Duration of dates
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He may have been talking about doing a 4 hour session before he had done a 1 hour session with the woman. I know that I have made that mistake. It's even worse if the session is set up so you drive somewhere, eat, have sex and then drive back. You know it's going to be a nightmare when you arrive and can't get away from her fast enough. AND you still have to drive her back. A person that rejects every conversational gambit that you try and refuses to offer a conversational gambit is "plus de travail que de plaisir" to be around.
Me too!Isn't it great to be able to make your own rules like this? I love being self employed!
One of my favourite things about This Thing We Do is how I can conduct my affairs (as it were) without compromising my standards and still have many happy repeat customers.In viewing it a bit more a business/consumer transaction my preference is for 1 hour as I would prefer 4 one hour visits to 1 four hour visit both from a pleasure and economic standpoint. Granted many ladies charge a bit less for hours 3 and 4 than the first two. Even in other hobbies I tend to do them for shorter periods and more frequently.
While I don't spend much time considering paying $250 for an hour of pleasure, the thought of handing over $1000 for 4 hours would leave me wondering about alternative ways to spend the money and get greater value (again based on my personal preferences). Part of it is also tied to the circumstance that I have a lot of good friends to have dinner and social activities with so I am happy to purchase an hour of intimacy but less inclined to pay to chat and cuddle or have dinner.
While I don't spend much time considering paying $250 for an hour of pleasure, the thought of handing over $1000 for 4 hours would leave me wondering about alternative ways to spend the money and get greater value (again based on my personal preferences). Part of it is also tied to the circumstance that I have a lot of good friends to have dinner and social activities with so I am happy to purchase an hour of intimacy but less inclined to pay to chat and cuddle or have dinner.
I 100% agree that no one wants to have bad experiences or waste their money. Considering the number of times I've enjoyed long visits with repeat guests (I have many guests who only book 2 hours), my comment was actually directed at the idea that one person's trash is another's treasure. Also, I feel for those gentlemen who have had their hopes up and then had them dashed, but of course those aren't going to turn into repeat or longer visits ever. What a downer when a long visit turns into a painful monologue.
Anyways, there is a lot of variety around here, on both sides, and that's a wonderful thing...
There are quite a few SPs that are fun to be with. However, many have a set routine or as Harmony BC described it once "I enter my zen zone". So, it doesn't matter how much you enjoyed her in her standard session, you have to figure out if adding "Social Time" is going to improve the session for you.
I've found that quality doesn't come cheap. If you want an SP that is attractive, a great conversationalist (could make a rock laugh) and willing to enjoy whatever it is that the client thought would be entertaining (some women don't like RiverDance) - you have to pay for the right SP.
You are so right. It is wonderful when you meet a beautiful soul and you connect. The one hour turns into two then into a dinner date that turns into a overnight that turns into a weekend. It reminds me of a lady Erika. What a wonderful experience. All the bad ones get removed from memory and we focus on the positive. Expectations are a bitch sometimes the best experiences are when you roll with the times. It get a trill out of watching my SP's eyes light up when we do something that she has not done before. For me it is a blast. But well I am pretty strange. Not your average bear. But I like your comment.
You are so right. It is wonderful when you meet a beautiful soul and you connect. The one hour turns into two then into a dinner date that turns into a overnight that turns into a weekend. It reminds me of a lady Erika. What a wonderful experience. All the bad ones get removed from memory and we focus on the positive. Expectations are a bitch sometimes the best experiences are when you roll with the times. It get a trill out of watching my SP's eyes light up when we do something that she has not done before. For me it is a blast. But well I am pretty strange. Not your average bear. But I like your comment.
I know how you must have felt ... did that for a lady and it was such a thrill. I guess I tried too hard to reciprocate that moment and expectation were so high, things just slowly deteriorated leading to a bad ending. Wish things could have different but time to move on.
^^^ Love this attitude! One of Punt's favourite things about This Thing We Do is appreciating those that aspire to their own high standards. This care and attention does not go unnoticed :clap2:
Yea it always ends in a mess. With a SP it is not as bad compared to real relationships. You just stop paying and you stop playing.
We do stop paying and stop playing but sometimes it still hurts. After all we have feelings, even though we all know it's isn't real.
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Yea I guess you are correct. I hate that about relationships so that is way I pay to play. I have had so many long term relationships with SPs but I do not think they really develop any real feelings for me. I know they come to hate me for what I have exposed them too and because I partake in the hobby. Most see me as evil because of my lifestyle. However I don't think they develop real feelings for guys like me. So not sure what you are referring too?
dickson sweetheart, they cannot hate you for anything you have exposed them to unless you kidnapped them and forced them. and i cant speak fr anybody else but i find you quite charming .....far from evil!
Thank you my dear but you really do not know me other than our dinner date that turned into an over night.
My point is a relationship with a SP is less complicated and it is clear that one pays and one provides a service. It is pretty clear. No matter if it is an hour or a weekend.
