i was just outed publicly....

[MelodyMerlotSask]

fml just when I thought this week couldn't get any worse......a group of women from a moms group were snooping and found my ads, they are now along with my website, online and being ridiculed for all to see.

annnnd they booted me from the mom group so I cant even.....yeah....I don't know what to do.
so not cool. rebuild my website, delete my ads and come back under a new name......because of bitter stay at home moms...and these cunts WILL contact people too.....fml.......inlaws should know in a few hours...

have you ever been outed and how did you deal with itÉ


(sorry my keyboard is French for some reason)

 

[SeductiveCameronDEL]

This is just awful, I am so sorry for you to have to deal with the complete ignorance and bitterness of people with pathetic lives who have nothing better to do. Fuck those bitches.

I haven't been outed in that sense. I was discovered at a previous incall by the building managers, but not really the same thing. If it were to happen to me, I would like to think that I would take the power away from the lowlife/lives who did it, and I would announce it/embrace it as my profession for all the haters to see me being happy with my choices. However, I don't have kids to explain anything to. That definitely puts a more complicated spin on things....

 

[MelodyMerlotSask]

these *women* are pretty horrible actually and have been known to contact family members and employers.
I can see why so many married men chose to see us if all stay at home moms are like that!
they freak out if their hubbys watch pornos for christs sakes.....

 

[MelodyMerlotSask]

everyone on my side knows, its just me eh...but the inlaws....that's another story ......good thing im already filing for divorce....

I was outed years ago, at the time I was devastated, that I as man ladies are living a lie to those so dear to them.

I actually had a straight job too, so I let the business for 5 or 6 months, I got my family back together and discussed the situation, I educated them.
Today they accept what I do and one most of the time supports it 100 percent. I am mom, it does not change who I am. I do what I love and enjoy. My services have changed but I am still me. It is my choice, my close friends and past employers know what I do as well.

Everyone is different, if your family does find out, I suggest think hard on your life, is this what you enjoy, educate them, let them know it does not change who you are. Not everyone is accepting or understand and may never, but it is worth a try.

I am sorry this has happened myself I was heart broken for I hurt my children which are number one in my world. I could careless now for being outed it is out in the open no more hiding and keeping secrets.

I wish you the best in what ever you decide. As for those women who have outed you, just let it go you need to deal with those close to you, which is number one.

 

[mcmjconclusion]

Melody MerlotSask
As long as the people you rely on can handle it then work hard at not caring what the rest think. I know that is easier said than done but keep in mind that for every one of these attackers there is someone who will say it is up to you what you do and no one else.
If this is you then they either get their heads around it and back you up or you have to move ahead without them. In this day and age it should take a lot more than this to send anyone sideways. If you were brave enough to get into the business then you are brave enough to handle a bunch of wacky cranked mothers that don't have anything to do , all day to do it and can't stand to have anyone doing something they don't dare to do .
Look them in the eye and never weaken.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Melody MerlotSask
As long as the people you rely on can handle it then work hard at not caring what the rest think. I know that is easier said than done but keep in mind that for every one of these attackers there is someone who will say it is up to you what you do and no one else.
If this is you then they either get their heads around it and back you up or you have to move ahead without them. In this day and age it should take a lot more than this to send anyone sideways. If you were brave enough to get into the business then you are brave enough to handle a bunch of wacky cranked mothers that don't have anything to do , all day to do it and can't stand to have anyone doing something they don't dare to do .
Look them in the eye and never weaken.

Hear, hear! Sage words and excellent advice.

 

[MelodyMerlotSask]

yes this is pretty much what I am doing, I did delete my account because they are toxic people anyways.

Melody MerlotSask
As long as the people you rely on can handle it then work hard at not caring what the rest think. I know that is easier said than done but keep in mind that for every one of these attackers there is someone who will say it is up to you what you do and no one else.
If this is you then they either get their heads around it and back you up or you have to move ahead without them. In this day and age it should take a lot more than this to send anyone sideways. If you were brave enough to get into the business then you are brave enough to handle a bunch of wacky cranked mothers that don't have anything to do , all day to do it and can't stand to have anyone doing something they don't dare to do .
Look them in the eye and never weaken.

 

[screwu123]

I have to say that I would concentrate on the kids first as if word gets out at school they'll have a tough time unfortunately . (if they're in school)

 

[MelodyMerlotSask]

yes well hopefully they wont stoop that low

I have to say that I would concentrate on the kids first as if word gets out at school they'll have a tough time unfortunately . (if they're in school)

 

[susi]

my suggestion is to admit everything and focus on the safety side of things. make sure they understand that you understand healthy practices .....

also, your inlaws could become an MCFD issue...i have a letter from the deputy minister of MCFD detailing that they DO NOT remove children simply because their parent is a sex worker. their mandate states that they are about keeping families together.

if you find yourself in a situation where mcfd have become involved please let me come with you and advocate on your behalf, or at least let me give you a copy of the letter so you can ensure fair treatment.

also, you can go to the school and make a first strike. tell them about some viscous rumors about you and that while you are a companion, these people are trying to bullying you. we can work on it a bit but you get my drift....

if you go and talk to them first, then you control the conversation. they are not hearing it from a malicious bitch but rather are hearing it from you, with rational explanation, answering questions about safety....

this could work with your inlaws as well....

just gauge your actions and think it through...

if you are sure these women are going to attack you, undermine the sting of their words by making the first move. many people and support systems are now aware of the ways in which sex workers are excluded, discriminated against and treated as second class citizens. they also have mandates to ensure equal treatment of sex workers during interactions so we can hold any haters to account.

i am really sorry this is happening to you but look at it this way, at least you won't waste any more of your time on people who clearly are beneath you and likely discriminate against other visible minorities...i mean what the hell...? she fucken googled your phone number...?

you sex workers are not welcome here...LOOSERS!!!!

love susie

 

[Harmony-bc]

Wow what a horrible evil bunch of women !! I don't understand people that cruel. I'm sorry that happened to you

I was outed by a friend that actually did this line of work but was jealous of me. She told everybody in my family, keyed my car and called the cops to my place because she was fucking my then boyfriend behind my back. She was evil and completely crazy!! It was so much drama, tears and heartbreak. I wouldn't wish that on anybody. That was years ago. Now everybody in my family knows. I'm totally straight up with any lovers I have from the beginning. Some totally accept it. Others accept me and its the elephant in the living room that we never talk about lol. There's a certain amount of freedom that comes with not having to hide. I learned a lot about human nature and I learned not to trust so easily. Some good things actually came out of it. It was hell getting there though. It was the worst year of my life. I had to move from that city before I could start to let go and heal.

 

[susi]

yup being outed/ coming out sucks.....i wish it wasn't like that...i wish they couldn't use it against us....

once you're out though....its life changing...liberating...

 

[Justin. Credible]

Sorry to hear you are having a week from hell...here is song you can dedicate to those evil caddy women from the "Mommy's Club"

 

[steverino]

Good payback would be screwing their husbands and sending photos.

 

[Harmony-bc]

That's a pretty cavalier comment.

Everyone should be able to choose if or when they come out.

No one deserves to be outed.

It's not 'life changing and liberating' in a positive way when it's done to you with malicious intent, against your will, by people who have told you they want to destroy you.

You completely misunderstood her. Susi is a well known sex trade advocate. She is just saying that once you're out and no longer have to hide, after the heart ache is all said and done that it can be liberating. She was replying to my post which is above hers.

 

[MelodyMerlotSask]

Honestly I guess I don't care. I mean I'm married but ...trying to get divorced, if his family found out it would honestly make my life a lot easier.
Because I can't see him standing by me.
It's a lonely path :-/
Thank god I'm a bit of a lone wolf anyways...apparently his coworkers have seen my ads and figured out its me too......which I REALLY don't like.

 

[MelodyMerlotSask]

And now my in laws know.......someone sent a link to my sister in law......

 

[cherise]

And now my in laws know.......someone sent a link to my sister in law......

is it too late to play dumb and insist someone faked the ads to hurt you?

 

[MelodyMerlotSask]

What's the point? Why? Hubby already admitted that it was me

 

[PuntMeister]

I was outed years ago, at the time I was devastated, that I as many ladies are living a lie to those so dear to them.

I actually had a straight job too, so I left the business for 5 or 6 months, I got my family back together and discussed the situation, I educated them.
Today they accept what I do and one, most of the time supports it 100 percent. I am mom, it does not change who I am. I do what I love and enjoy. My services have changed but I am still me. It is my choice, my close friends and past employers know what I do as well.

Everyone is different, if your family does find out, I suggest think hard on your life, is this what you enjoy, educate them, let them know it does not change who you are. Not everyone is accepting or understand and may never, but it is worth a try.

I am sorry this has happened, myself I was heart broken for I hurt my children which are number one in my world. I could careless now for being outed it is out in the open no more hiding and keeping secrets.

I wish you the best in what ever you decide. As for those women who have outed you, just let it go you need to deal with those close to you, which is number one.

Wow, I admire you two. Moving forward proudly in the face of adversity. Very inspirational. I feel for you, but equally pleased to see the goodwill thoughts here. Hugz for You!