest on the horizon, and most people spend most of their time at work, so spare time to go out and find some action is limited.

There are about 5 male escorts in the Vancouver area that cater to women...good luck getting an appointment! Look how many options you guys have?? Picking up guys gets more difficult the older a gal gets....when a guy is in his later fifties he can hire some nice young thing with sleek tight skin, and have a fantasy night, but us old gals? We are still horny, and still looking, just not getting laid! I am seriously envious....so, enjoy your advantage! And thank your lucky stars you were born with a penis!

You are making a funny there right?

 

[sdw]

Looking around the board advertisements, at all the attractive, sexy women, I am reminded of a conversation I had with the gals not too long ago: how does a woman go about picking up a guy for some wild and crazy sex....it ain't easy!

One of the things I frequently hear guys say on here is that chicks can get all the sex they want...which chicks, I wonder? The small percentage of actual hawt women? What do the rest of us do?

You can't pick up anyone at the office, going to bars is just creepy, and pof and other dating sites are also creepy...no reviews, no toffts, not even the remotest idea of what to expect...

guys always say that women hold the power in matters of sex, but it ain't so. If we screw someone at the office I guarantee an emotional drama fest on the horizon, and most people spend most of their time at work, so spare time to go out and find some action is limited.

There are about 5 male escorts in the Vancouver area that cater to women...good luck getting an appointment! Look how many options you guys have?? Picking up guys gets more difficult the older a gal gets....when a guy is in his later fifties he can hire some nice young thing with sleek tight skin, and have a fantasy night, but us old gals? We are still horny, and still looking, just not getting laid! I am seriously envious....so, enjoy your advantage! And thank your lucky stars you were born with a penis!

lol, The real problem is that 50 - 60 year old women are not friendly and seem to have standards that don't reflect the reality. If a woman is single and 50 - 60 she should be looking for single men that are 50 - 60. That single man should be in a similar economic position. If he's divorced, he may not own a home anymore. Same goes for her, if she's divorced, she may not own a home anymore.

In another thread I commented on the reaction of a woman to me saying hello. Since she found it "empowering" to scream it at the top of her lungs, being friendly without some encouragement is not something that is going to happen. I also found that any of the dating sites is a complete waste of time. The guy is lucky to get a response and if he does exchange communications, it's unlikely that she will actually meet him for coffee. She may agree to meet, but she'll back out on the day and then have some lame excuse for not arriving.

So, I see prostitutes when I need to. Since I'm paying for a completely artificial expression of friendship, I pay for women that are younger than I would date otherwise. That's partially self protection. I'm not able to fool myself into thinking that a woman under 40 is "In Love" with me, while there is a risk that I may fool myself with a woman that is closer to my age. Since this place is full of threads by the guys who thought paying for sex is paying for love, I chose to avoid the possibility of fooling myself.

 

[GATSBY]

There are about 5 male escorts in the Vancouver area that cater to women...good luck getting an appointment! Look how many options you guys have?? Picking up guys gets more difficult the older a gal gets....when a guy is in his later fifties he can hire some nice young thing with sleek tight skin, and have a fantasy night, but us old gals? We are still horny, and still looking, just not getting laid! I am seriously envious....so, enjoy your advantage! And thank your lucky stars you were born with a penis!

Where's the lightbulb emoticon when I need it..

 

[yazoo]

lol, The real problem is that 50 - 60 year old women are not friendly and seem to have standards that don't reflect the reality. If a woman is single and 50 - 60 she should be looking for single men that are 50 - 60. That single man should be in a similar economic position. If he's divorced, he may not own a home anymore. Same goes for her, if she's divorced, she may not own a home anymore.

Yeah but mimi's not looking for a mate, she's looking for what us pooners have - the ability to bed some hot young thing where the only barrier to entry, so to speak, is money.

In many ways, what goes around comes around. Young women can have sex on demand. Young men in minimum wage jobs have difficulties, unless they are physically attractive. Often their best fornicating years are lost in a sexual drought.

But older men have money to pay for company from willing young women, and now it is the older women who have the challenges.

We all have the option of sex-tourism. It was a while back that I read about large numbers of English women vacationing in some African country where there were plenty of male CSW's to choose from.

I was also reading online about a bar owner in Thailand who was amazed that his bargirls would spend their money on male escorts. Apparently there is a large supply of male CSW's who service the female CSW's there.

We live in a strange world.

 

[BORKO]

Yeah but mimi's not looking for a mate, she's looking for what us pooners have - the ability to bed some hot young thing where the only barrier to entry, so to speak, is money.

In many ways, what goes around comes around. Young women can have sex on demand. Young men in minimum wage jobs have difficulties, unless they are physically attractive. Often their best fornicating years are lost in a sexual drought.

But older men have money to pay for company from willing young women, and now it is the older women who have the challenges.

We all have the option of sex-tourism. It was a while back that I read about large numbers of English women vacationing in some African country where there were plenty of male CSW's to choose from.

I was also reading online about a bar owner in Thailand who was amazed that his bargirls would spend their money on male escorts. Apparently there is a large supply of male CSW's who service the female CSW's there.

We live in a strange world.

CSW = consensual sex worker? community sex worker?

If so, maybe it just shows Thai female CSWs get lonely and want to have sex where they get to be selfish too..

 

[mimi]

^what he said! Thank you! People see older women and don't see them as having sexual desire. I know women quite a bit older than me who are terribly frustrated...but, don't want the relationship 'thing'. Sex is very healthy and extremely important...I have tried the whole pof thing, but even though you say, implicitly, that there are no strings, the texting is endless...and the emotional obligations reach out...gawd, escorting was so much easier! Great sex (most of the time) and absolutely no emotional obligations...no one gets hurt (usually...with exceptions). Even if I was a guy I wouldn't waste my time dating; such a lot of stress, why bother when you have a smorgasbord of selection, and you can change your flavour whenever you please.

 

[Flybynight]

Yeah but mimi's not looking for a mate, she's looking for what us pooners have - the ability to bed some hot young thing where the only barrier to entry, so to speak, is money.

In many ways, what goes around comes around. Young women can have sex on demand. Young men in minimum wage jobs have difficulties, unless they are physically attractive. Often their best fornicating years are lost in a sexual drought.

But older men have money to pay for company from willing young women, and now it is the older women who have the challenges.

We all have the option of sex-tourism. It was a while back that I read about large numbers of English women vacationing in some African country where there were plenty of male CSW's to choose from.

I was also reading online about a bar owner in Thailand who was amazed that his bargirls would spend their money on male escorts. Apparently there is a large supply of male CSW's who service the female CSW's there.

We live in a strange world.

Excuse my ignorance but what does "male CSW" mean? I have spent a lot of time in Jamaica though and the number of North American girls who are, well a little older and overweight, with Jamaican guys is noticeable.

 

[yazoo]

CSW = consensual sex worker? community sex worker?

If so, maybe it just shows Thai female CSWs get lonely and want to have sex where they get to be selfish too..

CSW = Commercial Sex Worker.

That's exactly it - but I don't think it is the sex but the social position. If you are a waiter or waitress all day, you spend your time seeing yourself as a servant. To balance your self-image it is gratifying to go to some place where you are the centre of attention and are served.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

mimi, think back on your recent clients, pick one or two of them that you think you enjoyed the session with, and call them up and propose that the two of you become friends with benefits from time to time of your choosing

i'll bet you won't be wanting

 

[google_123]

mimi, think back on your recent clients, pick one or two of them that you think you enjoyed the session with, and call them up and propose that the two of you become friends with benefits from time to time of your choosing

i'll bet you won't be wanting

+1.

Mimi, you aren't thinking outside the box. What Vancity cowboy said sums it up. So actually....Women have it lucky.
Post an ad on Casual encounters or thera or ers, get back in the Escorting business. Have sex with a variety of men, choose the young studs and proposition them with a FWB. They'd be stupid to turn it down. Don't forget that young studs have Older women fantasies.

Bam! You have your pickings and make easy money out of it!

Whereas men, pretty much our only option is paying.

 

[mimi]

*sigh* there is no such thing as 'free' sex, not even for women....if I look up an old client who I got along with very well, and is single and available, I might end up wading through an emotional disaster....

funny thing about guys (and I found this out when I was quite young) is that you all are more emotional and vulnerable than we ever give you credit for.

The other thing is, you guys generally want sex many times a week. I might only want sex once in a week, but I don't want to have to make excuses, or avoid texts....I would love to have your ability to just pick up the phone when I do get in the mood, and select from a nice assortment of hawt babes, and not be bothered during the week if I am not interested...

The one good sex partner I found on a dating site turned into a great misunderstanding about what the relationship was about, sadly. Lots of hurt feelings.

....the point is being able to sort through reviews and pictures of available sex partners, and choose...you guys are lucky! I look through the ads here and on other sites and see endless possibilities for you....a nice play date with no consequences. That is very difficult for a woman to accomplish

 

[tantalizeme]

My heart goes out to you, mimi. Honestly.

What about the good old neighborhood pub?

You're a beauty, mimi--inside and out. I'd be glad to be of service.

 

[mimi]

^LOL....if there is one person who would understand what I am talking about it is you! Avoiding the complexities of a relationship and having fun sex is difficult for both genders. Men just have it a bit easier. Unfortunately, you are miles away from where I am situated now and I have heard of your 'largesse' which is a bit difficult for someone my age (although I did surprise myself with the last playmate, but I am sure he was not even close to your size.)

Neighbourhood pubs? That would mean someone in the neighbourhood, who might find out where a person lives and come knocking on the door at some point, unannounced, and creating an awkward situation.

I am not just talking about myself here, I am talking about other women who now have stable lives, and might not want anyone to know about their extracurricular activities...women who now have average jobs, working up the ladder, church on Sundays, like many men on this board. The women I was chatting with all agreed they would gladly pay for a once a month tryst. They were all ex-escorts who didn't want back in the business, but really missed the sex. We worry...use it or lose it...sex makes the hormones flow. We tend to dry out as we age, but sex keeps the juices flowing.

We aren't even that fussy about things like a little beer belly, or a homely guy, or age, or anything other than a good stiff cock and some stamina. When we read the reviews (can't keep from looking lol) and we see the pickiness, and the over analyzing of experiences we just sigh. A day's pay is not a big deal, in our minds, for the opportunity to get some exercise. Hell, we can spend that on a night out for dinner, drinks and a movie.

Also, if it is difficult for an average woman to score, imagine one who is wheelchair bound. There are SPs who specialize in serving the men in this category.

I remember the liberty of the sixties and seventies. What the hell happened? It hasn't gotten easier or more liberating for us. Lately, things have been moving in the opposite direction

 

[Lady Kay]

I have to chime in here and say its impossible to get a date in this city!!! I have talked to men in coffee shops, grocery stores, the dog park, just yesterday I started a conversation with a guy coming out of a record store. And trust me, Im putting out the signs. Im from Toronto where the men call at you from their cars and give a hot girl the up and down when their walking down the street. The men in this city are SHY and to 'cool for school'. Iv been on pof and no one had a job!!! Last week I was walking on commercial and this great looking guy who was hanging with his friends checked me out and said "wow your hot", I turned around and went right up to him and said "thank you I haven't been hit on in a while, my name is ....." he shook my hand, told me his name and then NOTHING??? WTF Is everybody married? I dont see rings on these guys? Is it true theres one man to every five women in Vancouver? Is that the problem? Theres just way to much pussy the men dont have to work for it? Am I supposed to ask for their number? I dont think I should, I think the guy should be the one to ask me out?

 

[hornygandalf]

I hear the sentiments (and it is kinda encouraging), but also think about the posting/thread by sdw recently where a friendly hello was shot down. Men get stung, get attacked for being forward and making the first move or just being friendly, so why put yourself out there to be humiliated or treated like a pervert. But, Vancouver is a cold city in many ways.

 

[badbadboy]

I have to chime in here and say its impossible to get a date in this city!!! I have talked to men in coffee shops, grocery stores, the dog park, just yesterday I started a conversation with a guy coming out of a record store. And trust me, Im putting out the signs. Im from Toronto where the men call at you from their cars and give a hot girl the up and down when their walking down the street. The men in this city are SHY and to 'cool for school'. Iv been on pof and no one had a job!!! Last week I was walking on commercial and this great looking guy who was hanging with his friends checked me out and said "wow your hot", I turned around and went right up to him and said "thank you I haven't been hit on in a while, my name is ....." he shook my hand, told me his name and then NOTHING??? WTF Is everybody married? I dont see rings on these guys? Is it true theres one man to every five women in Vancouver? Is that the problem? Theres just way to much pussy the men dont have to work for it? Am I supposed to ask for their number? I dont think I should, I think the guy should be the one to ask me out?

I can totally see you doing this and all I can say about that guy is Wow!

He was either married, in a LTR or he was blown away by your self confidence.

20 years younger and available; I would have been all over that situation :nod:

I find that self confidence in independent women so hot!

Mimi FWIW the on line dating stuff to me is a crap shoot, hanging out in pubs might be good for a one nighter; what has worked for me (prior to igniting my dormant pooning career) was a friend with benefits. Selecting the right one is key and making sure it's a discrete casual ie no drama affair is the tricky part. I was into that for 10 years prior to coming back to pooning.

 

[sdw]

^LOL....if there is one person who would understand what I am talking about it is you! Avoiding the complexities of a relationship and having fun sex is difficult for both genders. Men just have it a bit easier. Unfortunately, you are miles away from where I am situated now and I have heard of your 'largesse' which is a bit difficult for someone my age (although I did surprise myself with the last playmate, but I am sure he was not even close to your size.)

Neighbourhood pubs? That would mean someone in the neighbourhood, who might find out where a person lives and come knocking on the door at some point, unannounced, and creating an awkward situation.

I am not just talking about myself here, I am talking about other women who now have stable lives, and might not want anyone to know about their extracurricular activities...women who now have average jobs, working up the ladder, church on Sundays, like many men on this board. The women I was chatting with all agreed they would gladly pay for a once a month tryst. They were all ex-escorts who didn't want back in the business, but really missed the sex. We worry...use it or lose it...sex makes the hormones flow. We tend to dry out as we age, but sex keeps the juices flowing.

We aren't even that fussy about things like a little beer belly, or a homely guy, or age, or anything other than a good stiff cock and some stamina. When we read the reviews (can't keep from looking lol) and we see the pickiness, and the over analyzing of experiences we just sigh. A day's pay is not a big deal, in our minds, for the opportunity to get some exercise. Hell, we can spend that on a night out for dinner, drinks and a movie.

Also, if it is difficult for an average woman to score, imagine one who is wheelchair bound. There are SPs who specialize in serving the men in this category.

I remember the liberty of the sixties and seventies. What the hell happened? It hasn't gotten easier or more liberating for us. Lately, things have been moving in the opposite direction

You know, there is a reason that "What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas" or - in my case - Greece. When I was much younger and didn't want the "complication" of my sexual partner thinking that it was anything more than sex - - - I went to Greece and sought my "one night stands" with women that came from all over Europe for exactly the same reason. In fact, it was almost de rigueur‎ to seek a partner for the night that didn't speak your language.

Of course, now with the Internet - - - people in different cities are actually closer than we were in the past. It's pretty easy to google someone these days.

However, if you live in Vancouver - maybe you should "Cougar" a bar in New Westminster or Richmond. I used to know a woman who was Bi, in a same sex relationship, that would go to conventions or at least the city where a convention was happening - to hook up with guys for a one night stand.

 

[mimi]

Lady Kay, I have been through the same experience in Vancouver. I have also heard that things, people, are different back east. Dunno why people in Vancouver act like they are visiting their Gramma's house...all on their best behaviour.

another thing about the neighbourhood pub situation is, and I am sure a lot of you guys have figured this out, that you can spend a lot of money sitting there drinking before you realize nothing is going to happen. what a waste of money. You walk in and sit down for a drink, and there are men sitting in various groups, and they look over and do the whole 'mumble mumble' amongst themselves, and then nothing...no approach...how many guys would approach a table of ladies?

If there were something like 'games of darts' or 'ping pong' or 'pool' where you could join a game and get chatting that might be an entry point, but recreational games are few and far between where I am (what the hell is up with that, eh?)

I understand the experience of sdw, and he probably bumped into someone not on her meds....if you are a nice person, say hello, and get that in response the key is to just let it slide off...that is just bizarre, what happened, but I have had grumpy men respond in a not nice way to a simple hello. (I thought he said he wasn't on the make, just saying hello, so he wasn't 'into' her in that way, right?)

I don't think I am a small demographic at all. Whenever I am with a group of gals, at work or having a coffee, this discussion on sex (or lack thereof) comes up and animates us. I know one woman with a super sex drive who has just given up and remains celibate...just her and her vibrator.

and, about vibrators...they haven't yet built a decent replacement for a cock...the texture, the 'give', the suppleness, and the fact that it is attached to a convenient holder make cock a far superior experience. I often wonder, you know, they put a man on the moon, they have all this technology, is there some conspiracy to keep dildos below average?

Anyways, there is such a great menu of tried and true ladies on this and other boards, and it isn't difficult to find someone amenable...I wish they had cocks..lol..now that would be an awesome experience! You guys are lucky, and a little spoiled...you don't know how good you got it!

(btw...reading the disaster reviews, you know, the guy who approaches the sketchy place and still goes through with the call, is like watching the t.v. show where the lone cop goes into the dark warehouse without back-up...you just knooooow something bad is coming...you wanna shout "get the hell out!"...it ain't that hard to figure out when a bad situation is on the horizon..all the little signs are there)

 

[Elle Diablo]

I have found that men are really just shy (go figure) ... so if it's just sex a person is looking for just pick one (wherever) and simply "lay it on the table" :eyebrows: Up front and straight-forward, nothing else works best (prepare yourself for a teeny weeny chance of rejection, not everyone is loose and lusting), but if what a person wants is something sexy and long term (still no strings attached) DANCE LESSONS!!!

I think it's best to meet someone (anyone) while doing something ... hobby, classes, sports, etc. At least then there's a reason other than sex for a connection. Keeps things interesting.


@ mimi ... I totally agree with you with regards to a vibrator as a replacement part for the real thing - NO WAY MAN!